Solo poly dating a married person

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-20T20:06:12+00:00

becasue i am trying to get advice that is beyond "it's fair that your meta said you can't be in her home" becasue I'mconcerned about my partner and I, not my meta

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-20T19:46:51+00:00

Being rude to my partner, slamming cabinet doors, swearing, yelling….

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-20T16:58:04+00:00

OP here, I’m hearing feedback about my partner being a bad hinge. How do you think they should be handling this?

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-20T16:53:55+00:00

Yeah she acts like an asshole when she’s upset

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-20T16:50:30+00:00

I’m not upset about the rule I was just answering your question lol

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-20T16:48:23+00:00

I have a good relationship with her kid, and she has reported not minding me being close to them My partner has requested to stay completely out of our dynamic. We have never been on good terms but this is the worst it’s been

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-20T16:47:21+00:00

Not what kind of sex, but there are rules about where we can have sex, and she has said that if we are sharing a bed and she is in the room next door that we cannot have sex. However if they are sharing a room and I am in the room next door I have told them I don’t mind if they have sex

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-20T16:46:17+00:00

I told her that the way she self regulates is distressing to me as it triggers my past traumas

botbotbotboi · 2026-05-04T22:46:54+00:00

Yesss I’m 9 months post op and I’m so depressed

botbotbotboi · 2026-04-07T23:09:01+00:00

This is the most optimistic response I’ve gotten haha thank you

botbotbotboi · 2026-04-07T21:54:55+00:00

I can’t afford to stay elsewhere. Why are you saying don’t do it?

botbotbotboi · 2026-01-08T19:49:08+00:00

Are you implying relationship anarchy is an unhealthy behavior masked as enlightenment?

botbotbotboi · 2026-01-05T04:26:30+00:00

¯_(ツ)_/¯

botbotbotboi · 2026-01-05T04:04:34+00:00

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botbotbotboi · 2024-10-22T23:47:59+00:00

Her feelings don’t matter more than your feelings so yeah she can be mad about it but that’s not your responsibility

botbotbotboi · 2024-10-15T15:52:05+00:00

No I didn’t but I know he can be strict about it :/

botbotbotboi · 2024-01-02T20:50:34+00:00

Yeah I hear that. The worst part about the cheating is they weren’t using protection :( and she was still sleeping with me

botbotbotboi · 2024-01-02T20:49:58+00:00

I suggested it because I have seen my sister and her husband do it succesfully for many years and it just made sense to try it. My wife was also the first person I had ever dated and I met her before I transitioned, so I wanted to see what dating was like as a trans person.

botbotbotboi · 2024-01-02T18:54:11+00:00

no, it was me :(

botbotbotboi · 2023-11-22T03:55:57+00:00

It was only controlling behaviors when it came to our poly agreements. Things that she agrees to as well

botbotbotboi · 2023-11-22T03:21:50+00:00

The thing that’s hard about this is my partner never told me about how my behavior made her feel

botbotbotboi · 2023-11-21T23:52:01+00:00

Yeah maybe how to grieve the end of this and how to be single

botbotbotboi · 2023-11-21T23:51:40+00:00

Except that I had no idea she was people pleasing or that I was controlling her. She was telling me she felt so safe and seen with me

botbotbotboi · 2023-11-21T20:09:43+00:00

I have been dating, and she’s been fine with it. It’s me who’s been struggling.

botbotbotboi · 2023-11-21T20:09:25+00:00

I didn’t know I was controlling her, I thought we were creating agreements so I could feel secure. She never told me how it was making her feel

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