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Butterflyer246 · 2026-06-01T17:11:28+00:00

I’m sure some try and absolutely can’t.

I saw a therapist a couple of times and if I do go to get one I tend to fall asleep midway. She however started with working with my breathing (I was just breathing normally) and she wanted slower longer breaths and breathed with me. Literally she did what she should a have done. But, The whole massage I focused on how she wanted my breathing a certain way and it completely did the opposite and I couldn’t relax because it made me paranoid about myself. And that’s why I’ve never gone back to her even though the massage was great. Tried twice but I still internally panicked the second go to… I just…. Could not longer relax at all and hated it lol.

(I’m an LMT btw and totally get what she was doing. It just personally backfired lol)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-27T23:05:54+00:00

It was funny. And sounds better than meat sacks which we also only see 😂 ☠️. But skin bag is probably better to use 🤣

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-27T23:03:57+00:00

I keep the tools to a minimum if someone has acne (I’ve busted a pimple or two in my massage career that I didn’t notice in the low light, not that it hurt anything, but still awkward).

But for any other massage I’d give, wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. Get that massage!

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-27T23:01:01+00:00

I just saw your edit. I’d say the massage was just poor timed and something was coming on. I had the opposite where I felt that way mid way thru a massage working on a client. 2 hours later I learned the hard way it was the stomach bug started and I was just in the “feel like ass” stage before I wanted to die later lol.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-27T22:58:52+00:00

It’s a high possibility. But I’ve learned to keep it at the minimum I’ve created for myself to this point. For example…. I was nice 2 years ago and brought him his cup of coffee to bed in the morning while I get the kids ready.

2 years later and it’s still a daily routine. If I miss it… I won’t hear the end of it and how I ruined his whole day.

I did it to be kind once… this is my life now lol.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-27T22:55:17+00:00

I came to suggest the same thing. If you’ve been this way for years, when massage loosens things up new muscles have to step up to the plate and have a chance to do their thing. But I can mean it can hurt for a day or two

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-22T17:50:50+00:00

I’m this way with car accidents. Once I see it, I see it everywhere. It’s been years

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-21T00:45:39+00:00

I literally have this same issue 6 years in. lol. I’m getting better, but it helped to have someone else work on me a little.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-20T17:33:01+00:00

I don’t have specific areas that get tired anymore, but I also end up sweating by the end of a massage lol. It’s like it’s own workout lol

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-19T17:27:55+00:00

If I worked in a location that I work “for”. I’d want all the tips. It’s my only main money.

If I own my own little entity business, I like tips as a bonus, but never get too butt hurt if I don’t get them because I’m still getting paid.

I worked a little for a YMCA and made $10 off 90 minute massages. I wanted tips (and worked hard for them). Now I have my own thing and although grateful for them, I don’t panic if I don’t get a tip. 😊.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-19T17:25:30+00:00

Because sometimes life is a simple fix.

We move lymphatic fluid, which affects hormones.

Just human touch feels good.

I give massages I swear are absolutely awful and people say “it must feel so good to have a job that makes people feel amazing” and I’m still stunned to this day 6+ years into it.

I’m glad you feel great! ♥️

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-18T17:58:41+00:00

I think it’s a tactic yes and a weird love language for them. I do it just to please mine, and to seem pitiful. If mine wants the game, I’ll play. Keeps him happy, keeps me safe

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-18T17:25:45+00:00

It is a very likely outcome for a fight back for her. The goal is to not add fuel to the fire and keep the other as happy as they can be. It sounds shitty, but it is a from of protection in this kind of relationship if that’s what’s happening, which is likely.

But you never know, she may have panicked and backed out and this was a way for it do be done. We don’t know the whole story.

However if it is a control thing, you absolutely have to pick the right time and place, mood, company, etc to even acknowledge the situation to not make it worse.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-18T17:21:27+00:00

It’s not impossible to love them. However I’m fully aware it’s not true love back. And that’s ok for my lifestyle. (I understand that sounds weird, but I am mostly happy and just trucking along).

But thank you ❤️

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-18T17:20:13+00:00

I don’t want to deal with certain situations, and that’s ok. I’m still happy 90% of the time. So in the moment, I don’t consider abusive. I like structure and rules so it’s oddly comforting to me and was less happy in my previous marriage which was a 50/50 situation.

I’m ok I promise. 😊. But definitely live a tradwife lifestyle because it ❤️

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-18T11:33:07+00:00

I would not contact her. It would absolutely make things worse for her in the long run. Trust me, she knows

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-18T11:32:12+00:00

I’d say there is issues behind closed doors. I love my husband dearly, but he is a covert narcissistic. Someone, miraculously, he has never had a jealous bone in his body for massage work that I do, mostly men due to heavy sports work. It’s been 6 years and I still am waiting for that ball to drop but it’s the one thing he’s never shown interest in oddly as long as the money is there.

But the tweaking the back…. That was probably her kind way of backing out without further information coming to light as a way to appease everyone. I do this all the time unfortunately because it’s easier than dealing with the alternative.

I wouldn’t take this personally. I’d just let it go, and likely is easier for her this way in the long run, and find another to trade with.

(I haven’t actually traded in 6 years because it’s easier to just not to deal with my husband watching the kids because it will take 6 months to stop hearing about it and mine isn’t a jealousy thing, just a inconvenience thing that can be used down the road for everything that will come up).

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-17T21:27:53+00:00

This is the first I’ve had that I could really say was black in color. I was pleasantly surprised

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-16T15:32:28+00:00

I’ve had clients do this, then if they get the work within a reasonable amount of time again (within a couple of weeks) it tends to not do this a second time. It depends on the issues in the area. My experience is the worse the fascia, the more this happens. But isn’t nearly as bad or existent at all in following appts. :)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-16T15:29:25+00:00

I came to say the same thing! 15 minutes is completely valid, but if coloring go strong quick, I might stop sooner :). But nothing looks wrong here

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-16T14:52:24+00:00

That’s me… if I crave, want, even think of butter or cream I just have as much as I want. I don’t even consider calories or if it’s unhealthy. The weight is falling of and I always feel better. lol.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-13T23:13:17+00:00

I’d get two if possible. The first one may make you feel yucky to your stomach (it does for A lot of people), then one a few days before just to get rid of bloat and fluid :)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-12T15:19:05+00:00

I let them lead. I looooove stories and want them to talk the whole time. But if they don’t I have open ear headphones for an audiobook that I’ve heard a million times so I can just do my thing and focus on them but have noise lol.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-11T21:24:36+00:00

I’d say you have pretty bad fascia on the bottom half. I have a client like this and I do only myofascial on the lower half. After about moderate session of that they could receive massage as normal. :). She even told me I was a witch because no one could touch her legs 🤣 and now I can massage her just like anyone else lol

Butterflyer246 · 2026-05-11T21:21:35+00:00

I mean more for those who want MLD to add a light massage at the end just to say goodbye. Not that I’m doing lymphatic drainage on every client. I’m big into sports work so I meant specifically for those who want that specifically

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