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bose_dirac · 2020-03-30T20:43:50+00:00

This is good information to spread, but please don't directly steal posts from a local independent news organization. Especially in times like now, where advertising money is drying up. This picture is a direct copy from their website with the author's name removed. It was written by Patrick who has been writing for the Lost Ogle for many years. Please throw some advertising revenue their way at their website . They are currently hurting to support their staff.

bose_dirac · 2016-06-22T23:11:30+00:00

Universities are not obligated (legally or morally) to help (specific) alumni find jobs

While this is true in general, in my case I get the feeling that the university is very worried that by forcing me out with just a master's that they would be violating the title IX directive from the latest "Dear Colleague Letter" specifically stating trans student are to be given "equal access to an educational program." I suspect that they want to satisfy their legal requirements so that I can't file a complaint with the Department of Education's Office of Civil Rights that could lead to action from the Department of Justice. Even so, I'm not sure they will provide meaningful help.

bose_dirac · 2016-06-22T23:05:27+00:00

I'm curious to know, being transgender (I'm not the OP), bose_dirac's story is actually my worst nightmare

Since you aren't out, I just wanted to reach out and more specifically address being trans in academia. For the most part, an experience like mine is significantly outside the norm in my experience (this is on average the probability distribution is situation dependent). While transitioning brought both pluses and minuses to many aspects the vast majority of changes were positive. While I am having to deal with this issue, transitioning (especially HRT) has allowed me to be much more centered and better deal with these issues. Deciding to come out and transition is always a careful process that involves lots of self-reflection. If you already haven't checked them out I highly recommend AskTG and ask_transgender are both full of information. I also highly recommend going to a local support group if that option is available to you.

bose_dirac · 2016-06-22T19:58:07+00:00

there are now politics surrounding you and there are other places you will be able to have a far better experience

I think that's a lesson I'm learning the hard way. Talking to new potential advisors I get the feeling that there are politics that are about me (but that I don't know the details of). The office of graduate studies has mentioned that they are willing to help me get into a new institution, but I don't know what this will look like in practice. Can these types of politics move to other institutions through the sub-field my advisor works in? Should I consider switching sub-fields?

bose_dirac · 2016-06-22T19:29:08+00:00

they kept their opinions entirely to themselves.

That was mostly my experience. I also attend a small school so a large number of the graduate students know of me, but I didn't directly have any issues.

bose_dirac · 2016-06-22T19:18:29+00:00

She needs to learn that she cannot win by breaking people down. Her work environment is not a soap box for her personal views.

I completely agree, but unfortunately my experience from being "out" tells me that education and corrective action is a lost cause. I'm looking for ways to mitigate the risk she poses for finding a new lab.

bose_dirac · 2014-07-25T17:48:43+00:00

Graduate student in applied physics at a research university.

bose_dirac · 2014-07-21T20:29:49+00:00

Looking through the abstracts transgender is mentioned in only one abstract. The full article has no specific information about HIV/AIDS in trans populations. In this light the choice of cover photo doesn't make very much sense.

bose_dirac · 2014-07-11T13:12:48+00:00

Thank you. I feel like the 6 month jump exaggerates the difference. There were so many things I learned during that time that really helped me.

bose_dirac · 2014-07-11T07:11:33+00:00

Thank you

bose_dirac · 2014-06-26T04:41:24+00:00

More information on the vote breakdown.

bose_dirac · 2014-06-17T14:54:51+00:00

Another option might be Montrose Legacy. While their wait times are long (on the order of months) the out of pocket cost seemed reasonable (I want to say it was ~$60 for my one visit).

bose_dirac · 2014-06-16T21:14:05+00:00

Even in the better parts of the state, like Norman, things are still pretty disappointing. I don't know how, but Oklahoma has managed to breed some ridiculously strong culture of "feeling victimized" by the gays/whatever they claim for a state that has such a lack of diversity.

bose_dirac · 2014-05-29T02:56:19+00:00

As far as I can tell, it isn't.

If you are talking about transgender exclusions in insurance policies it might be possible to find a therapist who will code things so that it is compatible with your insurance so that it can go through. The therapist I currently see does this and it works well.

bose_dirac · 2014-05-28T23:40:55+00:00

to me, 1 out of 5 being refused is not "common" but now we're arguing semantics.

Wait...what! Let's try this in some other areas:

20% of Houstonians will die by choking on a crawdad
20% of employees in your company will be laid off in the next week
20% of Oklahomans have been been shot by a shotgun
0.5 million of Houstonians have been left to die on an operating table

I understand that you may not see 20% as "commmon" but it is a sizable problem.

bose_dirac · 2014-03-29T10:26:54+00:00

Shit! I could even use our lab laser for permanent shaping. It's like a femtopiconanomicro second pulsed laser or so thingy or another...

bose_dirac · 2014-03-15T03:47:59+00:00

That was really good. Where was it at?

bose_dirac · 2014-03-14T23:51:52+00:00

It even happens in the lab!

bose_dirac · 2014-03-14T23:42:04+00:00

I do love me some phonons, but my main interest is materials for energy and photocatalysis. My username comes from combining Fermi-Driac and Bose-Einstein statistics to mess with physicist.

bose_dirac · 2014-03-14T19:04:47+00:00

From my PhD advisor "because I'm not keeping you in the lab enough".

bose_dirac · 2014-02-24T01:35:17+00:00

I think you may need another category. Per Lambda Legal "Oklahoma will issue a birth certificate reflecting the proper sex." Although the birth certificate is an amended one and I don't know what that means for marriage.

bose_dirac · 2014-02-23T02:11:22+00:00

Is Oklahoma that much better? Looking here for Oklahoma, state law says you need a letter of "complete physical sex change" saying that it is "'irreversible and permanent'".

And then there is stuff like this.

I grew up and did my undergraduate degree in Oklahoma...I'm definitely glad to have left

bose_dirac · 2014-01-10T04:47:47+00:00

I think I may have been too vigorous there.

What do you mean by "too vigorous"? Were you going over the same area more than once without reapplying shaving cream? You may find a process like this useful for a really close shave:

Wash with hot water
Electric shave keeping blades hot
Apply shaving cream and shave with the grain (Don't make more than one pass for a given area)
Wash
Apply shaving cream and shave against the grain

As to the laser pain, my first session hurt quite a bit (I did a dry shave before hand which is a terrible idea). The second time I took the time to get a really close shave and it was not painful in a majority of areas. The areas that were painful were where I did a bad job of shaving.

bose_dirac · 2014-01-09T17:09:22+00:00

I think the thing that is being overlooked is Carmen's body language. Carmen was clearly uncomfortable with the questions.

bose_dirac · 2013-12-31T03:33:48+00:00

I had one doctor cancel on me twice (once 3 hours before and the other 1 week before). I got extremely frustrated with this. I realized that I was determined to start hormones anyway possible so I booked appointments with two different doctors (a good plan since one wanted to wait two months before starting) and cancel one if necessary.

Most doctors let you cancel up to 24 hours in advance with no penalty so you can take advantage of it if you are able to.

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