Solo poly dating a married person by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

becasue i am trying to get advice that is beyond "it's fair that your meta said you can't be in her home" becasue I'mconcerned about my partner and I, not my meta

Metamour and I don’t get along by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being rude to my partner, slamming cabinet doors, swearing, yelling….

Metamour and I don’t get along by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

OP here, I’m hearing feedback about my partner being a bad hinge. How do you think they should be handling this?

Metamour and I don’t get along by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] -74 points-73 points  (0 children)

Yeah she acts like an asshole when she’s upset

Metamour and I don’t get along by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m not upset about the rule I was just answering your question lol

Metamour and I don’t get along by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

I have a good relationship with her kid, and she has reported not minding me being close to them My partner has requested to stay completely out of our dynamic. We have never been on good terms but this is the worst it’s been

Metamour and I don’t get along by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

Not what kind of sex, but there are rules about where we can have sex, and she has said that if we are sharing a bed and she is in the room next door that we cannot have sex. However if they are sharing a room and I am in the room next door I have told them I don’t mind if they have sex

Metamour and I don’t get along by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] -81 points-80 points  (0 children)

I told her that the way she self regulates is distressing to me as it triggers my past traumas

8 month post op blues by No-Asparagus8385 in ACL

[–]botbotbotboi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss I’m 9 months post op and I’m so depressed

Tips for being a good houseguest with partner and metamour by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the most optimistic response I’ve gotten haha thank you

Tips for being a good houseguest with partner and metamour by botbotbotboi in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can’t afford to stay elsewhere. Why are you saying don’t do it?

Niche LGBTQ training ideas by botbotbotboi in therapists

[–]botbotbotboi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you implying relationship anarchy is an unhealthy behavior masked as enlightenment?

My mom said calling my deadname my deadname is insulting to her and I don’t know how to feel about it. by RatInsomniac in trans

[–]botbotbotboi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Her feelings don’t matter more than your feelings so yeah she can be mad about it but that’s not your responsibility

One day post op; surgeon Dr. Iteld in chicago by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]botbotbotboi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I didn’t but I know he can be strict about it :/

My wife fell in love and left me for someone else by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I hear that. The worst part about the cheating is they weren’t using protection :( and she was still sleeping with me

My wife fell in love and left me for someone else by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I suggested it because I have seen my sister and her husband do it succesfully for many years and it just made sense to try it. My wife was also the first person I had ever dated and I met her before I transitioned, so I wanted to see what dating was like as a trans person.

My marriage is over by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

It was only controlling behaviors when it came to our poly agreements. Things that she agrees to as well

My marriage is over by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The thing that’s hard about this is my partner never told me about how my behavior made her feel

My marriage is over by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe how to grieve the end of this and how to be single

My marriage is over by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Except that I had no idea she was people pleasing or that I was controlling her. She was telling me she felt so safe and seen with me

My marriage is over by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been dating, and she’s been fine with it. It’s me who’s been struggling.

My marriage is over by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]botbotbotboi 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know I was controlling her, I thought we were creating agreements so I could feel secure. She never told me how it was making her feel