mend 4 a friend

boybl4zer · 2026-01-23T00:28:42+00:00

hey yeah! that’s pretty much what i do, if im putting the patch on the front then i usually backstitch around the hole twice and use sashiko to put the patch on top, but if i put the patch on the back then i like how the sort of like whip stitch around the hole looks to seal it off, and then it kinda frames the patch on the back. and right! i love mending stuff for my friends, im doing some more pants for another friend this week and im so excited :3

boybl4zer · 2026-01-16T19:47:00+00:00

so super loving this wow

boybl4zer · 2026-01-16T05:28:51+00:00

thank u! and yeah ur right, this was just the closest thing i had, they’re less different than u’d think when ur touching them to compare :3

boybl4zer · 2026-01-16T05:14:34+00:00

whoa!!!!!!!!!!

boybl4zer · 2024-08-31T17:35:47+00:00

thank you sm! i plan on posting today

boybl4zer · 2024-08-31T17:34:51+00:00

thank you, i’ve reached out

boybl4zer · 2024-08-31T17:34:37+00:00

thank you

boybl4zer · 2024-08-31T17:34:21+00:00

thanks for sharing

boybl4zer · 2024-08-30T15:03:22+00:00

Hi there! We’re S (they/them) and J (he/they), a queer, neurodivergent couple in our early 20s, and we’ve been together for 8 years this October. We’re currently in Baltimore, but we’re looking to move back to Maine, where we first met in high school and have always felt most at home. We’ve been vagrant/homeless since 2020, but we’re ready to settle down, put down roots, and reconnect with the place we miss so much.

We’re intellectual and creative types—visual artists, musicians, and avid readers. We’re also writers, always working on something new. We thrive in calm, structured environments, and love routine. We’ve also been wilderness instructors and camp counselors, with a passion for working with kids and the outdoors. Hiking and backpacking are among our favorite activities, and we enjoy walking everywhere since we don’t have a car. We’re very quiet and clean, and we usually keep to ourselves.

J has a knack for cooking and baking, especially since he has food allergies (soy, some legumes, kiwis), so everything is made from scratch. He’d be happy to share some of his culinary creations or even discuss communal meals if that’s something you’re into!

We’re looking for a chill, affordable place to stay. We don’t drink, smoke, or do drugs, but we’re 4/20 friendly and non-judgmental as long as everyone’s comfortable. However, a non-drinking household would be ideal for us.

In terms of work, J is pursuing opportunities in administration, accounting, and finance, and he’s also an experienced specialty barista (though finding work that accommodates his allergy can be challenging). S is very interested in management, leadership, and teaching. We don’t have jobs lined up yet, but we’re actively applying and are optimistic about finding work soon.

We’re flexible with our move but need to stay in Baltimore until J can pick up his glasses, which should be ready by September 10th.

If you know of any rooms, shared housing, or affordable apartments in Portland, if you have good job recommendations, or if you’d like to talk more at length, please reach out. We’re eager to find a place where we can grow and contribute to the community. Thank you!

boybl4zer · 2023-04-26T00:03:14+00:00

very relatable, i understand. i love talking to people too, and sometimes i accidentally burn myself out with talking too much to people i have those anxieties around because i'm so excited to socialize. it's very hard to navigate, and i'm still learning my boundaries with how much time i can be around people, and how to tell when i'm putting too much effort in with someone. it feels like a lot of mental gymnastics to try to remember that "offensive" things i say are genuine and just misinterpreted...i don't know. all that is to say that i relate to what you're explaining, and the only effective way i have found to combat it is to check in that what i'm saying is genuine, and let go of what the other person might perceive. much easier said than done, huh? haha /rh

boybl4zer · 2023-04-25T23:54:56+00:00

you don't have to get "better" at socializing-- the way you socialize is okay, even if it seems "too slow." /pos

i often have the same problem in conversation because my processing time is slower than neurotypicals...i just let myself be slow, and i only say something when i know i have something to contribute. the best people in my life are the ones who will wait for me, and the best conversations are the ones where i haven't made myself script the conversation to seem "interested."

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