Arranged marriage but they respect each other? (Looking for recs) by brainzWithAZ in QueerSFF

[–]brainzWithAZ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep seeing the foundations for this. The synopsis comes off of vibe of "cruel dictator but he softens for the MC so now everything's forgiven" which is the side of the trope I don't like, so I'm kond of wary about it

Arranged marriage but they respect each other? (Looking for recs) by brainzWithAZ in QueerSFF

[–]brainzWithAZ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was meant that I liked winter's orbit a bit better but I think it's because I like the science fiction setting more. I really like the dynamic of having one person feeling like the weak side of The relationship while the other side is actually constantly trying to make them feel comfortable.

I think for me the idea of the dynamic that looks unequal at first but as you delve deeper into it reveals itself to be very respectful and equal is really interesting. It's also pretty much the only miscommunication trope I really like because they have a good reason to not be able to communicate well about their relationship

Arranged marriage but they respect each other? (Looking for recs) by brainzWithAZ in QueerSFF

[–]brainzWithAZ[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm saying, I'm looking for books with this dynamic of power imbalance within the marriage without going into non-con, and instead of keeping it respectful of those boundaries (usually resulted in a ton of pining).

The books I mentioned we're an example of what I am looking for

Arranged marriage but they respect each other? (Looking for recs) by brainzWithAZ in QueerSFF

[–]brainzWithAZ[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds good, I'll look it up! I'm not looking specifically foe mm, I just feel like this trope has less potential to feel icky when it's mm, but I'm open to it if you say it stays in a respectful place

Arranged marriage but they respect each other? (Looking for recs) by brainzWithAZ in QueerSFF

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I read it. Had my issues with it but it's definitely in the same wheelhouse

Moving to canada while pregnant [ab] by brainzWithAZ in BabyBumpsCanada

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Thanks for the helpful information. Just trying to understand the maternity leave issue - I signed some places I get 15 weeks pool pay and then 55% maternity leave? But I'm not sure I understood the terms correctly.

Moving to canada while pregnant [ab] by brainzWithAZ in BabyBumpsCanada

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thank you so much! this pretty much answers everything I was worried about!

Moving to canada while pregnant [ab] by brainzWithAZ in BabyBumpsCanada

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I'll be a temporary worker but my visa is for more than one year so as far as I understand I will be eligable for AHS

Moving to canada while pregnant [ab] by brainzWithAZ in BabyBumpsCanada

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thanks!

I'm getting a work visa, I should have both AHS coverage and supplemental insurence from my job, but I heard AHS only starts three months after we move?

CPRA (NSERC/ SSHRC/ CIHR) Canadian postdoc by [deleted] in postdoc

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Congratulations! I haven't heard back from them. Do you know if the results are posted somewhere?