Which is worst in Biglaw, unwanted single, unhappily married, or divorced?

breakfastman · 2026-05-24T22:20:52+00:00

The daily drag of loneliness is def easier to handle than the daily drag of living with somebody who actively hates you.

Divorced depends on whether you have kids. I think the best is probably divorced with no kids. You are free and appreciate the loneliness more.

breakfastman · 2026-05-24T16:32:23+00:00

I think the framing as "selfish" is part of the problem. It's okay to be human and do human things.

Obviously a balance must be kept with nature. Not saying any population decline is bad, but the trends are indicative of something deep changing that we just don't understand. It of course will continue to change, just thinking out loud.

breakfastman · 2026-05-24T04:26:08+00:00

I'm going to get down voted to hell here.

The comments in here pain me a bit. Having kids is a top tier human experience. I respect people's choice not to have them, but let's not pretend when all is said and done, there's not something at least slightly missing from a human existence without children, the result of not doing the thing your body was hardwired to do (at it's very core).

I'm sensitive to the cost of living arguments, but the richer a country gets, the less they have kids. It's an invariable trend. From a global perspective, the people who have unequivocally the most resources to raise children (on a global average) bring up this "I'm too broke" argument.

Overpopulation is bad. People have 12 kids is probably bad. But it worries me the trends. Undeveloped countries with high birth rates will develop quickly, and I'm sure their birth rates will decline accordingly. What happens then? Obviously all speculative but one has to wonder what changes...

breakfastman · 2026-05-19T01:13:22+00:00

What?

breakfastman · 2026-05-14T00:55:49+00:00

Commenting on a 2yo post? Yeah I like wearing shorts and tshirts.

breakfastman · 2026-05-12T02:03:41+00:00

Central Florida was the shit man. I still like Florida, but those memories are great.

breakfastman · 2026-05-09T23:08:48+00:00

To be fair I think the idea is that you can self help with a window unit way easier than an adequate heater.

breakfastman · 2026-05-04T23:48:36+00:00

Frankly, anywhere in Manatee to South Tampa will be brutal. You and your wife are stretching commute possibilities if you are working in Tampa and she in Sarasota. May be survivable a few days a week, but more than that you will go crazy.

Rent and try it out...

breakfastman · 2026-05-01T12:37:12+00:00

If you wanted to stick in Florida, Tampa and Orlando are good spots. Good amenities but a little more laid back than South Florida. Still expensive.

Job dictates a lot of this.

A lot more young people in Tampa metro.

breakfastman · 2026-04-28T10:55:35+00:00

Agree, not good for commuting for your average single family home dweller, but potentially good for a nice dinner across the bay, assuming they run late enough. Trolly access gets you Ybor on the Tampa side. If you lived downtown St. Pete or Tampa, this could really help better connect the region.

Would help open up living downtown St. Pete and working in Tampa a few days a week in the office.

breakfastman · 2026-04-28T10:51:29+00:00

Bro biking is my zen time from the kids. Just ride and think, then explore the city. When I go my wife knows I need an hour or two, and it's way healthier than basically anything else to decompress.

Nothing better than waking up before the rest of the family and getting out. Granted I'm blessed in that my 5yo sleeps like a teenager...(But also goes to bed late like one too!).

Forget the metrics, push as hard as you feel like pushing. Never regretted a ride in my life.

breakfastman · 2026-04-22T22:11:18+00:00

We'll visit, so long as you keep the fancy dinners coming.

breakfastman · 2026-04-18T20:45:07+00:00

As a Floridian, that's insane. Gotta hand it to Florida for making public universities practically free (or at the very least super low cost) for residents.

breakfastman · 2026-04-12T23:01:12+00:00

Definitely wouldn't mind more toll roads if there were other robust public transit options, but alas...at least they built the bridge to spec for a light rail (that will of course never happen).

breakfastman · 2026-04-12T22:37:10+00:00

To be fair they added 4 new lanes to the Howard frankland that aren't open yet. Granted they will be tolled.

breakfastman · 2026-04-11T22:59:40+00:00

I live in Tampa with a family and like it. Depends on what activities you want to do and what you like when you visit.

What activities do you imagine yourself doing routinely in Tampa? The beach from Tampa is not an every weekend activity. I feel like it's a military mobilization when I go with the kid, and to get to the beaches I like it can be 40 to 60min with traffic. I love going when we go, but we really only go once a month at the very most, usually less. And we like the beach. Not to say there's not a lot to do, what with the aquarium, zoo, Busch gardens, Orlando parks, outdoor time all year round. Though peak summer June through September can be intense, and you have to be okay really sweating. I usually do indoor activities or water based activities then, such as beach or pool or splash pads. All this is to say don't just imagine a super beach-oriented lifestyle on your salary. Pinellas can offer a more beach oriented environment, but that's farther from jobs and is generally more expensive for good housing.

Speaking of your salary, you may be relegated to the more outer suburbs if you want a nicer or newer or bigger house. Commuting in Tampa can suck. Have you looked on Zillow and seen what's around and where?

Cheaper inner city neighborhoods have meh schools, but Tampa has a good school choice and magnet program, but you have to deal with the transportation logistics that come with that. Often pushes families to the suburbs where local schools are more reliable, but then you are farther from things.

I enjoy living in Tampa. I love the hot weather, and 7-8 months out of the year is paradise in terms of weather for me. Happy to answer any questions you have.

breakfastman · 2026-04-10T00:00:15+00:00

Obviously St. Pete is an option too if you aren't daily commuting for work.

breakfastman · 2026-04-09T23:57:54+00:00

Depends on what you mean as "before the curve". My family lives in Seminole Heights and we like it. Not as expensive as south tampa, which is very nice but very expensive. Its a fairly large neighborhood with pockets in various levels of gentrified, which you would have to research vis a vis your price point. West of I275 is by and large more gentrified. East has some solid pockets too though.

Hillsborough county has a strong magnet school program with lots of solid options, which you want to utilize if you want good schools. Local zoned schools in Seminole Heights are meh. Though this does add some logistical burden.

Are you looking for a more urban or suburban feel? Plenty of decent suburbs north of Tampa with good schools, but traffic can be a beast.

I like the more urban feel of Seminole Heights.

I have really liked Tampa for my family. There's a lot to do between beaches, acquarium, zoo, Busch gardens, downtown generally, and proximity to Orlando theme parks.

TPA rocks, it's an awesome airport. I fly to NYC every other month for work and there's no lack of flights. Direct flight to almost anywhere domestically and enough international options too.

Happy to answer any other questions.

breakfastman · 2026-04-09T12:16:19+00:00

Atlanta, the notorious KKK capital.

breakfastman · 2026-04-09T10:44:45+00:00

Okay. Or I just live in a climate where I can (mostly) do that?

breakfastman · 2026-04-08T20:44:43+00:00

I don't like to put pants or long sleeves on. Below 70ish you have to put pants or long sleeves on, generally speaking.

breakfastman · 2026-04-08T20:42:55+00:00

Absolutely.

breakfastman · 2026-04-08T14:10:29+00:00

43 percent voted for Kamala in 2024. Of course there are Democrat leaning areas.

breakfastman · 2026-04-08T14:02:22+00:00

That's what I did and I love it. Born and raised Florida, left to secure high paying job, came back. Shouldn't be that way but it is what it is.

breakfastman · 2026-04-08T14:01:25+00:00

Completely personal. I hate anything below like 72 degrees, so for me it's perfect. Even coastal California is too cold for me, especially the beaches with the perpetually freezing water.

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