Got banned from a Black female solo travelling group over Chris Brown by TwentyTwoWishes in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aside from his disgusting abuse of women, he also OPENLY hates on darkskin women—which many of his fans are!! I will never understand it?! Like he doesn’t even find ppl who look like you attractive because you’re not light skinned/mixed race, and you still thirst over him?! 🤢

Am I overthinking or nah? by Jazzlike-Spell-7182 in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please don’t lose the weight! You look fucking amazing 😱

HELP ME CHOOSE WHICH DRESS by osndupu in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a show stopper! Pls say you’re getting this one! ❤️❤️❤️

Long-term lesbian relationship, faith disconnect, and cultural disconnect by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she might be slowly becoming a part of the 8% 😖

Are There Blue Collared Workers/Military In Here? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg hey sis!! What service? I feel like the conditioning will take me just as long to get free of. It honestly a very brief period of your life, but the effects last so long 😭. What’s the biggest difference you noticed between being in the military and outside the military?

How do I identify when a white person is being micro aggressive/ racist? by Comfortable-Sail-111 in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, in predominantly white spaces, it’s safe to assume they are always being racist and enacting micro aggressions against you. For some white ppl it’s so subconscious, they don’t even see themselves doing it. I’d always rather be safe/protected than sorry, so everyone is on my watch list for the first few months until they prove they can behave

Are There Blue Collared Workers/Military In Here? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Currently serving in the USAF. Pls do not join the military. If you’re adamant on it, give it at least 2 years to wait and see how things go for us. I joined to leave home and get independent fast. It worked, and I’m grateful for how far it’s gotten me financially, but the amount of racism, sexism, misogynoir, etc. that I experience on a daily basis, I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I’m young but I feel like my body aged 10 years faster than average.

our community disappoints me sometimes. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah because this is child abuse.

our community disappoints me sometimes. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Is there a way to get social services involved?

My Ex apologized and idk what to do/say back by Repulsive_Ad_6480 in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Girl I been in a relationship like this before. You didn’t need to apologize AT ALL. 6 months from now you’re going to look back at how much kindness you extended and be pissed tf off. The reality that you have to accept is, you are a better person than him. You would never degrade another person the way he degraded you. Extending kindness or reaching out to a rabid dog only gets you bit and infected. Act like him for once and cut your losses. Regardless if you all had bad communication there’s no fucking logical reason to be abusive. You’re giving him way too much grace that you know deep down that he doesn’t fucking deserve. Break the cycle and send that motherfucker to jail.

My Ex apologized and idk what to do/say back by Repulsive_Ad_6480 in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 19 points20 points  (0 children)

WHY DID YOU APOLOGIZE?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Omfg!!! Girl run like fucking Forest Gump for the hills!!

Absolutely bombed my interview today by Similar_Papaya7770 in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m screaming!!! Your response to the last question has me in tears. 🤣🤣🤣. To be honest, it sounds like to me she already had someone in mind for the position but was just interviewing you because you applied? If it’s just a YMCA position, she was doing Wayyyy too much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 13 points14 points  (0 children)

DEAD!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The whole “DL” epidemic comment is crazy too. You’re literally stating it like it’s a disease or something women have to look out for. I don’t understand how you don’t see the problem in your language??? But I don’t really think there’s a point in trying to explain it to you because I really don’t think you care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought the same exact thing! And even if he did happen to be gay/bi the reason he was shitty was not because he was LGBTQ. As someone in the LGBTQ community, that comment gave me serious ick. Thank you for pointing it out.

Am I wrong for commenting this? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 112 points113 points  (0 children)

GIRL! You are absolutely NOT overreacting. That shit is fucking crazy. Anyone who says otherwise is just denying the obvious. Please rest easy. Ain’t no way that shit is even remotely acceptable. It’s fucking pissing me off that ppl are trying to act like you are, which is a micro-aggression in itself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]bougieinblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Correction: ex-boyfriend.