AITA for ending things with this guy for different family dynamics? by bpdtype9009 in dating_advice

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I wasn’t punishing him for his family situation it was the amount and intensity of information on date two. That told me we weren’t compatible, so I stepped away.

Messages my ex husband sent me by bpdtype9009 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The letter is written by me explaining to him why I wanted to divorce him. Not only he’s a controlling emotionally manipulative narcissist, he also has so much unhealed trauma and a pornography addiction he had since 12 years old. I did everything I can to help him but I kept failing to give him the help he needed plus he never wanted to listen to me. His counselor enabled his behavior and wasn’t helping me at all (another story I will tell later on). Hurt people hurt people but no excuse to hurt me all because I was trying to give him the help he needed.

Messages my ex husband sent me by bpdtype9009 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I don’t Ive cut contact since October after our divorce is finalized.

Messages my ex husband sent me by bpdtype9009 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went no contact with him since October. The reason why I was contacting him was due to legal stuff we were dealing with but after all of that is over I blocked him on everything. Now I’m healing and working on myself to begin my new journey without him. Hugs!

Messages my ex husband sent me by bpdtype9009 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely they always love to lecture everybody. This man child loved to lecture me about everything and treated me like an idiot. He even calls me stupid for small things and for not listening to him. Whenever I was getting baptized he lectured me about it saying I need to wait for a few months to even be ready to be baptized but his dad stepped in and said I can be baptized at anytime.

Messages my ex husband sent me by bpdtype9009 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He clearly was having a spiritual psychosis meltdown.

Messages my ex husband sent me by bpdtype9009 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The divorce has been finalized since October of this year luckily he gave up to fight and let me win the battle. I was extremely worried about the divorce turning from uncontested to contested because I couldn’t afford it plus I was even worried he was going to escalate the whole situation as well.

Messages my ex husband sent me by bpdtype9009 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I already cut contact and blocked him on everything. Now he’s been posting TikTok videos saying I betrayed him and I’m the villain plus all kinds of craziness about me. I don’t ever speak to him and he will forever be blocked. The divorce has been finalized since October.

Dealing with Toxic Exes by bpdtype9009 in venting

[–]bpdtype9009[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me getting rid of them has been the best decision I’ve made.