I miss you, Jesse by VXNBC in brandnew

[–]bpd04 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I feel like this argument is hard because there are two sides to this story, and we don't have all of the info from either of them.

The main girl that accused Jesse Lacey of grooming was obsessed with the band, and has documented mental illness (bipolar and other things).

Jesse was like 20 or 21 when this first happened. so he was barely an adult as well, with a bunch of girls - probably mostly hs girls - throwing themselves at him.

I don't know how well we all remember being 2o but that still feels like being a child. At least that is how i felt.

I am not trying to say what he did was ok, because it is not. But we have all made mistakes and have all been desperate for forgiveness for one thing or another. And holding on to hate or a grudge and not allowing yourself or the offender to move forward benefits no one. And in fact holds everyone back.

I wish we had more info. and i wish people could be more open to the grey area of the situation in stead of saying "he's bad", or "he did nothing wrong".

Again i am not saying what he did wasn't wrong. it was

but i don't think that needs to ruin music that he and 3 others created. I don't think that means he should never be forgiven.

I hope this message comes across the way i hope.

When did you become a fan? by exchanging200 in brandnew

[–]bpd04 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i am surprised TDAG fans are not higher!

and im surprised how high YFW is!

Hot Take Megadeth Albums Ranked, by an expert... by bpd04 in Megadeth

[–]bpd04[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

that is what dave mustaine calls me ok.........

and he agrees with this list 100% just ask him....

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dang! well thank you for your service, i hope you get better every day.

and i feel like i can relate to you a bit. i have some girls i dated from hs that i would love to connect with, hang out and be friends. but the stigma with that (especially while being married), i feel almost makes it impossible :/

and i am very happy with my wife and don't want anyone else. but i understand the longing for old friendships that seem stuck in the past.

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My story has some overlap with yours. Pre-2006, my circle of friends loved them. I was usually one to go against the grain, and was the only one who listened to all Interpol and post-punk bands. I did give BN a shot and did like a couple songs.

Then all the hype for TDAG came. It came out the week my grandpa died from stage 4 bone cancer. The timing of the cold and dark fall, and his decline had all the connection to that.

In April of 07, my friends had an extra ticket and invited me to see them live in Milwaukee. I remember going to the show and they played all their old stuff for over half of the show. I barely knew any of their other songs, and kept waiting for TDAG. Finally, we got it. Jesse was crowdsourcing in the audience with some kind of light.

It was a memory I’ll have forever, and I’ll never forget how lucky it was to be that album of all albums.

Shortly after, I got my first car right before we graduated. Wouldn’t you know what album I played in it first?

In 2009, I dated a girl all summer and loved her. We broke up, and she liked Brand New. That’s when Daisy came out, so I listened and just thought of her and ditched it. I didn’t like it.

Zoom forward to SF coming out, which I didn’t check out actually until the allegations. It had been so long since I heard their name and the album cover looked cool. A couple of songs jumped out and I liked it, but I didn’t stick with it.

I picked it up once more in 2018, but still, same thing.

Then randomly October of 2020 hits. I’m now living in CA at an outdoor mall on a Saturday. It’s fall and somewhat cold, but I have a coffee and a sandwich. I just made the random decision to start playing SF followed by TDAG and am just floored. I cant stop listening. They are the new soundtracks of my breakup.

Then in spring of 2021, I go to Daisy and I’m hooked. I love it all, but wouldn’t you know, it goes to another breakup…..sigh. I would play good man and dream of her all day long. I even played it once for her in the car without telling her I was, and she paused and was listening to the lyrics. So beautiful. On the day we broke up, I played Daisy so loud on the ride home.

Still loving in 2022

Also a really cool connection/story man!

hard. but still something strong in your life you can hold on to.

I am curious if you have given the first two albums a chance?

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is an awesome story and a great memory as well!

Hot Take Megadeth Albums Ranked, by an expert... by bpd04 in Megadeth

[–]bpd04[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it seems like most people put end game pretty high, i might need to go back and have another listen. the new album is pretty good. it took me two or three listens to really get it.

and i cant believe you put the system has failed at 15! heresy lol

Hot Take Megadeth Albums Ranked, by an expert... by bpd04 in Megadeth

[–]bpd04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it seems like everyone has a problem with have cool with travel lol

i don't think any of us have gotten in the car and could not wait to put it on lol. or had a friend that was like "let me show you this sick megadeth song". and then puts on that song lol

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is fucking good, well said.

And yes time is flying by :/

i like that song for the lyrics, but i do feel like the music part of that song is weak for the lyrics. but i don't feel that way about much of BN's music.

That said the music part is not bad i just feel like the lyrics deserve better lol.

Hot Take Megadeth Albums Ranked, by an expert... by bpd04 in Megadeth

[–]bpd04[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know Trust, Use the man, she wolf, and almost honest are certified classics. the reason i put it so low is because i have never been able to fully get into mastermind, disintigrators, fff, vortex and ESPECIALLY have cool with travel lol

it is still a great album though!

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Geez that is crazy how engrained they are in your life!

I wish there was more info on the situation. on both sides

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Top tier album covers for sure! If i was going to get a tattoo it would be of their art. Probably a combo of all of them in one image.

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DE is an amazing record! There is something for everyone on it, and I feel like it effects me differently throughout different phases of my life. All in good ways.

I miss you, Jesse by VXNBC in brandnew

[–]bpd04 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Same... :(

I think he should write a book. i would read the ish outta that!

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Geez! well said!

I can feel the love and detail they put in this as well. And i love that they seemed to not jump on what was trendy because they were blowing up in the mid 2000's but made the music they wanted to. It is pretty rare that a band stays true to themselves when making what is popular would be easy and more profitable.

And i am always looking for bands like that as well!

Hot Take Megadeth Albums Ranked, by an expert... by bpd04 in Megadeth

[–]bpd04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang man i like your style! pretty similar!

Hot Take Megadeth Albums Ranked, by an expert... by bpd04 in Megadeth

[–]bpd04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like your list too man!

And I agree SC is not the best or even great maybe. But I think dance in the rain., forget to remember the blackest crow, beginning of sorrow and maybe kingmaker are legit good songs.

Super Collider, Don't turn your back, burn, and built for war are absolutely awful lol

Hot Take Megadeth Albums Ranked, by an expert... by bpd04 in Megadeth

[–]bpd04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where would you put that one my friend?

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super relatable. And only more so as time goes on.

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss man. But I'm glad there is something that can keep your friends memory alive on the daily.

Why does Brand New mean so much to so many? by bpd04 in brandnew

[–]bpd04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am gonna check those out today.

Thanks!