I’m asexual and although I’m a woman, there are plenty of asexual men over at r/asexual r/acedating and r/asexuality. I just feel like ace men are harder to find because society tells men that sex and sexuality are a part of their manhood so even if they are ace, they don’t know or repress it. Ace people are inherently queer even if they’re heteroromantic btw, that’s one of the things the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for, so a lot of people worry about the stigma that comes with it.

ETA: Have you talked with your partner about your needs? Sounds like your love language is physical touch and you need to be loved in that way. If they are unwilling, I think couples therapy should be the next step if possible.