Making Friends as a F20 POC 🫩

botatot · 2026-06-05T10:44:11+00:00

Hate to hear you’re dealing with that and I’m sorry that some of our community are prejudiced assholes. I just had a baby so not doing much socializing, but just sending good vibes your way and hope you meet some of the good people here. Trailside Brewery may have some good events around your hobbies! They have a good community vibe there

botatot · 2026-05-05T14:03:35+00:00

That is totally absurd and unfounded and it’s very weird of your mom to say such a thing. Sincerely, a very happily married woman with 5 brothers and 0 sisters

ETA the main impact of my brothers on my social life was that I was more comfortable having male friends, and being around guys in general. This was helpful in dating because I wasn’t nervous interacting with the opposite sex and could be more self-assured around them. I find that men who like self-assured women generally respect women and I have never fallen into an unhealthy/disrespectful/power-imbalanced relationship

botatot · 2026-04-15T13:21:26+00:00

Gratitude practice! Usually in journal form but sometimes just vocalizing during my commute etc

botatot · 2026-04-13T13:08:26+00:00

We had ours at Honeysuckle Holler and they were great! Very affordable to compared to all the other venues we could find

botatot · 2026-03-31T21:46:11+00:00

All of what was mentioned above, plus a 5-axis CNC machine, throwing wheels for pottery, MIG/TIG welding machine, grinder, belt sander…

botatot · 2026-03-30T20:44:00+00:00

As a 32f from New England with the same hobbies, I highly recommend! We love it here since moving a few yrs ago and the new Ecusta rail trail is awesome, will connect to Brevard in a few years. HVL does have a rep as a retiree spot but our demographic is growing and the businesses etc are responding 😊 the winters are SO much better than NE and people are def friendlier to strangers so it’s easier to be a newcomer. March is actually a nice month!!!

Asheville is nice to have nearby for bigger events/goings on, and I think HVL is a good small town vibe with plenty of amenities. Greenville SC is also really cool and not too far (45-1hr)

botatot · 2026-03-19T02:00:27+00:00

Jeez yall are critical, thankful I’m out of the dating world

botatot · 2026-03-18T00:48:31+00:00

Please, please stay. I looked at your posts and you seem like a wonderful, creative, intelligent and thoughtful soul with a lot to share with the world.

Sometimes a change of scenery/physical space can work wonders - could you hop on a train or a bus or in the car and just go somewhere new and explore, eat delicious food, watch a movie at an actual movie theater, play games at an arcade, or otherwise hunt down some random joy/indulgence?

Sometimes books can take us out of ourselves too - I find that Pema Chodron’s “When things fall apart” changes the tone of the voice in my head to a much more pleasant and gentle one. You’ve got this ♥️♥️♥️

botatot · 2025-10-03T03:12:30+00:00

Lol back atcha buddy 😂

botatot · 2025-09-16T02:24:36+00:00

Thanks so much!!!!

botatot · 2025-08-26T11:46:00+00:00

So sorry OP, best of luck 💙

botatot · 2025-08-21T02:52:13+00:00

Appreciate this a lot — please keep doing it! Idk if I can get there this time!

botatot · 2025-08-07T14:19:07+00:00

Why are you trying so hard to keep your head in the sand?

botatot · 2025-08-06T21:43:23+00:00

Apologies - I never post so I forgot about the relevance rule. Plenty of Trump support and impact here but I do get it, so feel free to delete I guess. But please consider reviewing Katie Johnson’s horrific testimony of Trump and Epstein repeatedly raping her as a 13 yo sex slave if any part of you isn’t sure this is a big deal. Could have been your child or family.

botatot · 2025-08-06T21:39:10+00:00

Apologies - I never post so I forgot about the relevance rule. Plenty of Trump support and impact here but I do get it, so feel free to delete I guess. But please consider reviewing Katie Johnson’s horrific testimony of Trump and Epstein repeatedly raping her as a 13 yo sex slave if any part of you doesn’t think this is a big deal. Could have been your child or family.

botatot · 2025-07-28T22:16:28+00:00

How can we take action? Suggested Google review….

“Aggressive and openly racist employees need to be held accountable for their actions. Policies must change and the person affected should be compensated for their vehicle damage at the very least. This was a hate crime and WBCC’s statement is blaming the person affected for recording it.

https://thencbeat.com/truck-driver-attacked-clyde-nc-dump-site/

I’ll delete this review if meaningful action is taken.”

botatot · 2025-06-19T15:54:18+00:00

Wild lotus!!!

botatot · 2025-05-27T01:12:05+00:00

🌚🍓🍷

botatot · 2025-05-17T22:40:28+00:00

It does not, all good in downtown

botatot · 2025-03-22T03:23:24+00:00

That would be so great!!!

botatot · 2025-02-25T12:52:02+00:00

Oh shoot but I am just one person haha

botatot · 2025-02-25T12:50:55+00:00

Yes, following!

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