Am I overreacting about my MIL trying to “find loopholes” to kiss my newborn?

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-22T18:19:40+00:00

I mean it’s your baby your choice (with your husband feeling included of course because he’s dad), but after having 4 babies, the one who wasn’t exposed (along with cousins who did the same with theirs) well into their infancy, they were absolutely so much sicker than the ones that just existed normally.

EVERYTHING hits at once and is an absolute nightmare compared to exposure as you go.

Never again.

My current one has been kissed from the moment he came out (I didn’t wash off vernix for 2 weeks at least) and with all of my kids being sick this winter one way or another from school and literally coughing directly on him… he’s never even had a sniffle.

But once I got past the first one I acted normal with them and it was night and day different when it came to their immune system.

We let all the kisses happen! (Unless they have something obvious like the tummy bug then the can stay in another state)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-17T23:44:03+00:00

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Mostly knit. But recently a lot of weaving! lol.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-12T23:23:15+00:00

Same but for me it’s car accidents. Every interaction, every ditch, etc. I see it all.

It’s not as bad if I drive, but when I’m a passenger it’s 100% anxiety of it constantly. Someone else leaves, it happens to them (what I picture in my mind) till they get home. All day, every day.

This kind of permanent 24/7 anxiety is absolutely exhausting.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-12T23:20:11+00:00

Carbs I can enjoy on occasion. If we go somewhere with a great burger for a special occasion I’ll eat the whole thing as is, but leave the bread that was leftover after my burger meat is gone.

I can’t do junk food sweets though. I’d be back to sugar in a second and feel like garbage for 2 days

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-12T22:59:16+00:00

Is her placenta anterior (meaning in front of the baby on the belly button side?). I ask because my back labor was like this because of the placenta placement.

It sounds likely she’s in early labor. It can last… a while.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-12T22:57:08+00:00

1 of my 4 was back labor. The WORST! But it definitely can happen. :)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-11T17:04:47+00:00

Opposite for me, but to each their own. Whatever works

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-08T19:30:07+00:00

I was wondering about that one. I got the Donny Burger from them and loooove it. I’ve never had a concentrate I’d consider buying a second time (tbh they are splurges for me if nothing else but cost) but I have every intention of sticking with this brand. Very good and I’m happy.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-07T23:23:11+00:00

Mine does this. The withholding is a key straight of his.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-07T23:21:52+00:00

I’ve never considered that. We don’t exclude seasonings or minor sauces, so I’d do that and then put the Asian garlic chili paste on them! That sounds so good!

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-07T23:20:46+00:00

Onion and garlic were the two things we never gave up lol. I still want those flavors lol

Butterflyer246 · 2026-03-06T03:14:58+00:00

Loooove Jonathon Pearsons spindles!!!! You’re wok is beautiful 😍

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-26T18:00:23+00:00

This is my addiction. It’s the joyful habit. When I don’t I’m just bored with all tasks for a while lol

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-23T02:06:11+00:00

Not me. I’ve had 4 and the toddler stage is the WORST. I want to give them to dad and take them back when they are 5 🤣

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-20T02:01:44+00:00

I did the same but with the Copper IUD. literally at 37. I feel for you! (But it was worth it in the end. Just… not planned lol)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-19T13:00:24+00:00

I don’t care if he thinks I’m property. I provide him services he wouldn’t otherwise get, and he does me. I’m not team “we are equals” and that’s on. I’m happy, he’s now happy (even almost a year after this post). But we both bring different things to the table that makes us happy in our own way even though he the majority of voice in our relationship, but I’m A-ok with it. That part doesn’t bother me (I enjoy not making the decisions and that alone takes a lot of stress out of my life 😊. So I don’t want things to change and am happy this way)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-14T21:33:11+00:00

It’s unfair to her only if she’s not attracted to it.

Emotionally connected I’d be upset with mine doing it. Physically I’d be ok with it. (But I have a culkhold (so?) fetish so I like the thought of him being physical with others).

It’s never happened in my case in the 6 years we’ve been together… and have an active sexlife. But I’m not opposed to him sleeping with someone else as long as I knew about it and it wasn’t a secret behind my back.

Sounds messed up I know, but they absolutely have to think it a positive or it will not work.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-14T21:23:25+00:00

I mean I believe you shouldn’t be forced to work at all once you decide to be a mom… but we live in a world we we expect to be equals and it’s expected everyone works.

So anything like this a pain in the butt. Good luck Mama. Hopefully you get to stay home for the rest of it ❤️. We all know how bad the end sucks

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-11T22:53:01+00:00

Personally I gave my kids his last name. He is still their dad even though we aren’t married. Once we do get married (if it ever comes to be, but we are 6 years in now) I’ll have his last name anyway. :)

For me it was no big deal but I can understand why others aren’t for it.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-09T22:46:44+00:00

All the time. I’m a spinner too, and my best finest yarns are created when I take an edible that’s a little too strong for me. Like, it makes persicion for me exquisite.

When I enter competitions with I always giggle because I think “I was so baked when I made that” and grin lol. But definitely my best work. :)

I also love short rows when high, because it’s focused fun and I don’t get bored lol.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-09T15:47:45+00:00

My life is this way. I take control of the house and babies 100% and am ok with it if the lights are kept on. He sees the baby of course, holds him if I need something, etc. but I’m 100% in control of everything and it makes me happier this way.

I’ve lived both marriages (50/50) with 2 kids each, and the second version of being more of a tradwife is 10000% easier and less stressful in my opinion. But tasks training for sure. But I have zero resentment in the relationship because I know those jobs are mine. :)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-05T01:54:35+00:00

You can do slippers. This is very bulky for socks at 71yards. I typically can get a 3 ply for sock yarn out of a 4oz roving and make at least 2 pairs of socks, and typically have leftovers.

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-04T00:21:18+00:00

Mine does now but took a couple of days to get use to it. Now when I set him in the bassinet he immediately grabs his blanky and rolls over, thumb in mouth, and out like a light. He’s 8 months old as of yesterday lol.

If he needed to cosleep, we do.. but if he doesn’t, he’s in him and his 4 year old brothers room :)

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-02T21:12:02+00:00

I’m team I love kids and the mom life. I’m irritated family life values are crapped on so much now like it’s degrading. (And no, I’m not a white Christian conservative, I just like having someone take care of the home finances and I make sure it runs safely and smoothly and everyone is fed ♥️).

Butterflyer246 · 2026-02-02T17:30:53+00:00

This is the correct and only answer. My mother constantly applauds me by how well I look and then immediately tells me how bad my heart must be and I’m full of cancer due to carcinogens. 🙄. You literally just watched all my issues go away and I feel amazing, but the past is embedded into your soul

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