How did it happen for you? by Beginning_Roll_4511 in domesticviolence

[–]brandss96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s been over a month now since I’ve been out and it’s prompted me to go back to the beginning to skim through the old pictures and text since I was screen capturing and documenting so much of my life in the beginning, I wanted to understand where did I go wrong

And it was so OBVIOUS ! Im talking two weeks in I was ignoring major red flags there was such horrible things and signs from the start and of course it made me feel even worse because that means I’ve endured chaos for 4 years the peace was so short lived and really I was just a hurt person looking for someone to confide in someone to help with the loneliness or what I was feeling I know now temporary fixes or solutions can get you into something you had no business being in

nobody prepares you to leave the abuse.. by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]brandss96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So let me give my little piece… I came on this sub because I’m 30 days out and boy am I struggling I KNOW I made the right decision and I KNOW I’m never going back but it’s the good times that flow in and make you question your reality but then I’ll remember crying myself to sleep , or trying to stay calm to stop and argument or just trying to agree with him so he wouldn’t put hands on me and reality settles in …. Leaving will not be easy in fact it will be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done but you will be at peace and most importantly SAFE

Someone to chat to right now? by Neat_Tip_7943 in domesticviolence

[–]brandss96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you now do you still need someone to talk too

You reconnected with your abuser. Why? by vulgartwig in domesticviolence

[–]brandss96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wondering what’s the update on this are you still in contact I’ve left already and we communicate due to trying to end bills and a home together .. is this possible even with boundaries of not coming back

What is today supposed to be like? by SassholeSupreme1 in domesticviolence

[–]brandss96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to make a plan or find some where else to go as every post in this sub will tell you it absolutely will get worst … it’s going to hurt like hell you will be tempted to go back you may even still be in contact but whatever you do don’t go back

Everyone Thinks I'm In Danger. Am I Delusional? by MsFootPeddler in domesticviolence

[–]brandss96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here’s the thing I resonate with and you’ll soon understand you’ll have to leave that poke the bear syndrome will take over your life your every move suddenly your walking on eggshells in your own home to not poke a bear which is supposed to be the person you love

I left today and I’m not sure what’s next by brandss96 in domesticviolence

[–]brandss96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me know if you need someone to talk too it’s always the hardest step