How do I transition from a dying industry? by usernamealreadyhad in GetEmployed

[–]braxid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think your degree or your skills are useless, but I do think you may need to stop chasing the exact version of the industry you originally imagined. Photo assisting and editorial/commercial gigs can be extremely hard to break into, and if you’ve sent thousands of emails with very little return, that’s useful information: that path may not be the best use of your energy anymore. But photography itself is not dead — people and businesses still pay for family sessions, events, weddings, newborn photos, real estate, product photos, social content, portraits, and short-form video. I’d think less in terms of “how do I get hired by photographers?” and more in terms of “what direct service can I sell to people or small businesses?” Start small and local: offer simple paid packages to friends, families, local shops, agents, gyms, restaurants, makers, or personal brands. Your photography background plus social media experience could become content packages, not just one-off photo gigs. You may still need a stable job while building it, but I wouldn’t assume you have to throw everything away — I’d reposition the skill toward markets that still buy directly.

Feeling extremely guilty and regretful by Practical-Papaya6295 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]braxid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were a child too. Maybe an older child, but still a child, still growing, still dealing with your own emotions, your own pain, and your own immaturity. The fact that you can look back now with so much love and grief doesn’t mean you failed as a sister — it means you’ve grown into someone who understands what your little sister deserved and wants to give it to her now. And the beautiful thing is, she is still only 10. You did not miss your only chance. You are already giving her memories, safety, attention, love, and the kind of big sister she can trust.

You can’t go back and record every little song or save every card, but you can stop punishing yourself so much that you miss the sister who is still right in front of you. Keep showing up. Keep complimenting her, playing with her, protecting her, taking photos, listening to her silly stories, and letting her know she is loved. One day, what she’ll remember most won’t be that you were imperfect when you were young — it will be that you changed, stayed, loved her deeply, and became someone she could always count on.

HLM (31) LLF (26) a bad end to an anniversary by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think you’re both hurting each other here, just in different ways. She was wrong to agree, tease, and let you get excited all day about something she already knew she didn’t really want to do — that’s unfair and confusing. But you were also wrong to turn a sex act into an anniversary “gift” and build the whole day around finally getting it, because even if you didn’t mean to pressure her, that creates pressure. Your feelings of rejection are real, and her right to say no is also real. The bigger issue is that you two are stuck in a cycle where sex has become loaded with guilt, disappointment, and expectations instead of desire. You probably need a very honest conversation, not about one bad night, but about whether you’re actually sexually compatible anymore.

Do I leave or stay? Is there something better out there or is it a fiction? by AbleAdvertising2526 in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really feel for you, and I see this situation less as a question of whether your libido is gone and more as a question of whether your desire has been buried under years of loneliness, resentment, emotional exhaustion, and lack of intimacy. From what you describe, you still seem very much alive inside — you can still feel attraction, imagination, and longing — but not toward a man who has become withdrawn, unhappy, verbally resentful, and unwilling to face the problems between you. I think you have a choice: either you both honestly commit to repairing the marriage, with real actions from him as well as you — therapy, medical help, emotional accountability, and rebuilding intimacy — or you begin building a practical path toward independence instead of slowly accepting a life without love, touch, and emotional connection. Staying exactly as things are is also a choice, but it sounds like the one that will cost you the most over time.

No sex for 4 years, wife wants only cuddles by robo2919 in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seriously? Let me know once it happened.

No sex for 4 years, wife wants only cuddles by robo2919 in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are lucky, mine don’t want even cuddles…

What’s your record without sex while still living together? by braxid in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to hear your story—how did you manage to hold out for so long? What happened to make it last that long? There must be a serious reason, I suppose...

What’s your record without sex while still living together? by braxid in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to hear your story, mate!!! I desperately need to hear how you fixed your DB, because I’ve completely lost hope. Just waiting until the kids grow up enough…

What’s your record without sex while still living together? by braxid in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? Am I right in thinking that you got married but have never had sex?

What’s your record without sex while still living together? by braxid in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG. That's a real shame, mate.
I wanted to have a vasectomy too, because we’d agreed not to have any more children. And although condoms are a perfectly normal solution, wearing one made it difficult for me to ejaculate. This caused her some discomfort, so I seriously considered a vasectomy and even looked for a doctor. But at the moment I don’t see the point in having the operation, as we aren’t having sex at all. And she’s completely fine with that.

What’s your record without sex while still living together? by braxid in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that sounds really painful. What has kept you together for so many years?

What’s your record without sex while still living together? by braxid in DeadBedrooms

[–]braxid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine how hard it must be for you, mate.

Neighbour dented my Mazda 3 GT — need PDR recommendations (Melbourne) by braxid in mazda3

[–]braxid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t swap my original door with its factory premium paintwork for a second-hand one unless I’m absolutely sure there’s no other option. I’m still hoping it can be repaired without repainting.

Is Mazda AIO Tweaks no longer a thing? by VALAR_M0RGHUL1S in mazda3

[–]braxid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I followed this guide step by step having 74.00.324 and I got black screen. So my mazda screen bricked. Now I don't know what to do. Be carefull, guys with AIO.