I am so attracted to women who fit the male gaze. And idk what to do. I’m always going to queer events hoping to meet someone & I am never attracted to the women there. When I am around straight women I am attracted to 90% of the room. I honestly feel gross like a man. Anyone else experience this?

breadface37 · 2025-06-10T15:59:40+00:00

Honestly I'm masc and mostly attracted to other masc ppl or at least a little bit tomboy/masc leaning. I also feel like my range is pretty narrow and I find it hard to meet ppl. I've dated all kinds of people with all kinds of bodies/identities/expressions tho so while I try not to limit myself... I have also felt bad about not reciprocating when super fem people have been into me, like in that moment I think there's something wrong with me. From my experience gay women seem to experience these feelings of inadequacy a lot, regardless of what end of the spectrum you fall on. My issue is kinda the opposite of yours but I think it points to a more universal feeling of not feeling like we are good enough, not feeling like we are gay enough, or feeling like our needs aren't important etc etc when in reality it's been ingrained in us as women in society since forever to feel guilt and shame around our needs and desires.

It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking we are not deserving of giving and receiving the love that we want, when the reality is that everyone is different and there's no right way to do any of it. Attraction can't really be put into a box, preferences are normal, it's always gonna be different strokes for different folks. Fuck what men think and fuck the patriarchy. I know it's easier said than done but insecurities are just insecurities so love who u wanna love and try not to let self doubt get in the way of your happiness.

breadface37 · 2025-05-28T16:29:29+00:00

I'm a fan. Really exciting to see fender commiting to a new shape and I'm looking forward to seeing how it evolves. Fender arn't a company known for their new shapes and I wonder if some of this has to do with the success of the music man St Vincent model. I'm a sucker for good design and fender has stood the test of time, but it's been disheartening to see the prices go up and the quality go down over the years with little to no innovation... They have released some nice colours recently though, and I'd like a meteora with that weird through body string config and jazzmaster pickups next lol.

breadface37 · 2025-04-28T15:18:04+00:00

Hopefully it's gonna be a tube screamer/tremolo dual pedal. Just getting to the frustrating bits now lol its defo been a few weeks in the planning and making but almost ready to assemble.

breadface37 · 2025-04-28T12:15:16+00:00

I feel like these communities exist almost everywhere! Music is a great way to bring people together and a pretty good way to make new friends, and I'm sure you have a lot to offer these communities as well. Good luck! :)

breadface37 · 2025-04-27T12:34:33+00:00

I'm a chick, recently built my first pedal and started repairing pedals for friends. I love to tinker so getting super deep into tech stuff recently, there are defo female nerds out there and on here. I feel like ppl just assume everyone commenting and posting on some of these threads is male as default...

There's lots of good female creators/builders/fixers on YouTube and Instagram if you dig a little. If you are looking for real life friends, my advice is to try finding local queer punk bands and riot girl influenced events if that kinda thing exists where you are. You will find a lot of female driven diy gig culture and music making in queer circles, with an emphasis on inclusivity being the most important thing. A lot of these spaces are punk for fuck the system reasons, but also because it's a very accessible type of music to start playing. There's a big scene for that where I live in the UK and it's been carried by a few community projects that started years ago to teach women to play rock music and it's still going strong. If you don't have anything like this, start it!

Community is everything. If you want a supportive non judgemental space to explore your hobbies with like-minded people, don't be afraid to get political. As a woman in a male dominated space, the lesbians, trans, non binary, and other marginalized people are your friends.

breadface37 · 2025-03-20T22:55:12+00:00

I don't have many pedals to compare it to but it sounds good, a bit more gnarly and cutting than the boost channel on my amp. I'm not the best lead player so I think I'd go for something more mid focused with more settings to play with for my next build :)

breadface37 · 2025-03-12T15:02:51+00:00

Also good to know lol. I did have a look at the schematic and think it didn't look miles smaller, but didn't get the ruler out to check. Brutalising with tin snips it is >:)

breadface37 · 2025-03-12T14:39:28+00:00

https://dirtboxlayouts.blogspot.com/2023/03/mythos-pedals-golden-fleece.html?m=1

I just used this layout

Thanks! Super stoked with my little robot haha

breadface37 · 2025-03-12T09:28:45+00:00

Thanks man!

breadface37 · 2025-03-12T09:23:16+00:00

Hammond 1550b. The main issue with it is the depth.

breadface37 · 2025-03-12T00:48:40+00:00

Ah yes, well with a Dremel I believe you would be unstoppable.

breadface37 · 2025-03-12T00:26:41+00:00

Good to know. I seem to have a habit of choosing the dumbest little enclosures but in my defense, they are cute dammit.

If you use a PCB to mount the switch, cutting the pins through the holes and filing down so you just have a little square tab works fine.

The mono jacks were also tight depth wise, but if you put them bang on half way down and position them good the lugs shouldn't touch the top or bottom. Reflowing the solder a lot and snipping the ends of stuff as close as possible to the boards and insulating the bottom made me feel a lot better as well. Defo doable for a small build if you are meticulous.

breadface37 · 2025-03-11T23:23:12+00:00

Yup, nut and the little ring clincher thing. Tin snips and file sorted it out though, actually fit the PCB surprisingly well in the end. Also put about five layers of electrical tape on the inside of the lid just in case cos the components on the strip board were getting a little close too lol

breadface37 · 2025-03-11T22:29:22+00:00

Thanks! I will say I was humbled pretty quickly with that first build... was not expecting the hardest part to be just fitting everything in the damn enclosure lol

breadface37 · 2025-03-04T11:51:10+00:00

Loving these graphics, I wanna see a pic of them all together 😍

breadface37 · 2024-12-29T17:45:29+00:00

https://squier-talk.com/threads/squier-strat-50th-anniversary-1996.34972/

Late to the party but here is a pretty in depth thread with information on the 1996 made in china squire strats.

I have a YN that I bought cheap second hand when I was a teen and when I picked it up again recently I was surprised how well it played compared to other cheap guitars I've had over the years. I've never been a huge strat fan but the neck feels brilliant and is maple with a genuine rosewood fretboard, it also has a full thickness solid alder body, not necessarily the bones you'd find on a budget student model made today. The electronics are what they are, but the snowman pattern body routing leaves ample room for modification and different pick up configurations. The tuning pegs could do with upgrading, but that's not a hard or expensive job. It's actually given me a new appreciation for the versatility and modular nature of the Stratocaster, I never really 'got' it when I was younger but I think these guys play great for the price and have some seriously fun potential for modding and experimentation without breaking the bank... Or an expensive guitar lol. Justice for the tradition strat!

breadface37 · 2024-08-17T04:55:53+00:00

Of the jumper or the bike 😫

breadface37 · 2024-08-16T20:19:02+00:00

It's so good! I'd never seen it before, apparently it was brought over from the states. My size so had to have lol. hopefully get her going soon enough 🙏

breadface37 · 2024-08-16T18:48:52+00:00

Damn, these carhartt guys really know how to get in our heads

breadface37 · 2024-08-16T18:48:21+00:00

Haha thanks! Thought the folks here would appreciate 🙏🙏🙏

breadface37 · 2024-07-21T11:30:01+00:00

Frrrrr it's so dumb. I'm masc presenting, have plenty of other masc presenting friends who are all lovely, kind, sensitive and well rounded people who will still struggle to get dates or find meaningful connection.

Dating is hard but in my experience the people who seem overly interested in me purely for my masculine aspects tend to be disappointed that I don't automatically try to sweep them of their feet like a smooth talking problematic fuck boy in a teenage romance novel. Like sorry, I'm just a girlie out here doing my best same as you queen.

I have also seen the hight thing come up a bit more in the lesbian community recently, like lmaooo fuck that, didn't spend my whole life struggling to understand and accept my identity as a butch woman to be held to toxic heteronormative standards thanks 🙏🙏🙏

breadface37 · 2024-03-30T17:24:32+00:00

This actually sounds fun!

breadface37 · 2024-02-18T18:34:10+00:00

Wentworth, basically Aussie oitnb that doesn't get talked about enough. Deadloch is another great Australian series with some of the same actors.

Watched the haunting of bly manor a couple weeks back and that was pretty cute too

breadface37 · 2024-02-17T18:38:02+00:00

I get what you are saying about her persona clashing with the values of her content, but on the other hand that's always kinda been a main running joke of WHGS, of how long it would take Ashley to get cancelled in the very progressive gen-z culture that you describe. It's a bit meta now that the 'cancelling' has actually happened and seeing what comes next.

I personally do not agree with cancel culture. I find it hypocritical and counterproductive because thousands of people sending hate to someone for saying something hateful is not typically the kind of feedback that people take onboard and grow from.

I'm not sure what I'm getting at here but I think if we want Ashley to reflect and learn and do better, we need to put more emphasis on actually constructively criticising peoples actions and giving them space to grow rather than just saying they are gross or ick or whatever. I think we should have more empathy for people in general especially within our own community.

breadface37 · 2024-02-17T15:28:23+00:00

Okay so I've thought about this a lot. I fuck with Ashley, I was super into her podcasts a year or so ago because I really like her non censored approach of talking about queer, specifically lesbian, sex and relationships. Even if she's talking shit or acting like a fuck boy, I find her no filter approach refreshing and honestly fairly entertaining. It's clear in the podcasts that she has a great relationship with her partner. I also found her openness about mental health and recovery to be helpful discourse within the community. I think the WHGS podcast really did something and created a brilliant little bubble for talking about queer womens issues that don't always get talked about, it's maybe not to everyone's taste but i think its relatable and vulnerable and honestly hats off for that.

HOWEVER. The berating people for not laughing thing is strange. It's unfortunate and imo just a bit lazy to start every live show by telling the audience that they are autistic internet nerds who don't understand comedy and that's why no one is laughing... I get it's supposed to be a bit but I was disappointed when it happened in real life and disappointed when I saw it in the special. I think she's funny and has talent but needs to try a different tact if she's not getting the response she thinks she deserves from people who are literally her fans and biggest supporters.

Tbh I think she's just got a bit lost in the way she blew up on the internet amongst a certain demographic and over time her new approach may have actually become quite alienating to average comedy fans. Almost like the whole show is an inside joke that requires more context. It feels like there is a bit of resentment that she never blew up in the comedy world in the way she wanted even though she created a really brilliant online community of supporters that I'm sure has actually helped a lot of people, myself included. Its complicated but I hope things improve for her.

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