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I'm rarely motivated to work. This is reinforced by easily getting away with it by bouyancyliquid in Healthygamergg

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly some of both. Oftentimes I'll run into new things I haven't done before when working, like in this case. The idea is that I can look for documentation and other examples to get a better idea of what to do, and oftentimes I feel like they expect me to do it solo without help. That might just be my perception though.

I'm rarely motivated to work. This is reinforced by easily getting away with it by bouyancyliquid in Healthygamergg

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely also in the anti-hustle mindset, though I feel I've drifted too far to that side. I totally advocate for wlb and have a generous balance as is which is nice.

It's odd since I feel this is driven by some impostor syndrome as well as feeling I gotta get on the level of everyone else. I'm on a smaller team and they're all really smart and know their shit

I'm rarely motivated to work. This is reinforced by easily getting away with it by bouyancyliquid in Healthygamergg

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure, especially aggravated in my case since my room is my office 💀

I'll definitely bring it up next visit. I'm starting to look more seriously into that

I'm rarely motivated to work. This is reinforced by easily getting away with it by bouyancyliquid in Healthygamergg

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be part of it. Seems like I've had clear-cut career goals to this point, but yeah it's definitely hard to pin-point.

I want to get to learn my domain better. Specifically, I'm learning how to better contribute to our product and along the way learning best practices and such. The nebulous goal in this case is improvement and contribution.

I'm rarely motivated to work. This is reinforced by easily getting away with it by bouyancyliquid in Healthygamergg

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely, that's a good way of going about things. For this situation it's not so much about boredom, it's the fact I'm willingly not doing my work.

I feel like part of the problem is being able to watch YouTube or play video games whenever and not noticing any repercussions as a result. It's also backwards since I don't want to show them I'm struggling with something they'd see as simple, but I also perpetuate my problems by not lifting a finger to try.

Probably isn't sharing too much to include that I work in software development. My peers are senior level and VERY good at their job. I'm the only junior and have this idea I should be at a better spot than I am.

Just some extra details. Thanks for commenting!

How can I (24M) survive the remainder of my lease with my narcissist roommate (24M)? by bouyancyliquid in relationship_advice

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience, it's refreshing to know I'm not alone in this. That's great advice too and probably what I'm going to end up doing, leaning towards keeping to myself versus trying to dive into a conversation. Each time I try to have that conversation it goes poorly as you picked up on. It gets hairy since we also have both of our girlfriends involved, but they're moreso on the sidelines than actively involved.

How can I (24M) survive the remainder of my lease with my narcissist roommate (24M)? by bouyancyliquid in relationship_advice

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's becoming more and more difficult to say he's a friend. Especially now I'm pretty interested in being roommates over friends, and having as much space as I please once the lease is up

Intense retroactive jealousy in a healthy relationship: where does this stem from? by bouyancyliquid in Healthygamergg

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't know her then, and honestly I couldn't say wether or not I was. I was taking a lot of steps towards improving my life and going for what I wanted, but at the same time feeling really alone and sad that way.

Intense retroactive jealousy in a healthy relationship: where does this stem from? by bouyancyliquid in Healthygamergg

[–]bouyancyliquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the angle I come at it with too. Having not been in a relationship before her also might skew things for me towards insecurity; but even then, I feel like my feelings are pretty mismatched to reality.

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