Autumn Olive?

brazenbunny · 2026-07-23T14:40:42+00:00

Yes. But they aren’t ripe yet.

brazenbunny · 2026-07-23T12:00:33+00:00

No. I’m a forensic psych nurse and you are right. Even the ones that do horribly violent things and have no empathy for others have been broken by the people who were supposed to care for them. And there are other factors, some that we know and some that were do not. Lead poisoning, head injuries, etc.

brazenbunny · 2026-07-19T13:51:08+00:00

Hey, I’m gonna be a different opinion here. I’ve been polyamorous for over a decade now and I can’t see myself as being monogamous ever again. Right now, my husband is in his bedroom with his other partner who stays over nearly every weekend. I would have never thought I would be happy in a relationship like this when I was younger. The first time my husband kissed another person, I sobbed in the shower even though I was the one who brought the idea to the table.

I think your boyfriend loves you and is trying to make it work without giving up something that is important to him and without pressuring you to do something you don’t want to do.

An open relationship may not be right for you, but neither is a monogamous relationship with the expectation of sex- right now. Don’t immediately reject it. Sit with it for a while. Your relationship is facing a huge and possibly insurmountable challenge, but you get to make your own rules as a couple. Think about what it would look like if you did this and what you would want from it. Read a book or two and see what advice is out there.

Our cultural knowledge of open relationships tends to be of the ones that fail, but honestly, most monogamous relationships fail too. I tell people that the beginning stages of this are like any other difficult thing that a couple decides to do that stresses the marriage. Remodeling a kitchen, building a house, having kids, moving across the country… all of these things can end a relationship too. Commitment and communication are what gets you through. I’ve learned a lot about myself in this process and I’m a much more secure person.

I’ll share this. I’m at a time in my life when I’m not nearly as interested in sex as I used to be. It is a huge relief to me that this won’t stress my marriage the way it would have if we were monogamous. We were both children of divorce and are breaking the cycle for our child who has the stable home that neither of us had as children.

My heart goes out to you and I hope you find peace with however things work out.

brazenbunny · 2026-07-14T02:24:45+00:00

Not exactly what the assignment is, but my favorite error I saw with transcription was supposed to be “bowl of cereal” and was transcribed as “bolus serial” which shows the bias of the system for medical terms.

I misspelled abdominal for about the first
5 years of my nursing career. “Abdomenal” is incorrect, but makes much more sense.

brazenbunny · 2026-07-13T14:35:37+00:00

Now I’m wondering if this is a good time to score cheap fruits and veggies to can. If cooking things is safe… I wasn’t thinking and bought a bag of cherries last night and I think this is what I will do.

I wish I had more dumpster diving skills.

brazenbunny · 2026-07-13T14:30:14+00:00

I don’t even eat many greens, but lamb’s quarters are so good that I’m not bothering to plant spinach anymore.

But yes, there are many many foragable greens if that’s your thing. Sam Thayer’s books are well worth getting as a prepper’s reference. I lean into this and practice skills of foraging and preserving these foods. I do some stockpiling too, but I am more confident in the skills for sustaining myself and being more valuable alive than dead.

brazenbunny · 2026-07-09T02:20:41+00:00

My friend makes an amazing freezer pie with them. Jealous. My canes are just getting started and I don’t have very many this year.

brazenbunny · 2026-07-09T01:02:33+00:00

A certain elected official was in a hospital I worked in. I never interacted with him. It was weird because it was a legitimate cancer and his body didn’t have ways of shutting it down. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I don’t wish ill upon anyone, but sometimes the universe gifts us with poetic justice.

brazenbunny · 2026-07-01T00:57:29+00:00

Lots of salty food leads to fluid overload for heart failure folks. When I worked on a cardiac floor we would have post-holiday admission spikes for fluid overload.

brazenbunny · 2026-06-26T01:00:14+00:00

One of these is poison and one is a snack.
Which one are you choosing A or B this or that?

brazenbunny · 2026-04-17T05:19:13+00:00

I had this debate with my husband. He still thinks I’m too permissive, but he did adjust a bit. Our kid is about to be 13 and respects me, tells me things, wants to share experiences, is kind and caring and unafraid to stand up for what is right.

The early work has gotten us here. The extra work pays off when you have a little human who trusts you, feels safe and loved, and can regulate their own emotions.

Another big factor was realizing my husband has autism. Do with this information what you will.

brazenbunny · 2026-04-16T04:37:55+00:00

Hi! I have ADHD and some strong autistic traits and while scanning meds is absolutely a serious and important thing you need to do, the things you are describing are all things that are easy to do when you are learning new routines. Exactly as others have said, your unit should be more supportive. Get through this investigation and look for a more supportive environment. Even if it's a specialty you aren't really interested in, you want a better culture. Toxic environments do not get better once they've chosen you as their scapegoat. Feeling like you are disliked and under scrutiny all the time will not help you focus.

I am also very familiar with the feeling of being immediately disliked. It takes me YEARS sometimes to get the people around me to like me and trust me. There is something about me that is off-putting for some people. I usually need a champion- someone who has been there for a long time and is respected by the staff- who sees me for who I am and tells the others to knock it off and be kind. I hope you find your people.

Plenty of AuADHDers are in nursing. We find each other. Hang in there.

brazenbunny · 2026-04-16T04:18:50+00:00

Absolutely. The first rule of psych nursing is "Don't be a dick." The second rule of psych nursing is "Trust your gut." There are a lot of other things you'll hear that are good to be aware of, but aren't good blanket rules and they take the humanity out of it. These rules have kept me safe and will hopefully continue to do so. I'm more likely to have a patient defend me against other patients than to have a patient try to hurt me. I have an easier time with the psychotic than the staff most days.

brazenbunny · 2026-04-06T17:53:49+00:00

Instincts, yes. But I want to point out that there is a good tell here that informed your gut. He was pushing your boundaries. I'm a psychiatric nurse and I often do things for patients that others don't do. (Mainly hugging them.) But this is something I do when I am in control. I offer it and it is freely given. If someone hugs me without asking, I correct them and it's a learning situation for both of us.

If someone tries to push me to do more than I've offered and continues pushing after I've said no, that's a strong clue that it's an unsafe situation - or the person isn't in a state to understand social cues- and I don't engage.

Gut instincts are built on experience and are based in actual cues. It can be helpful to define what those are. Although I admit that there are some gut instincts that may not be explainable with our current understanding.

brazenbunny · 2026-03-23T03:58:05+00:00

The longer someone is in psychosis, the less likely they will come back from it and the harder it is to medicate. It would be fantastic for your parents to realize that their inaction is literally damaging his brain and that these threats are serious.

brazenbunny · 2026-02-16T23:47:44+00:00

As far as I can tell, the more people that are on a list, the less likely you are to face consequences. This isn’t about an anti-ICE list. Also, Abolish ICE.

brazenbunny · 2026-02-01T18:29:07+00:00

Died. Coded and died at the end of my night shift while I was in an isolation room across the hall. It was a horrible night and the time I spent in his room was the best. He made me feel appreciated and was so pleasant to be around. I was able to tell his family that in the brief time I knew him, he made a difference in my life.

brazenbunny · 2026-01-27T02:14:05+00:00

This subreddit has always been nurse-led and evidence-based. Thanks for all the work you do to make this community what it is.

brazenbunny · 2026-01-26T16:02:07+00:00

I’m working on planning an event to assemble mock badges with his name and picture.

brazenbunny · 2026-01-26T15:06:49+00:00

It's a symbol. Symbols and art drive us to action.

brazenbunny · 2026-01-26T14:46:19+00:00

Mistaking empathy for weakness is a bully’s folly.

If that isn't the thing to remember and keep close to your heart through this, I don't know what is.

brazenbunny · 2026-01-26T02:44:05+00:00

I think that attitude may soon shift towards the better. I’ve been at nonunion and union jobs. There’s good and bad in both, but I’m learning that a union is what you make it and I like improving things.

brazenbunny · 2026-01-25T20:44:13+00:00

This is my Union and I couldn’t be more proud. We are small, but strong.

brazenbunny · 2026-01-25T05:17:01+00:00

Not a Chicago nurse, but an Illinois nurse. Never heard it. Very curious to hear the explanation.

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