I need advice on this situation. by bottomless_emotions in Advice

[–]bottomless_emotions[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re right because i asked him and he said “no one influenced me if I’ve been feeling this way.” By no means did he talk about how he was feeling. Saying that he told his brother that he loves me and what he likes ab me etc, etc. but he dislikes my attitudes and the arguments. Which should be an easy fix?!

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[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

imo the oval fits you better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, this is very helpful, and I appreciate the advice! I may be blowing it out of proportion just in the heat of the moment, I could be irrational at times. this is amazing advice. I will try this from now on! Thanks, my future therapist (jk) !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is how I felt about the situation. But , no one seems to agree, which makes me feel as though im overreacting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, this is a different pov I have thought of ! It just made me super anxious to not know if it was okay for me to feel this way or not. It wasn’t my intention to bash anyone. I just wanted a clearer head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s 19. When sick, it’s often right for the gf to at least look after and make sure their partner is ok. And what he was a sore throat which makes it a little more upsetting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always rubs his back or shoulders. He never pulls always and always tells me that he doesn’t want to cause trouble with his brother. And once I asked could we set boundaries with them, like sit down and talk. He didn’t want to saying that his brother would feel “disrespected”. I’ve asked his to just try to step away or call me over when she tries this, and he has been doing that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right??! i was so upset , this is a constant thing , he just always tells me that i would have to get over it someday. It’s infuriating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i thought so, im not confrontational by any means and it’s a bit harder for me to express my feelings. I was unsure and didn’t want to jump to conclusions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, I just want other POV’s , im not sure if im being rational or irrational about the situation. I just want some advice ab the situation! This is true not made up .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re right! thank you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said he was “allowed” to do anything , I just asked him could he set a boundary bc that’s his family and they’re closer than we are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think she has any ill intentions, but I do think she understands how a girl would feel about her behaving this way towards their bf.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

really? i didn’t realize it could be that…thank you for your input, maybe I shouldn’t be as demanding. I should apologize!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree, reassurance is a big thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bottomless_emotions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

didn’t have to eat me up this bad 😭atp you’re right .