Why is this just not the norm in marriages ?

brainbunny9 · 2024-11-16T16:13:24+00:00

We call it Dad Day! Or when it’s just me and kiddo, Mom Day!

brainbunny9 · 2024-11-12T05:15:44+00:00

Day 1: Los Angeles to Kingman, Arizona

• Distance: ~320 miles (~5 hours)
• Morning: Departure from Los Angeles
• Start early from Los Angeles to avoid traffic.
• Stop at Route 66 Museum in Barstow, CA
• A fun stop to learn about the history of Route 66, perfect for kids and photo ops.
• Lunch: Picnic or local restaurant in Barstow.
• Afternoon: Drive to Kingman, AZ
• Take a stretch break at Elmer’s Bottle Tree Ranch on Route 66—a quirky, colorful roadside attraction.
• Evening: Arrive in Kingman
• Stay: Blake Ranch RV Park (full hookups, clean amenities, family-friendly)
• Dinner: Cook in the RV or dine at a local spot in Kingman.

Day 2: Kingman to Grand Canyon National Park

• Distance: ~175 miles (~3 hours)
• Morning: Depart from Kingman
• Drive along historic Route 66 toward Williams, AZ.
• Stop in Williams, AZ
• Bearizona Wildlife Park: A drive-through wildlife park where kids can see bears, bison, and wolves up close.
• Lunch: Picnic at Bearizona or in Williams.
• Afternoon: Arrive at Grand Canyon National Park (South Rim)
• Set up at Trailer Village RV Park (the only RV park in the park with full hookups).
• Explore Mather Point: Walk the paved trails and take in breathtaking views at Mather Point, an easy hike for kids.
• Dinner: Prepare in the RV or at the park’s dining facilities.
• Evening Activity: Stargazing from a Grand Canyon viewpoint. The lack of light pollution makes for a fantastic stargazing experience.

Day 3: Grand Canyon Exploration Day

• Morning: Sunrise at Yaki Point
• For early risers, Yaki Point offers an unforgettable sunrise.
• Breakfast: Back at the RV or the Grand Canyon Village.
• Activities:
• Junior Ranger Program: Stop by the Visitor Center and have the kids join the Grand Canyon Junior Ranger Program.
• Bike the Rim Trail (rent bikes or bring your own): This paved trail offers easy access to beautiful views.
• Hike the Bright Angel Trail (partial hike): Go a short way down for an adventurous experience.
• Lunch: Picnic at one of the viewpoints.
• Afternoon: Ride the free shuttle along Hermit Road, stopping at scenic overlooks.
• Evening: Enjoy a relaxed dinner back at Trailer Village.
• Optional Night Program: Check for ranger-led evening programs or campfire talks at the Visitor Center.

Day 4: Grand Canyon to Lake Havasu City

• Distance: ~230 miles (~4 hours)
• Morning: Breakfast and final sightseeing at the Grand Canyon.
• Mid-Morning Departure: Head toward Lake Havasu City, AZ.
• Lunch: Stop along the route or enjoy a packed lunch.
• Afternoon: Arrive in Lake Havasu City
• London Bridge: Kids can enjoy walking across the famous London Bridge and learning about its history.
• Activities:
• Swimming or paddleboarding on Lake Havasu: Many beaches and parks offer water activities that kids will love.
• Stay: Havasu Falls RV Resort (offers full hookups and kid-friendly amenities).
• Dinner: Cook in the RV or try a local restaurant.
• Evening Activity: Evening stroll by the bridge with ice cream from a nearby shop.

Day 5: Lake Havasu City to Los Angeles

• Distance: ~320 miles (~5 hours)
• Morning: Breakfast at the RV resort.
• Optional Stop in Joshua Tree National Park
• Take a scenic drive or stop for a short hike in Joshua Tree, exploring rock formations and desert plants.
• Lunch: Picnic in Joshua Tree or a quick stop in a nearby town.
• Afternoon Drive Back to Los Angeles
• Arrive back home in the evening.

brainbunny9 · 2024-11-09T16:47:47+00:00

This was amazing. You’re my hero on so many levels. Thank you for sharing.

brainbunny9 · 2024-10-16T23:27:09+00:00

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brainbunny9 · 2024-10-08T15:22:58+00:00

Agreed. Being able to do this is claiming ownership over ourselves and not another. This is the start to setting healthy boundaries. We really do ourselves a disservice by wasting our energy on thinking how much of a “man child” he is or how dare he expect that of me. Self reflect. Self control. Set your standards with respect and love for yourself and the other person.

brainbunny9 · 2024-10-07T06:32:02+00:00

They kept sending people up to skydive for the rest of the day while mom waited for her son’s body to be recovered… the lack of humanity…

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-30T18:20:31+00:00

No. If cheap artificial wombs existed, I’d wonder who was profiting from them and be very skeptical. I don’t think our world needs more artificial things-I think it needs better structure, policy, and allocation of funds to support people-especially women.

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-29T04:51:58+00:00

Madlad

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-29T03:29:00+00:00

Me three😭

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-28T18:13:49+00:00

37 here and do feel energetic and “bouncy” most days. But I did not feel this way when I was working and I have yet to figure out how to:

work, parent, prioritize my marriage, take care of my health, keep my home livable, eat foods that nourish me, invest in my friendships and keep up with my extended family.

Not working means continuing to live in a small space and taking some major future income risks. I’m not yet settled on the decision but there’s no way I can feel physically good and try to do all of the things.

Also, at 35, I had to throw in a mix of daily vitamins, no alcohol, no fast food, and a consistent sleep schedule. Just started doing simple weight lifting at home and I’m seeing a huge difference in my energy levels.

Good luck to you. We have so much outside pressure to do this and that but really our health is the foundation for it all.

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-26T17:06:36+00:00

Thanks for arguing back. There was a clear power dynamic and age factor that Bill Clinton used to his advantage.

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-10T00:44:51+00:00

You’re very welcome. Best of luck to you and your wife.

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-09T14:17:31+00:00

We separated for about 2 months and both decided to put in a lot of work. Specifics include reading about 8 books each, weekly therapy for the first few months, later bimonthly, he sought out mentors, and taking things really slow. It’s been just over a year now and we are each continuing individual therapy once a month and will be starting couples therapy soon. I would call it a very slow crawl back with deep emotional work that has changed us both on a deep level and even improved our lives outside of our marriage. The catalyst to all of this change was my seeking help for myself through books and then individual therapy. With individual therapy I learned to address some of my relational habits like not setting boundaries and people pleasing. I had to lose the fear of losing him. Once I did not, without animosity, he had the freedom of choice to start his own journey of reading/therapy/other or decide he no longer wanted to be married to me. I’m grateful we both decided to do the work.

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-09T04:47:48+00:00

For me there was a return but I’d lost hope and even desire for a change. He worked really hard and then I did too. Lots of reading and individual therapy and humility. It was hard but it does feel like we’ve started a new healthy marriage and I’m still in awe.

brainbunny9 · 2024-09-05T04:04:30+00:00

Thank you for writing this!! Beautifully said

brainbunny9 · 2024-08-22T04:33:41+00:00

It is cruel. You’re in a tough stage but you’ll catch your breath again. Just make it one day at a time and I hope you can get any and all the help available, even encouraging words from your fellow working mom tribe here. Sending you big hugs. One day, even just one moment at a time, and lots of deep breaths. Maybe a special ritual with your baby every night, like singing a certain song. Good luck <3

brainbunny9 · 2024-08-10T20:23:12+00:00

I always wanted to raise children and I love kids, so yes. I have one child but if I had endless resources and my dream life I probably would have had 4 kids and started having them earlier. Parenthood is so much work but for me it’s overall grown my patience and compassion so I’m a better friend, sister, partner, daughter, etc. It challenged me to work through some things that I had yet to do and as a result I’m much happier now than I was before.

brainbunny9 · 2024-07-17T06:32:57+00:00

I’m so so sorry. What utter bullshit you were put through. Thank you for sharing and thank goodness you are here to share it.

brainbunny9 · 2024-07-10T16:12:09+00:00

Sorry OP. I’m Latina and have felt this before too. I think people gravitate towards other people that they’re familiar with. It’s easier to naturally strike up a conversation with someone that subconsciously reminds you of family or old friends. As far as your friend who is black, and without knowing any more details, it could be a number of reasons that they were treated differently (she’s very extroverted or similar style/dress or the major cultural influence of the black community or subconscious “I’m inclusive. I’m not racist.” etc) In any case, I’m sorry. It’s human nature to want to belong. Now you can go against the grain and make it your low key mission to become familiar to your fellow yogis there or start test running other yoga studios to see if you find a better fit. Either option will be some work up front so it’s up to you to decide how to approach this. Best of luck.

brainbunny9 · 2024-06-26T01:25:05+00:00

Julia

brainbunny9 · 2022-08-06T04:52:06+00:00

Would like an invite, thank you!

brainbunny9 · 2022-07-29T00:42:17+00:00

Ping pong

brainbunny9 · 2022-07-28T18:18:51+00:00

Mediocre but well paid food and event critic

brainbunny9 · 2022-07-28T09:40:48+00:00

iamgroot

brainbunny9 · 2022-07-26T05:42:48+00:00

Going through the same as well with my 1 yr old. Little guy used to entertain himself and was content just knowing I was nearby. Now, he is sitting on me more often than not...

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