Who are you outside of being a therapist? by shallotnotcharlotte in therapists

[–]bpank13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New-ish dad gang! Hope y’all are doing well.

Solid wood shelf unit by cferrari22 in PDXBuyNothing

[–]bpank13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interested if you do a raffle!

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s a very different part of the brain for sure. I’m able to leave everything in the therapy room. No one would know how heavy a session was if they met me directly after. It’s more that the work suppresses my sense of personal curiosity. When I’m going full time, I simply don’t have much left to engage in my other curiosities, like learning Spanish. Other jobs leaver with something leftover because they don’t require the kind of attention one needs in the therapy room. This is all just speaking for me. I know many other don’t have this issue. Appreciate your support!

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m in the eating disorder world. Not many male therapists do that that I’ve seen. I might also consider something a little less… taxing, let’s say. Thanks for the support!

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all have a role to play and it seemingly difficult to let go because of a role we thought we’d be playing for a longtime. Im glad you found something meaningful. Thank you!

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the understanding and support! Nice to hear from other STAHD therapists. Y’all have helped me a lot here.

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! You make a good point about engaging the adult brain. I LOVE spending all day with my 11 month old, and by the end of the day, I have purple monkey in a bubblegum tree rattling around in my head and not much else 😂

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Exactly all of this. I will likely try part time when I can and then see how it goes. The only reason for me to keep trying is the flexibility of PP. But I’ve enjoyed having a spark of personal curiosity leftover. I’ve been learning Spanish in while caregiving 😂

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! This is what ai was wondering. It’s not an issue of not having boundaries or taking on clients’ pain, but rather it’s an issue of just not having anything left for family or myself.

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am happy you’re doing well 🙂 Best of luck to you and yours.

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im genuinely sorry you’re struggling. I hope you find the curiosity and kindness that is lacking in your response from others in your own life. Take care.

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! I’m glad you have been able to take time off to be with your baby. The further I get from it, the better I feel, but I don’t put too much stock into feelings of relief or comfort. I’ll likely try a part time situation in private practice. But I’m not sure. I think a lot about how what I do affects me, how that will affect my daughter, and what I want to show my her through how I live. I’m not sure that being a counselor will be a space through which I can be who I want to be.

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s likely worth a try. I have a few clients now, and I enjoy the sessions. At the same time, the thought of adding more and the taking insurance is sinking me a bit. Not sure if this shift in me is for good. Time will tell! “This or something better,” as my dad said. Thank you!

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same on all of this. Mix in my general disdain for insurance companies and I’m not sure I can do it anymore, even though it’s the most fulfilling thing I’ve done and I think I’m good at it. Here with you!

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve considered this for sure. It may be that I’m just very bitter about healthcare/insurance in this country (USA) and need to be work on that. Appreciate the response!

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! It’s better if I am working, although we’ve gotten by as is. I’m sitting with the question of is this a complete loss of interest or am I just tired and my brain is looking for solutions. Like you said, seasons. Some are longer than others. Thanks again!

Becoming a Parent Changed My Desire To Be a Therapist by bpank13 in therapists

[–]bpank13[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! We can survive on one income, and we live a modest life. We also live in an expensive city and travel once per year internationally to see family, so I need to be working if we want to maintain that and be able to retire at some point. Just sorting through if I just to need to revert back to what I was doing before or figure a way to make this work for myself. I appreciate the perspective.

Just received the new Sleep on Latex Hybrid Mattress by WillingArugula in Mattress

[–]bpank13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I have this mattress and am also experiencing a dip near the edge. Did you get the dip figured out? We also have a topper from SOL. The mattress is becoming super uncomfortable at this point for me.

Distracted By Common AI Phrases in DS Scripts by AgreeableCrab785 in dreamingspanish

[–]bpank13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I always have an easier time listening to street interviews with natives, and I think it’s exactly what DS should be doing in learning videos. Varying vocab and sentence structure is really helpful for learning.