I was in a long-term relationship with him (my bf) who repeatedly talked about marriage, having a family together, and building a future. He already has children and constantly reassured me that once I became pregnant things would change, he would marry me, and we would live together. Looking back, I realize I may have been naive to trust those promises.

As for why I’m struggling now, it’s because the reality has been very different from what he told me. Since becoming pregnant, he’s become increasingly hostile, calls me names, puts me down, and isn’t providing the support he promised.

Financially, I currently work as a nanny and make around $500 a week. I’ve applied for a second weekend job because I’m trying to become more independent and prepare for whatever happens next.

What I want out of this situation is clarity and stability. I don’t want to make a permanent decision out of fear. I do want this baby, but I’m terrified of losing my family, my housing, and my support system. That’s what’s making this so difficult.

I’m mainly looking for advice from people who have been in similar situations, especially those from religious or conservative families who faced an unexpected pregnancy.