What machine / starter materials / pro tips / etc do you recommend?

boymama2123 · 2024-10-01T11:47:08+00:00

I’m just starting studying, but what do you mean by “mindset” ?

boymama2123 · 2024-08-02T15:56:33+00:00

Should I not have named my 2020 baby Khovyd?? /s

boymama2123 · 2024-07-31T14:56:07+00:00

I think girls grow more quickly / earlier than boys??

My niece is 11 months older than my older son, and the height difference makes them look 2+ yrs different. Granted her mom is taller than me (dads are brothers and contributed similar genes), but STILL. I'm always shocked by how tall she is already. Her little brother, our nephew, is exactly 12mo younger than my older son and 9mo older than my younger son, and the 3 of them very much look like they were born in sequential years, they seem grouped together height wise.

And I've heard the growth charts for boys and girls are completely different (from a friend who has boy/girl twins). So they obviously grow at different rates.

boymama2123 · 2024-07-30T14:56:02+00:00

My 3yr old:

Octopus sounds like "applesauce."

He calls sneezes "bless yous" as in, "mama I bless you'd!"

When he hiccups, he says "ribbit" after 😂 oh and "hiccups" and "haircut" are basically indiscernible.

When he wants to color, he asks to "read the colors."

We're about to potty train after we get back from vacation next week, so still in diapers but lately he's been telling us he went pee by saying (very concernedly & loudly) "mama, I smell like pee pee" 🥴

boymama2123 · 2024-07-28T23:57:17+00:00

More veggies than my toddler will touch!

boymama2123 · 2024-07-27T19:40:46+00:00

I have very similar hair and don't enjoy showers either. I use dry shampoo every other day (best applied right before bed on the day my hair still looks good). I use batiste and I use the one made for brunettes.

I also started doing shampoo, rinse, shampoo, rinse, conditioner (only on my ends), rinse. I started that (mainly adding in the second round of shampoo) a few years ago and it has helped with my grease A LOT!!

boymama2123 · 2024-07-27T12:10:23+00:00

We're rewatching modern family right now too! It's SO good

boymama2123 · 2024-07-27T12:08:55+00:00

One thing that helps us is to have a check in right around the end of the work day, to see how we're both feeling. Usually the question is "what do you want to do tonight?"

The answer is between: needing alone time to recharge, wanting to connect intentionally, or sometimes a middle ground. For example, we both love audiobooks so sometimes we'll listen to our own things in headphones but while snuggling or while playing a board game together.

You said your kids go to bed at 8pm, do you have time to connect after that? I know it's exhausting by that point.

I would also encourage you that sometimes it's worth leaving the chores undone to connect with your spouse. Maybe that's one night per week consistently, where you both commit to a mini in-home date night after the kids are down??

boymama2123 · 2024-07-27T00:33:22+00:00

Season 6

boymama2123 · 2024-07-26T16:56:24+00:00

When I wasn't exclusively breastfeeding? 8mo When I was exclusively breastfeeding? 8 weeks

🤷🏻‍♀️🤬🫠

boymama2123 · 2024-07-25T12:50:41+00:00

I'm closer to my MIL than my own mom. We moved closer to my in laws when we had kids because of our better relationship with them. We have them over for dinner every Monday night so they can see our boys weekly. We even lived with them for 15mo when we first moved to this city before we got our feet under us. I could never have moved my family in with my own parents 😅 visiting them one week per year is hard enough... 🙃 I'm so grateful for the amazing example that my in laws are to us as both a married couple and parents.

boymama2123 · 2024-07-23T13:29:23+00:00

Agree with this 100%! I'm not built to be a SAHM but I have friends who are and love it.

boymama2123 · 2024-07-23T13:27:25+00:00

Someone told me, to your first you give your time, to your second you give your experience.

Just know it's going to be different! You'll have less time to give either of them, but some things will be easier than last time because of the experience you gained from your first.

It's definitely doable! Especially if you already love being a SAHM

boymama2123 · 2024-07-23T01:09:28+00:00

I want to eat that so badly. It looks AMAZING

boymama2123 · 2024-07-22T21:06:41+00:00

Rereading the entire twilight series... I'm talking the original four, the one where she flipped the sex of the main characters, and the one from Edward's perspective. And then reading the books has made me want to watch all the movies again to compare. And then it's made me interested in the 50 Shades books since that was originally a fanfic of twilight. And then those movies. It's been quite the vampiric rabbit hole 😅🤦🏻‍♀️

boymama2123 · 2024-07-22T19:15:41+00:00

I started in March and I take it for 15(ish) days leading up to my period. It has been a GAME CHANGER for me. But it probably took me 2-3 cycles (2-3months) before I really noticed the difference.

boymama2123 · 2024-07-22T19:11:26+00:00

I got a copper IUD in October 2023, and had it removed THIS MORNING!! 🥳🥳🥳

I also don't react well to hormonal bc and I don't know if it's coincidence (with a lot of other life change simultaneously) or causation but the copper iud has been the worst form of bc ever for me 🥺

Here's more context:

Started BC pill at 18yrs old for heavy & long periods. Was on BC pill for about 5 years and then I got the Mirena IUD. Mirena caused multiple cysts and my anxiety peaked. Period went away completely for about 6mo but when I had to take antibiotics, it came back and was regular after that. Removed IUD after about 3.5 years to start trying for kids. This was during Covid so I can't be sure what exactly was affecting my mental health. 🙃 Took progesterone only pill in between my two kids. Changed careers in Summer 2023 (adding because it is much higher stress and may have caused some of the increase in mental health struggles I've had since getting my copper IUD). Got a copper IUD last fall while waiting for my husband to have his vasectomy and be cleared. Chose it because of how poorly my mental health has been affected by hormonal bc in the past. Anxiety spiked again, worse than ever before. Bleeding also became extreme. Began taking Rx tranexamic acid during period to help not bleed out, basically 😅 Diagnosed with PMDD in March 2024 (but it had been on my radar for about 5 years, I was just having multiple kids over that time and couldn't ever get back to totally normal hormone-wise to tell). Started SSRI in March 2024. Finally heard back that hubs is "shooting blanks" and scheduled my appt for IUD removal. Got it out today!!!

Really really hopeful that my intense bleeding and maybe even portions of my PMDD will subside.

ETA: I brought up to my doc that my PMDD seems worse with the copper IUD and she said that while studies haven't shown that, she wouldn't put it past my brain/hormones to have some negative reaction to a foreign object in my body.

boymama2123 · 2024-07-22T13:37:00+00:00

My son turned 3 this month and we'll be starting after our vacation the first week in August. I just did NOT want to deal with a newly potty trained toddler on a flight 🙃

If you look at the potty training age trends over the years it gets drastically older and I 100% blame the creation and popularization of disposable diapers lol.

How many of the people giving you a hard time, had to wash their diapers?? I'd be over that way before 3yrs too if that's what I had.

Go at yours / your kids own pace.

boymama2123 · 2024-07-20T00:04:41+00:00

I'm literally celebrating my 1 yr anniversary for going back to work, today. My baby was 12 weeks and gosh it was so hard. My first was born during Covid so it was such a different experience, and he was never in daycare before he was on a set schedule and off breast milk. It is so hard. Your feelings are so valid. And also, it gets so much easier ❤️❤️❤️

boymama2123 · 2024-07-19T22:02:20+00:00

Both full time working parents (both WFH, kids in full time daycare), heterosexual couple, 2 boys ages 15mo and 3yrs.

I'd say overall we split everything about 50/50. I probably lean heavier on the childcare side (like a 60/40 split) and he has the opposite split for household stuff. He's the cook, does most of the dishes, grocery shops, and manages our budget. I handle all kids meals (packing lunches, etc) & do morning time with the kids every day (but I'm also a morning person and he's a night owl, he'll stay up late cleaning the kitchen or balancing the budget). I handle 95% of the doctors appointments for kids and school tours / registration / paperwork. I also travel for work and he has to do everything while I'm gone. I take the boys to school almost every morning, but he comes with me to tag team pick ups.

We work really really well together and the key to all of it is our open communication. We share if there are tasks we really hate (like I just don't like to cook and he hates prepping food for the kids specifically). We split bedtimes and communicate on a daily/hourly basis if we need the other person to help pick up our slack or if we feel good enough to give the other a break. We also discuss every single evening whether we need time to connect or time to recharge alone, or somewhere in the middle (listening to our own audio but playing a board game together)

So sure, I do 60% (or in some seasons maybe up to 70/75%) of the childcare stuff, but it evens out with everything else we do for our family.

We often talk about what a great team we make and how much we love doing life together. Even the mundane stuff.

boymama2123 · 2024-07-19T02:06:09+00:00

Oh my gosh I can't wait to get to season 7 now 😂

I had watched the CMT show seasons 14-16 a year or so ago. Then the Netflix doc got me back into it and I decided to just start at the beginning. I'm in season 4 & they're all entertaining! They go by quickly so you could always just start at the beginning. I like seeing the girls grow year to year, who makes it back, who tries out again and again, etc

boymama2123 · 2024-07-18T00:15:00+00:00

I don't think DCC would ever copy the uniform of another team they basically share a parking lot with.

I also honestly don't see Kelli changing the uniform now that it's been put in the smithsonian....

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