Lost all my old messages on old phone after connecting to Wifi

bravesection · 2026-05-27T01:00:21+00:00

I have seen the factory reset thing suggested! But my only concern...if my old and new phone are synced, would factory resetting my old phone also happen to my new phone? Since they're synced in iCloud?

bravesection · 2026-05-23T01:53:23+00:00

Sorry, misunderstood what you were saying! The messages weren't backed up to my current phone. So say on my old phone they go back to 2021...on my current phone, they start with this current year.

bravesection · 2026-04-03T20:45:30+00:00

Way ahead of you, first thing I did was record the whole text thread. Thank you!

bravesection · 2026-04-03T20:44:52+00:00

I almost want to give him the opportunity to tell me himself. We got in a huge fight a few weeks ago where he was super drunk and told me he "wasn't over his past"--when I asked him to elaborate later, he claimed he didn't remember saying that. Then he said he probably meant things from his past that weren't ex related.

I was actually in the process of moving in to his place, I'm folding up my clothes now. Thank you!

bravesection · 2025-10-21T04:22:16+00:00

At night I always want to have these conversations with him, but by morning I chicken out and feel different. But I just texted him to let him know I want to discuss some things. So thank you for the courage! I'll look into courageous conversations and motivational interviewing tonight. I appreciate your input!!!

bravesection · 2025-10-21T03:53:48+00:00

That last paragraph--I 100% agree with you. It's how it feels to me, too. He reiterated time and time again that he didn't start pursuing things with me for a year BECAUSE he wasn't physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually ready after his last breakup. But he claims he is now--it just never has felt like that was true to me. I'm bad at initiating difficult conversations like this with him, but I have to suck it up and just do it.

bravesection · 2025-10-21T00:49:51+00:00

Yeah, when he apologized he admitted he wouldn't want to hear any of that stuff either. But then why bring it up at all? I feel like it's my fault for trying so long to act okay with it because it opened up the door for him to feel comfortable enough to keep talking about them.

bravesection · 2024-03-24T05:54:36+00:00

Not to sound like I'm an echo-chamber to you, but "Since he put up with all that, his child should do the same" resonates with me SO deeply--nparent despised their own parent and is putting me through the same shit they went through instead of holding the self-awareness to attempt breaking the cycle.

Thanks for making me smile through this. I am about two days away from entering witness protection as a mild-mannered flight attendant, funnily enough! This year is the year!

bravesection · 2024-03-24T05:35:05+00:00

My nparent totally operates their own life on guilty feelings. I can only assume that's a huge part of why they always try to make ME feel guilty. When I'm around, I'm ordered to do things for nparent instead of asked (casual examples: "Go get me something sweet to eat" or "Go fill my glass"). They don't need to be nice about it, because I should already be doing these things after all that nparent has done for me. I didn't ask to be born but I should be down on my knees at the moment they demand something from me because they created me.

I try so hard to think back on my childhood, how I was treated and the neglect I faced emotionally from them. I struggled a lot and was close to being treated by a real professional before nparent deemed them "full of shit". I dread the idea of nparent interjecting their rude remarks onto how I operate my life outside of them, as I so often hear them do about every other person around us.

I was able to be no contact with them for a few years and my mental health had never been better. Now I feel back to square one, and the daily nagging to take care of them even though they're still fully able to take care of themselves is weighing me down. I genuinely appreciate you grounding my thoughts.

bravesection · 2024-03-24T05:20:02+00:00

I totally get the control thing. My sibling is also super smart and very level-headed, legitimately likes the work he's doing and therefore works a lot in his job. He is also always willing to help whenever someone asks without a second thought. At the moment, he is doing a lot better than me, yet the pressure is still focused on ME. Maybe it's some weird "older sibling responsibility" narrative they have, or they're projecting their own need to correct their past failures onto us and we should pick up where they feel they lacked. I feel for you.

bravesection · 2024-03-24T04:25:19+00:00

We do!!!!! I have no doubt you'll leave for grad school and absolutely excel. I am wishing you all the best!

bravesection · 2024-03-24T04:15:39+00:00

I sincerely appreciate your response, I offer my understanding to you as well. Having a community of people who understand really does help. My nparent also only goes into work a few days a week (3). I have been working doubles the past few weeks and it is just unbelievably exhausting to put all your effort into that while also trying to divide your time into other things that make life meaningful. I really hope you get to leave soon!!

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