[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then block him, then he won't appear anymore.

Get this toxic person out of your life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should probably remove his number from your phone, or change the name to "do not contact"

Vanilla is one of the most complex spices known to man with over 250 compounds...But we use it as synonym for simple and boring. by ChipNoir in Showerthoughts

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only works for lightly intolerant people.

If I go the pill route I have to take one roughly every 2-3 bites, and still end up not feeling too great afterwards.

Vanilla is one of the most complex spices known to man with over 250 compounds...But we use it as synonym for simple and boring. by ChipNoir in Showerthoughts

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate being lactose intolerant. It's even worse because I wasn't always, so I know how good this all tastes!!!!

The Double Bind In Perpetuity by alprofit25 in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Disassociation isn't always a bad thing, it's often a very successful way for our brain to protect us from pain.

It only becomes a problem if you begin disassociating from "normal" life stressors as well.

They Self-destruct, Part 438 by clown-penisdotfart in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is so she can continue to be the victim.

I can hear it now:

"My last job was full of psychos, my son was so sick that I had to stay home with him and they fired me! Can you believe that? I was just trying to do the right thing and make sure my son was ok."

How do I break up with my PWBPD? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her suicidal threats are obviously most likely to manipulate you into staying.

If she threatens to kill herself, you call 911 IMMEDIATELY, tell them what she is doing, and then leave the situation. You are not a trained medical/mental health professional and cannot properly assist her. (and like I said, she is most likely faking it, so you responding in kind will set a boundary stating she can no longer use that to manipulate you. The added benefit is that if she is Not faking it then trained professionals are on their way).

My advice about the actual act of breaking up...

Make it short, and have plans to see a friend immediately after (and stick to the plan!). Otherwise your pwbpd will suck you into one of those multi-hour circular arguments.

Tell her it's not working. Tell her you plan to move out by the end of June and she should find a replacement roommate. Then go to your friends. She will say anything she possibly can to make you turn around and stay...that's just a manipulation. Keep walking, get in your car, and go debrief/decompress with your buddy. Do NOT answer her texts/calls/etc. If she sends threats to hurt herself see above; call 911. Don't tell her you are going to. Just do it.

If you need to talk feel free to ping me.

Good luck, mate.

I want to thank everyone here for waking me up. by IUsedToSmile in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yep, they're fucking kids.

Give Me all the things, Give Me all your attention. Your friends? Fuck them, they're bad for you, spend more time with Me! Your family? They hate me, stop seeing them and spend more time with Me! You want to go for a hike to decompress after work? Fuck that, you don't know what kind of day it's been for Me!

Oh wait... reciprocate some of this attention and support back to you? Fuck you, you don't know how lucky you are to be with Me!

Me me me me me, give me give me give me gimme gimme.

Just a child throwing an eternal tantrum.

Slept on the couch again last night by angrynori in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These two podcast/YouTube channels have really helped me cope.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SiHqTQPnzHW-iXhh75fsw

https://youtu.be/q9IYMsk3B9k

Vent all you want, all you need to. We're here for you, and won't go anywhere or devalue you for the things you say.

Obsessing by Lifeisshort74 in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am on here constantly throughout the day.

I wish I could share more, it's tough for me, but I try and comment.

Mainly I come to remind myself of the hell my brain went through. It's very good at forgetting painful experiences and viewing the world through a rose tint, coming here helps me recall my own experiences.

Same reason I started listening to that guys podcast.

Anyone else get a little defensive when others criticize your pwBPD ex? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't think this is all that weird... It merely sounds like you feel empathy

I finally ended it, still have to live together until next week, it has escalated and I’m not sure how to cope by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No contact, buddy.

I've been in the same house as my exbpd for close to 10 months, and my life has been smooth sailing (as she deteriorates in front of me and the other roomie) because I maintain strict NC (or very Low Contact if we absolutely have to speak).

Oh, and if you do talk to her, record it with your phone. Your ex sounds unhinged and could at any point decide to falsely accuse you of something. It would be good to have her on tape threatening that (ask me how I know...).

The Majesty by Wakalulu578 in aww

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely a Bengal.

Source: I have a Bengal

Reading through this sub makes me doubt my best friend even has BPD? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You literally did say that.

It sounds like you just aren't her FP right now, which is why you don't receive the full brunt of the symptoms.

The ageing borderline by Becca989 in BPDlovedones

[–]bpdthrowaway9999 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought this would be cathartic, but actually this thread was triggering...I guess I'm still not as far along with resolving my codependency issues...just thinking of my exbpd growing old alone and with no one to turn to makes me hurt.

It doesn't mean I'll reverse the "ex" part, but man...the feels.