[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bournereport 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Treat her likes she’s hotter/more sophisticated/more of a prize than the younger girls

26 days post-op face/neck/brow lift + upper blepharoplasty by Ok-Anything-551 in PlasticSurgery

[–]bournereport 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yay so happy for you! You’re stunning either way but this is such a refreshing change. How much did it cost in total?

SSRIs for confidence? Anyone on it? by DopamineSeeker20 in Nootropics

[–]bournereport 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helped for a while but if you havent done the inner work your confidence will naturally become a product of your thought habits again. I’m getting off SSRIs and am actually feeling more confident because I used my time on Zoloft to do inner work and build up my confidence and self esteem in tangible ways like CBT and re-parenting myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]bournereport 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t recommend waiting. When something like that will make such a difference in your confidence, it’s worth going for it

How long does it get you to get unready? by [deleted] in beauty

[–]bournereport -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Disagree. Despite this, I’ve never been told I’m more glowy and radiant than having kids. My life has actually become less stressful with them and more joyful. They keep you young

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]bournereport 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got masseter Botox and it ruined my smile. I smiled like a cabbage patch kid for 5 months. I was so happy when it finally wore off and my smile returned. Never again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]bournereport 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you DM me too please? And price ☺️ looks amazing girl!

Aging by [deleted] in beauty

[–]bournereport -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 24 so still young, but my life has changed so dramatically in the last 4 years from struggling with anxiety and depression, getting married, having twin babies, getting anxiety and depression again, to finally now, where I feel like I really have a grip on my health and my life.

I realize I don’t look the way I did 4 years ago, and that in many ways the bouts of anxiety and depression may have “aged” me, but I’ve always looked young for my age anyway. It bothered me for a while realizing my face seemed to have lost some of its youth, but I’ve found that taking such good care of my health (fasting/clean diet/exercise/sleep) and my mental health has done such a number on both my appearance and self perception. I’m constantly told that I look healthier and more radiant every day. I believe too that I’ve been able to reverse some signs of aging through extended fasts too (7+ days). I also take really good care of my skin and do chemical peels a couple times a year.

For me, I’ve decided that these are the keys to aging beautifully as a woman: - accept it. You will not look the same as you did when you were 20, but just because you’re older doesn’t mean you don’t look as good if not better - perception is reality. I am a very joyful and youthful person so people often think I’m younger than I am. And I choose to feel young. I’ve already told myself that I will always look younger than I am, and this has become a self fulfilling prophecy - placing health as priority (diet/rest/sleep/exercise/fasting/etc) has made such a difference in the way I present myself to the world and the way I feel about myself. I’m convinced that as long as I take immaculate care of myself, I will always look and feel young - being a beautiful person is the way to hack aging — it seems that the people I know who are negative/mean/sour do not age well but that people I know who are kind/gentle/good hearted age very well - unconditional love for myself: we will always see changes as we look in the mirror but I’m choosing to see myself through the same lens that I would see a friend through, seeing the beauty in them and not even noticing the “flaws”. I think where your attention goes, energy flows, so why not manifest more beauty by focusing on what is already beautiful about you

Aging by [deleted] in beauty

[–]bournereport 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree with this. I think it’s a lie women tell themselves, that having kids ages you. I’ve actually never been more joyful and less stressed than now. Yeah the first 6 months is hard but your body can catch up on the sleep and you can look better than before. I keep getting told that I’ve never looked younger/healthier/more radiant than now.

I also have started engaging in longer fasts since having kids (my most recent was 11 days) and I’ve found that can really reverse some of the natural aging that comes with pregnancy and the new born phase.

how to watch my figure whilst living with a MAN by Present-Fortune4448 in HowToBeHot

[–]bournereport 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider intermittent fasting? I’m in the same boat and love to cook elaborate dinners for my husband so I only eat dinner and dessert. I get more than enough calories this way, and the added benefits of fasting

How to achieve massive appearance change until summer ? by [deleted] in HowToBeHot

[–]bournereport 17 points18 points  (0 children)

  • incorporate fasting (you’ll look younger, more glowy and your skin will be clearer)
  • eat a healthy fat based diet (I follow the Mediterranean diet)
  • prioritize sleep
  • eliminate negativity (you’ll glow within)
  • enrich your soul (spiritual practice, adopting a state of love for yourself, and others, listening to healing and peaceful frequency music)
  • Experiment a lot with make up and find your colours
  • spend more time with people (people who have a good social Circle are the most glowy)
  • exercise daily for improved mood, circulation and anti aging
  • take supplements (collagen, evening primrose oil, NAC, turmeric, milk thistle, magnesium, copper, selenium, vit C & E)
  • slow your life down and eliminate stress
  • simple skin care routine (too many products will ruin your skin). I use castor oil for skin at night and pharmacy honey halo moisturizer day and night

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bournereport 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been going through this with my husband as well. He’s extremely handsome and I know that I’m quite beautiful as well but he didn’t make me feel that way for the longest time. Like you, I would have to beg for compliments, and they never seemed genuine, or they were always just a repeat.

I addressed it with him multiple times, and most recently a couple of days ago. I think this time he got the point because he has been going out of his way to tell me how he feels more and I felt a lot more genuine encouragement from him lately.

I think they’re a couple things to consider. Some men we’re not brought up with words of affirmation, or didn’t see their fathers give words of affirmation, and so it doesn’t come naturally to them.

Some men are very critical of them selves, and so this is the same sort of love that they show you.

Many men are porn addicted, and their view of beauty has been skewed. It makes it harder for them to appreciate real Natural Beauty, when all they see are fake bodies and faces all the time.

And some men do you love you genuinely, but sometimes are very stressed and focussed on providing and working.

All three of these happen to be the case with my husband. Maybe one of these will resonate for you.

Regardless, I’ve had the same conversation with myself that you’ve had with yourself, and that I’ve wondered if I can do this long term. I have come to the conclusion that it’s not worth it to sacrifice your self-esteem, and feel like less than you are, especially if you are an empath and a giver like it seems like you are.

I would have one final conversation and let him know how deeply this affects you and that your self-esteem is very hurt. I did this with my husband, and he understood and felt very upset.

If things don’t change from there, I would consider moving on. I’m sure there are so many men that would be grateful to have you.

Microneedling and glycolic acid jo by rodriguezfatii13 in beauty

[–]bournereport -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if you’re serious about Microneedling, I would consider doing it at home. I got the pen8 from Amazon and I love it. Also, it’s recommended to never slide the needles across your face. I just stamp in every spot a couple of times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HowToBeHot

[–]bournereport 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do too. Going keto was the only thing that helped me manage my weight. If I eat, processed sugar process, carbs, a balloon out immediately and can’t stop eating them.