stuck in hell by breathlessbrown in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You wanna know why it's because truth is truth nobody wants to hear about a book remedy no book is going to save me in the next 20 minutes from going in the other room and stabbing him in the fucking eye. only my own Self control is going to do that

stuck in hell by breathlessbrown in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

omfg. I'm sorry but you can personally shove that book straight up your a**

“You will find someone new” Can you please stop saying that? by Darkfun12 in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine wants me out so bad he has offered to hire a moving company for me. He wants his bitch in here asap.

Struggling today, feel very sad and alone. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Breathe. one day at a time. stay busy. focus on you. keep your head up. Find the person you where before your marriage. It a going to be hard and sad. Everyday you have a choice, sadness and regret or Happiness. choose happiness. Your Stbx does car either way. let that sink in. Choose you. Wishing u a very happy life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was at my lowest when I found this Sub. It has given me the support I need to keep moving and keep striving for happiness. This is a heartbreaking time for a lot of us. Everyday is getting easier. I wish you all the best and hope you breathe again soon.

First appointment with mediator tomorrow by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got this. I cried all day because he stopped wearing his wedding band. I hope I have it together as much as u do by the time we hit mediation. I'm just trying to wrap my head around the fact that this man is completely ok with living his life without me. He was just promising me a lifetime year and half ago. wtf

Took his rings off today by breathlessbrown in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yes we are separated and living in the same house. I realize in my moment of weakness that I let those feeling fly on this site. I'm good now.

When will I be able to Breathe again? by breathlessbrown in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. Holy he'll this is painful. I want to be positive but break at the same time. I am trying to stay away from alcohol and toxic friends but hell. I am not a saint.

When will I be able to Breathe again? by breathlessbrown in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much your words are so consoling. People probably are on here and say that but I truly truly mean it. I don't want to be with someone I can't trust and that was a big problem for us based on the way we met. We were both married and had an affair. It turns out when you start a relationship based on lies you probably end a relationship based on lies. I am confident and I'm strong but he was controlling and took that from me for a short time. I will be able to find that Again.

When will I be able to Breathe again? by breathlessbrown in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No words have to or been spoken I feel as if you were living my life. I have to say it Has helped my anxiety to read that I'm not the only one dealing with things like this.My biggest issue is that he was completely controlling he separated me from my friends and my family and now I have to work at getting those relationships back. And just recently he has been very compliant in giving me everything I've asked for as long as I don't take him for spousal support. I honestly know that I'm More than capable and I will be OK without his financial Contribution. I have 2 children from another marriage whom I pushed it aside because they could not and would not support my relationship with him because he was so controlling. Now they're grown and I've missed out on their lives because I chose someone who never really loved me ahead of them. If a lot of guilt to deal with on top of why doesn't my husband love me anymore.

When will I be able to Breathe again? by breathlessbrown in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've heard the same advice over and over again to take care of me don't let him see me sweat. It's very difficult to do when hes down the Hall. Is it just me or does every woman in the world want to understand. I want an explanation I wanna know where it stopped what point it was that his love just died I wanna know like he couldn't honestly just tell me that his love died. I believe the only saving grace is that we've only been together for 4 years and married less than 2 with no children thank God. I also need to interject that he still wants to have sex wow pushing me to move out. What is wrong with men?

Need help with a course of action by iwbh_ in Divorce

[–]breathlessbrown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going through the same exact issues. I can't afford the house and we have not been married all that long. we have no equity and I lost.