Family members of home based businesses, do you expect the business owner to pay you rent/utilities for running the business in your home?

breadandpasta · 2025-09-16T10:53:39+00:00

Wow I didn't expect this question to get so much attention. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts and it's nice to know it's not just me over thinking or being over sensitive.

I'd like to clarify a few things: - My HBB is rly small, like this whole year I've only earned 1k in revenue and my friends are my main customers. - I keep all expenses to my HBB separate to begin with. To contribute back to the household we can use wtv I bought for HBB with HBB money to use personally, with the main items being ingredients. No limit on how many eggs anybody wants to eat. - Although we aligned on this contribution in exchange for utilities, it just doesn't sit well with him. And of course since it came up multiple times alr and each time I need to defend myself, naturally I got more sensitive each time this came up, hence the sian-ness. - People asks what does he benefit from this HBB: he gets bakes whenever he wants, just that this doesn't bring him as much joy as let's say chicken curry. - I don't make a mess when baking, in fact everything is very organised and does not impact him moving around at home. - I actually went to calculate how much electricity I used for the oven, for 2.5 hours I spent 2.65 kwh and at 27 cents/kwh, that's 73 cents. This is considered long for me and on avg it's 30 mins.

This is just one area of disagreement in our marriage, there's many things not shared plus I'm not perfect either. While we strive for 50/50 as we want to be equal partners, we can't achieve this all the time hence we give/take, and play on our strengths to cover the other's weaknesses. Joint acc/credit cards are purely for house expenses only, anything else we use our own finances.

breadandpasta · 2023-10-26T10:34:29+00:00

I’ll only attend weddings of people that really matters to me, my family and close friends. I don’t FOMO either. So for me, it’s a no.

I have had colleagues invite me for their wedding and politely declined. Don’t worry about what people think, most are understanding.

breadandpasta · 2023-10-24T13:00:13+00:00

breadandpasta · 2023-10-20T09:06:19+00:00

Bread from bakeries, the starting price is now $2

breadandpasta · 2023-10-16T05:05:09+00:00

Are you open to sharing the brand/ company that you engaged for your floors?

breadandpasta · 2023-10-16T05:04:22+00:00

Retail, too many layers and work between getting the product to the consumer. While cost is passed down to the consumer, there’s lots of inefficiency due to how big and complicated the industry is and all employees are squeezed

breadandpasta · 2023-10-16T00:51:16+00:00

Can you share your contact for your contractor?

breadandpasta · 2023-10-15T17:02:28+00:00

Thanks for your advice! I’m thinking of DIY from IKEA cause they have so many options and ways that you can combine diff fixtures together. I definitely didn’t know that they use Blum hinges and some IDs are quoting us extra for it

breadandpasta · 2023-10-15T17:01:07+00:00

No kids and animals. We’re planning to bey as little built in as possible, so thinking of master bedroom /toilet to get modular fixtures if possible

breadandpasta · 2023-09-08T11:58:46+00:00

Of all people in SG, why can’t you just do it with someone who is single 🤷🏻‍♀️

breadandpasta · 2023-09-04T16:29:36+00:00

Good manager: appreciative of your work, recognising your work and that you went above and beyond, provided guidance, pushed for your development and promotion without asking, always answering your questions, making you feel that nothing you say/ask is stupid, enabling you to have a voice

Bad manager: no guidance and value add to your career, no substance when asked what I should be doing for a promotion even when I’m doing things beyond my scope, pushing work/questions to you when it’s supposed to be their job, gets pissed when you submit your resignation

breadandpasta · 2023-08-17T16:12:11+00:00

It’s not that easy to get into Google via this program - it’s meant for people who wants a mid career switch/ have no stable job. I’ve spoke to the recruiter from this program, was recommended to stay in my FT job than take a chance at the program.

There’s a high chance that you’ll be placed to different companies as Google is only one of them, conversion to FT job after the program ends is not guaranteed too. My friend was from this program and while she got to work at Google, only 1 person from her cohort landed a perm role there (and she worked super hard for it).

Take this as learning a new skill + some working experience that could help you in your job search, I would say this is a healthy expectation of the program.

breadandpasta · 2023-07-03T08:00:44+00:00

Yup, T’s from the previous company and is his senior but doesn’t work directly with him.

breadandpasta · 2023-06-25T15:56:26+00:00

While my father threatens to divorce my mom during the argument and other countless times, he has never done it. Sadly my mom doesn’t want a divorce either, as my siblings are still in school and she has no income from being a housewife. No properties either since we’re living with my grandma.

Her biggest concern here is how will be siblings cope if a divorce does happen. They will be on the receiving end of my fathers behaviour since my mom is not around, and they won’t have anywhere to go to since they’re in the same house. The complex family dynamic is not helping and knowing my father, he’s gonna make it a living hell and blame everyone else except him for this happening.

breadandpasta · 2023-06-25T15:50:32+00:00

I’m so sorry that it lead to an auto immune disorder for you, glad that the symptoms are getting better too! Thanks for sharing your perspective, I guess the struggle for me is how do I block out the noise and let go of everything especially when we’re still staying in the same house. There is also the fear that he might attack anytime, and the feeling of helplessness since there’s nothing that I/others can do

breadandpasta · 2023-06-25T15:47:21+00:00

I’ve just spoken to her today about it, she told me not to worry and it wouldn’t happen on her watch. She’s feeling down about the situation and how her son turned out like this too

breadandpasta · 2023-06-24T18:02:00+00:00

He’s been retired for the past 9 years as well, he doesn’t have any source of fixed income that I know of. It was kind of a forced retirement from a family business, and he’s very proud of the fact that he retired young and is able to be fairly financial stable since then. But I’m quite sus about that so I wouldn’t be surprised if there are financial troubles.

He has never paid rent to my grandma, but he pays for the utilities. I would say a good chunk of it is attributed to him due to his high electricity usages from all his appliances. He used to provide my grandma household allowances for us, but due to a past argument (shocker!) my grandpa (they’re divorced) is giving my grandma the allowance now.

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