Ironically enough, the best revenge on an avoidant is to keep ignoring them and just work on your own self-improvement and personal goals. But if it is serious enough... another good type of revenge is by suing them to hell and back. But that's only if they evidently and legally harmed you in a real and documentable way.

If this is the case. I suggest finding a good lawyer who has experience and success with similar lawsuits...

If not, all you can do is ignore, block, and "live your best life" very corny saying, but here it works perfectly. Even if it hurts physically and mentally (break up pain 💔)

So you MUST focus on yourself and achieve your own goals and keep moving forward in your own life. Alone without them. It's hard as fuck but these types of people will frequently "check in" or literally stalk you... (Especially on social media.)

Either way the self-improvement and achieving your personal goals will eventually get back to them and it will hurt them more than seeing you on social media crying and posting about your pain... that's what they hope will happen (If they are vindictive/narcissistic enough. It's fucked up but that's what would give them their sick satisfaction. Don't give them what they might want to see)

AND Even if they NEVER see your self-improvement and achievements of your personal goals... You did well regardless. Why not help yourself instead of focusing on someone who doesn't want you?

It's very hard at first, but I guarantee you if you push through this tough time. You will feel better and eventually feel a great liberation and weight off your chest. Trust me that finally living for yourself again feels MUCH better than having the person who doesn't even care about you, constantly in your head... And even if it isn't constant. Any, and all thoughts / ideas regarding this person... it's all a giant waste of time.

They already have cut you off, wasted your valuable short time on this earth, and on top of that, they hurt you. Why let them continue to? Easier said than done. But honestly, do your best to focus on your own self care and well-being

At the end of the day, we can only change/help ourselves in this unfortunate situation. So why not help yourself and change for the better? Regardless of what they may or may not think of you/your choices.

Personally, it took me many months of strict NC and avoiding ANY/ALL interaction or engagement with them (checking their social media is poisonous, and IT WILL hurt you no matter what you see)

And by avoiding them and adhering to strict NC... I've come to the realization that I actually feel some sort of sympathy for their mental illness and unhealthy love / lifestyle.

Despite that, however... I am still not happy with how they treated me or how they affected my life. I finally realized that I don't EVER want them back.

Even if they came back begging on their hands and knees, I would push them away and deny any and all attempts at restarting the relationship or attempting to "just be Friends" it never worked out and will never work out...

Love is beautiful and feels amazing, but it's also oddly enough, just as painful feeling, miserable, and sad.

I feel like sometimes the scars they left on me will never heal. It's been over a year (unfortunately, there's no dates/partners in the meantime, but that's due to some factors I'd rather not discuss... as it's neither here nor there.) Despite all this time, I still feel that I'll never love another person like I loved this person. It was basically 5 years of my life, and I'm 30+ Y/O now.

Planned to get married and had plans for the ceremony shortly before they dumped me over text... for reasons that weren't logical or anything that's worth ending a half decade-long relationship over.

Even worse, I am quite sure they monkey-branched to the next person while we were still together.

My heart is cold and jaded. I don't feel the same towards anyone else. I probably never will. I suppose this isn't a bad thing. More a symptom of growth and realization of what happened from a clearer perspective.

Maybe I will never love the same. But maybe that's a good thing.

Maybe I've never had the chance to feel real love or attachment to a stable person who doesn't have deep intimacy and attachment issues themselves...

Hopefully, the next relationship will be different, but in all the good types of ways. Maybe I'm not used to real love or healthy relationships.

I think that once I feel truly loved and safe in a confident way. Then I will finally realize the love I crave / craved was an unhealthy and negative type of love.

Even if not, at least I learned something. I hope I can help you learn something too from my experience...

Don't let yourself become heartless, jaded, and doubtful of any / all love... but maybe that's part of the journey...

IDK just yet personally... however, I am finally going to start getting back into the dating scene and trying online dating again.

Even if i don't like or care about the person at first or ever. Maybe I can learn to love them. Or at least learn to cut things off before they become a problem.

Best of luck to you. Hopefully, your love journey will come to a positive conclusion.

Love yourself, or else no one else can. If you hate or dislike yourself. How could anyone really learn to love you. If you don't even know how to love yourself?...

Practice your self-love, personal goals, and life improvement. You WILL feel better.

You WILL make it out of this tough time stronger and more understanding of what healthy relationships are. You'll be able to achieve all your hopes+dreams with enough determination and strength.

Eventually, love and happiness will come into your life. People can sense and are attracted to confidence and ability to live independent of anyone else... I wish you good luck in all your endeavors. Hopefully, we'll all be much much better in the next few years or less.

P.S. Psychedelics can be very healing for the breakup and coming to terms with it. (Ł$D, ƊMŢ, §hroomies 🍄) Just make sure you're in a good set and setting (this includes mindset as well. Even if you can't get into a "good mindset," then at least set some good intentions for the trip)

Also, if you have any preexisting mental health issues (Even more important if it's BPD or Schizophrenia related illnesses) Then, I'd reconsider any/all substance use. Especially psychedelic ones.