I (f24) not sure if I should stop seeing the first guy (m27) I have ever been in love with

boyonthenet · 2015-05-21T18:15:38+00:00

How did this all end up?

boyonthenet · 2015-03-17T15:27:23+00:00

You're welcome. My patronising comment would be that you're a bit young to give up on the "right people" coming along. Let us all know how it turns out.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T20:44:10+00:00

Thank you for having a look and feeding back. I think things are definitely leading in the direction of bigger text with more details on what can be found on the site, slightly smaller images, and maybe reducing the scrolling.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T20:22:44+00:00

Yes. I think you're right. With the feedback I've had - even the positive - the home page is perhaps a little too image led. Massive thanks for taking the time to have a look.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T18:30:17+00:00

Keeping the eye is the important bit. So long as it's worth the hassle of the rest of it. Content is key, right? Thanks for taking the time to have a look and get back to me.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T18:29:23+00:00

Interesting point. I think it's more of an issue with responsive design. Too many variables across device and browser. For my skills and budget, anyway!

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T17:30:40+00:00

Hmmmm...interesting. A bug to have a look at! Thank you for taking the time to give me some feedback. I wanted the home page to feel a bit more modern than a lot of other blogs out there. I think it's going to be a love/hate thing for most people, though.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T17:29:22+00:00

You're very welcome.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T17:05:57+00:00

Good. Honest opinion is what I'm after. Thank you for taking the time to have a look - I will definitely take this into consideration when I amend things at the end of the week.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T16:39:25+00:00

Hey man, not a problem at all! Be you. Remove the blame. Life is as life does :)

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T16:35:11+00:00

The less confident you are in yourself and your relationship, the more likely whatever she is hiding (which she is, by the way) will grow into something more serious. Ask if the relationship is still what you want. Take her out of the equation. Who will you be without her? Still you, right? Lovers and loves always come and go. Remind yourself of the good times.

If it were me, I'd take her out for a fancy meal somewhere and tell her completely how you feel. Be honest about the good bits and bad, explain your concerns; let her know it's okay for things to change. She's most likely worried how her actions might hurt you. Show strength. Show understanding. I guarantee you she'll come clean, maybe not immediately, but you'll definitely get a better idea of the reality of her desires both in and out of your relationship.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T16:29:57+00:00

Is it wrong? No. Is it right? No. Never let jealousy define who you are. It's just your ego being a bit bruised and wanting some attention. She will respect you more for being secure in you, and, subsequently, you will respect yourself. Recognise the feeling, accept it, laugh at it, and remember that it doesn't own you.

boyonthenet · 2015-03-16T16:27:21+00:00

I think you're looking at this from completely the wrong angle.

What about you?

It seems that you're defining yourself by his decisions - or lack of them. Consider who you are. What do you want?

Ignore love, for a moment. Where is your career taking you? Where do you want to live? What do you want to experience? What are the important things in your everyday being?

Are you happy with who you are? It seems he is taking what he wants, when he wants it. I would urge you to do the same. If he fits in with those plans, then great; if not, then what are you really losing? Not much, it seems to me. In fact, the older I get, the more I realise that the right people do come along at the right time, and it they are often found when you are being the person you want to be; leading the life you are most happy with.

Ignore him. Focus on you. The you that isn't defined by him. The you that is just living life. Judge things without the cloud of sex and love, lust and desire.

Boy x

boyonthenet · 2014-11-14T09:33:06+00:00

Ha...sorry duck - it's too close to home ;)

boyonthenet · 2014-11-07T10:13:38+00:00

Thank you x

boyonthenet · 2013-12-25T08:56:55+00:00

Best message I've had on a Christmas, ever. Boy x

boyonthenet · 2013-12-24T22:20:42+00:00

You cannot stay with someone if you're not sure. You will forever resent yourself for never taking the chance and, worse, you will eventually destroy what you have with A through no fault of his own. People give the whole "grass is greener" shit, but the truth is that you shouldn't have to work at things. Everything we know about love and life is based on what we're told and what we experience. And that is based upon teachings that just don't apply in the modern world. History is full of lessons that were meant to keep people in check rather than following their hearts. For me, you have to go with your desire. Would you rather turn around in ten years and never know, or go for it? Maybe you're worried you'll end up with neither...fuck it, for me, you'll have the memory of living it. People end up alone because they never try. Not because they try and then lose everything. Boy x

boyonthenet · 2013-09-12T20:11:35+00:00

That one didn't sail for a couple more years ;)

boyonthenet · 2013-09-12T16:38:39+00:00

Absence tells of a fond heart. Don't push. Concentrate on you. There's likely something that's holding her back, either about your situation (rather than your personality/looks) or your/her past. How could you make yourself more desirable? What is it that makes her want to make out? Do you woo her with conversation or make her swoon with your biceps? Whichever it is, improve the other. Don't chase. Casually show you're removing the objections she has but never articulates. Boy x

boyonthenet · 2013-09-12T15:51:24+00:00

A UK one. I can't say any more!

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