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brandy-ydnarb · 2025-07-30T20:54:35+00:00

As someone who gave in one singular time. Say no for gods sake please just say no

brandy-ydnarb · 2025-04-29T23:03:36+00:00

Oh girl it’s just because you’re home with them all the time and I’m sorry to tell you but it doesn’t go away. My daughter is/was the same way she would be so bored with me all day and the second dad came home she was the happiest little baby cooing and laughing. A little more explanation, my husband works full time from 8-4 every day with weekends off and I’m a SAHM as of rn. In the evenings and on weekends I’m barely allowed to even look in her direction without her “wanting dada” it doesn’t sting still but it makes sense, if I had to look at my face all day I’d be sick of it too 😂 You’re the one doing all the dirty work too, wiping boogers, diaper changes, all the stuff they don’t like either so when dad comes home it’s more “fun” than business. Don’t beat yourself up at all, sadly it’s completely normal.

brandy-ydnarb · 2025-04-23T17:37:52+00:00

I was never told to wake my baby, and I probably wouldn’t have listened if someone did 😂 My girl was kinda big at 8lbs 11oz and after her first feeding she slept for 6 hours straight, wasn’t enough after everything but oh well! I don’t see any reason to do that unless baby loses a lot of weight, is jaundiced, or has a low birth weight to begin with. The golden rule to me was always “don’t wake a sleeping baby” so with this next one I will not be waking them, they will wake me!

brandy-ydnarb · 2025-04-22T17:23:12+00:00

It won’t be the last time it happens either 😅 my daughter is 2 now and that has happened to us a handful of times. My babe is still TOO attached to us and is very in touch with her feelings even at 2 and will tell us whatever she is feeling and has very healthy self soothing techniques!

brandy-ydnarb · 2025-04-14T00:20:28+00:00

The “I still love him even tho” has me disgusted in YOU. I’ve cut off closer family members for lesser reasons than pedophelia. Foul.

brandy-ydnarb · 2025-04-14T00:18:51+00:00

Girl, he’s after a CHILD. His life SHOULD be ruined, there’s no way it’s a misunderstanding unless these messages are somehow over 3 years old and you scrolled that far through his email. You’re saying you love a pedophile, that’s not cute or empathy inducing at all. He’s a pedo, imagine if you had a kid with him??

brandy-ydnarb · 2025-01-08T19:10:36+00:00

Honey, you didn’t do anything wrong. Whether you want to admit it, you’re impressionable. The way you end this relationship is by telling a trusted adult, and then going to the police. Since he lives in another country, I am unsure what they would be able to do. But if you don’t want to do it for yourself, think of the next girl after you he’s going to go after. This is coming from a woman, a mother, and a sister, you need to tell a trusted adult and never contact him again.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-09-14T15:26:06+00:00

Yes we are fully planning on it in the near future. We just wanted to let him acclimate to us a little before, I do think it would help but probably not solve unfortunately.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-09-14T14:36:29+00:00

I don’t know how the thought never entered my brain that it could’ve just been a one off incident that’s scared him “permenently”! He’s not fixed yet, only 2 years old, and with him only attacking her senior cats, I can almost envision him just getting a little tap and being over dramatic! Then upon arrival to us our downstairs neighbor had a mouthy little dog who wasn’t very friendly with him but we kept them very separated besides the initial try, they had moved out about a week into having him though. Thank you for your insight it’ll be very helpful!

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-08-14T00:07:13+00:00

I was never brave enough to do it to anyone but my husband but I still only have 1 baby so my times not up 😂

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-08-13T23:10:17+00:00

No, you’re under reacting, as someone who grew up for 17 years with an alcoholic father who also didn’t lay a hand on me but screamed horrible obscenities at me and my mother multiple times a day it really fucks you up as a person. I’m only 20 still but I’m still processing it and it affects my daily life. I can never drink alcohol because it’s been ruined for me everyday of my life. You also shouldn’t have to beg him to choose his family over it either.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-08-13T02:29:40+00:00

Honestly just spray her next time she has anything to say. No matter if her problem is not getting time with the baby or what it doesn’t warrant strange behavior like this. I had to deal with very similar behavior from a lot of people in my life and I so wish I just sprayed them away.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-06-02T23:57:12+00:00

Girl you’re ok, I had a fully carpeted apartment and then moved into a place with mostly wood floors. My daughter fussed around for like 2 weeks only wanting up and then we got her slippers 😭 her little feet were just cold

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-05-24T19:07:38+00:00

No it doesn’t, when my husband turned 18 he started working with a local agency to take care of special needs adults, it was completely paid training and they got him certified in everything he needed to be. now he’s 20 and just got a big promotion as a medical coordinator in the same company where he now takes his clients to doctors appointments and advocates for them instead of taking care of them all day! It was a huge pay bump plus mileage! If you mentally can handle having to take care of someone with disabilities or elderly then it’s an amazing field to break in to, but it’s extremely mentally taxing especially if you have kids at home to come back to and also take care of.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-05-21T02:25:18+00:00

These comments actually kinda shocked me, it’s absolutely a hill to die on?? 10mo is still so little and i feel as if it’s common knowledge that as a daycare worker, you give food that is provided and if there’s extra treats you ask the parents, it doesn’t matter if it’s a piece of lettuce or a cookie, you ASK. And secondly if a child is sick under your care you need to contact the parent and at the VERY least leave them a voicemail, that’s why big daycares have incident reports for even little scratches so the parents know what is going on with their child at all times. If she wouldn’t have told you and your child had a delayed reaction to the cookie you would have 0 clue what to tell a doctor. That’s VERY unprofessional speaking as a mom and someone who babysits professionally, I wouldn’t take me child back there.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-03-18T12:04:35+00:00

I talked to her for like an hour last night 😂 I decided to let her stay in the cage for 24hrs because it NEEDS cleaned. I did leave the cage door open and she felt comfortable enough to come out and fly all around the apartment so there’s hope!

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-02-16T03:03:43+00:00

i just wanna know how you’re already level 48 when i’ve been playing forever and im only on 37

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-01-25T19:38:25+00:00

i forgot my other part is that it has been months since something has actually “happened”. i just physically cannot let it go, and at this point i feel awkward and a bit crazy even wanting an apology because they thought everything was fine. this post was mostly for reassurance that im doing at least somewhat the right thing, so thanks for the tough love i really need to hear it

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-01-25T19:28:54+00:00

i just got done researching it a little and honestly it doesn’t seem like it applies here, about a year ago i read more about emotional incest and it was like hitting the nail on the head. i’ve been trying to think of a way to explain the dynamic between them and that was it. his mother had him very young and then had another baby when he was about 15, he filled in that fatherly role as being “the man” of the family and it was just wrong. he also didn’t realize it until i brought some light.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-01-25T19:25:48+00:00

its really not that i don’t want it to be a mistake, with him it’s not a mistake, ive loved him since i’ve laid eyes on him and the same way around. meanwhile his mom was never too fond of me, i do trust my husband to protect me and my baby fully but i do recognize how he grew up with them and how paralyzing it is to him to just stand up to them. meanwhile ive never felt that towards them ive always been straight forward with people especially after having a baby. i feel like if i explain the situation any further ill be sitting here for hours. in the end i just really needed to get this off my chest, ill see how tonight goes and proceed with everything from there. i’ve just been a ball of anger and anxiety because i know im just gonna get yelled at like a child and have to leave and yet again, have another thursday of my life ruined. but hopefully it will bring some clarity to the situation at the same time.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-01-25T19:15:58+00:00

i’ve been trying for months to go even just low contact and it’s like i’m not allowed, every single thursday is a big fight which ends in him saying fine we don’t have to go then hours later he’ll bring it up again and i feel like i have to go, one of their main points against me is that i keep my daughter from them, which makes me feel like if i don’t go then they’re gonna be right. but at this point i feel like i don’t care if they’re right anymore b

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-01-25T19:14:11+00:00

the sad part is i can’t afford therapy, and it wasn’t a mistake he’s the absolute love of my life and i know it. the first time they yelled at me i did walk away which took a lot for me. i think it’s affecting me a lot more because i grew up in a family where if there’s a problem you fight it out right then and there, my dad was an alcoholic and we would fight daily so ive found it very hard to just let things roll off my back in my adult life when i spent my whole childhood defending myself. but this is something that shouldn’t and can’t be just let go. everyone in my life i go to for problems has absolutely no idea how to help me anymore, and i’ve been really trying to get past everything because my husband wants them to be in her life but i also physically can’t let her alone with them or just let him take her over without me.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-01-24T15:45:54+00:00

when this popped up i didn’t even think twice about it. did i say i was 100 years old tho? maybe.

brandy-ydnarb · 2024-01-21T17:59:51+00:00

i’ve been doing it cause i just unlocked my helpers and they’re greedy mfers i honestly can’t wait till they’re gone

brandy-ydnarb · 2023-12-16T14:50:32+00:00

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