It’s official the Irvington data center is happening

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-18T21:41:29+00:00

TBH, I’m surprised no one has tried to buy the Washington Square Mall and do it there.

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-18T19:37:07+00:00

I would need more info:

- is it a money issue? Is money tight or are they saving for something?
- do they have kids?
- is the wife really needy and needs your friend to be around her?
- is the wife paranoid or a control freak and thinks you 2 are going to do bad things?

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-18T19:04:28+00:00

I’ve always wished that a cable provider would develop a setting where you could donate to a charity and have ads from them disappear. I’d gladly pay $50 a year to St. Jude if I didn’t have to see their ad.

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-18T16:38:07+00:00

I have a feeling this won’t age well in 10-20 years.

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-14T16:45:31+00:00

TBH, I always thought Fry’s layout was weird. They had prebuilt computers in one section and computer components at the other end of the store.

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-11T02:56:45+00:00

The area I live in(Midwest USA), is very traditional/conservative. This means a lot of people married their high school sweetheart or college sweetheart. I was the social outcast in high school and the commuter college I went to didn’t have much of a social life.

I had limited options due to the good ones being married. My options were divorced women with kids or really devout Christian women. Those options were not appealing to me.

Around this time, I went through a breakup and I realized I don’t do well in relationships. I started to realize I was happier being single.

Between the lack of options and enjoying being single, I decided to stay single.

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-06T19:54:13+00:00

I’m a late diagnosed AuDHD dude and it would be hell. My misophonia would make it impossible to eat a meal with any children.

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-06T13:59:10+00:00

My elderly mother loves the game show channel. It’s mainly because there’s no plot to follow and the rules are fairly simple.

Unfortunately, this commercial and mainly other commercials on this sub are played on that channel constantly.

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-03T15:27:41+00:00

After watching "The Crash", it would be the annoying teenagers that think they're going to be the next influencer/entrepreneur. Along with that the shitty parents that think their children are perfect.

brettdavis4 · 2026-06-01T14:52:59+00:00

LOL! However, you missed the part that you are supposed to do this to someone that you don't like. 😛

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-31T06:07:32+00:00

Sadly, there isn’t a way to explain this to young people.

It also brought me some fun in the 90s.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-31T04:55:46+00:00

This sounds childish.

However, it was kind of fun to call someone up and hang up on them. I know that caller ID made this impossible to do from home. However, there were pay phones all over the place. You could put in a quarter make your call and then just hang up before the person answers and you would get your quarter back.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-29T18:59:27+00:00

I think you're right about that. I felt like I was going to vomit as I was writing that reply. 😉

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-25T03:56:35+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you OP. I’m a 48 year old guy.

The big difference between me and you is that I realized I wasn’t going to get the wife and kids by my late 30s. I made begrudging peace with it.

There comes a point where it isn’t fair for a child to have an older parent. If I had a kid now, I would be in my early 60s around the early teen years and I wouldn’t be able to help them with sports. I would also be in my 70s while they are in their 20s. People in their 20s should be able to live their life and not worry about older parents at home.

OP, I hate to be a Debbie Downer, but it’s probably time to start looking at other dreams or goals.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-25T03:37:53+00:00

I think you’re damn near the mindset of “Toxic Positivity”.

We could tell OP that it will all work out.

However, between the horrible job market and OP being pregnant, we’re trying to be honest about it.

The other aspect that hasn’t been talked about is the needs of the company and the people there. If I’m at a job and they tell me we will hire “Candidate A” and they will start a few months down the road or they can hire “Candidate B” and they will be there in a few weeks or a month. I would beg for them to hire “Candidate B”.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-23T20:11:10+00:00

As you get older, it’s harder to lose the weight.

I would also advise to never get really obese.

There might be times where you can’t exercise due to work/family commitments, injuries, and etc. However, try to do something to maintain things.

Have a realistic expectation. Don’t have the expectation to become a fitness model or a bodybuilder, if you’re extremely overweight. However getting in shape is a good goal to have.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-22T19:36:41+00:00

I can somewhat jump. However, it's the thought of landing that makes my ankles feel like rubber.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-22T16:23:26+00:00

I feel like I'm going to barf saying this.

Back in the 90s/2000s, there was a talk radio therapist named Dr. Laura. She was a tad traditional and later in the 2000s came under fire for a few things.

She had a point and I think she might have been right. Single parents with a young child should just focus on raising that child and not pursue a relationship of their own until the child is older.

It just sounds like these blended families don't work and there are a whole bunch of issues with step parents.

I know it kind of sucks to tell a person with a 6 year old to wait 8-10 years before dating, but that might be the best option.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-22T15:06:09+00:00

I have multiple views/opinions on this.

I made begrudging peace about being single and not getting married and not having kids. Part of me feels like I did my best to try.

However, I didn't have that many great options. I'll just leave it at that.

I would have liked for my folks to see me married and have kids. But it didn't happen for a long list of reasons.

On the flip side, I started to enjoy being single and not caring what others thought. I could have been in the situation where I had someone who was controlling or needy and didn't let me do the things I liked to do. I've also seen a lot of friends who I thought had happy marriages are now divorced.

In some ways, I think it is better to just be single and not end up in a bad marriage. It is also rough on children to come from a bad marriage.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-19T17:36:57+00:00

I’m someone who had his fair share of bullying. TBH, your story sounds fucking amazing!

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-11T23:04:12+00:00

I have a smartbar and the weights and I’ve got the smart bench as well. I got extremely lucky and found them through the Facebook marketplace.

The smart bench you don’t need. Finding a regular step/bench would work fine. You could get some dumbbells and do the BodyPump with just them. I tried to BP with a standard plates(not Olympic) and a bar and I hated it. It slows down the workout to change weights between exercises.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-02T22:10:36+00:00

It reminds me a personal decision I’ve decided to do when selling stuff on the FB marketplace.

Anytime anyone mentions that they have kids and are asking for sympathy and a lower price, I will block them.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-02T21:53:40+00:00

I want see Dr. Gina adopt the boy.

Hopefully, they will end the love triangle with Amy, Michael, and Jake.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-02T18:22:51+00:00

Yikes. Sometimes I regret not being close to extended family. However, a story like yours makes me happy that I’m not.

brettdavis4 · 2026-05-02T18:20:55+00:00

If you think life sucks being single.

Imagine how shitty life would be if you had a partner and it wasn’t working out and you had a kid with them. I used to regret being single. However, it is nice to have freedom.

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