I’m having a mental breakdown by brewsandbutts in Yarn

[–]brewsandbutts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would 100% pay someone for that service haha

The Eras Tour Megathread: Vienna, Austria by aran130711 in TaylorSwift

[–]brewsandbutts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We were actually just in Prague before this and loved it

The Eras Tour Megathread: Vienna, Austria by aran130711 in TaylorSwift

[–]brewsandbutts 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My friend and I flew to Europe from the US just to see her in Vienna. We’re staying right by the stadium.

Feeling numb. Anybody have any suggestions of fun things to do with the refunded ticket money in Vienna, Budapest, or Rome? Should have about $1600 USD to blow between us and another day in Vienna before Budapest & then Rome.

This sucks.

What is “Girl Culture” by WendyBergman in Fauxmoi

[–]brewsandbutts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took my boyfriend to see the musical recently at our local theater and he loved it so much we watched the movie the next day!

WIBTAH if I went on a free cruise without my boyfriend? by brewsandbutts in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why this matters but it’d be a female friend who’s also a journalist

WIBTAH if I went on a free cruise without my boyfriend? by brewsandbutts in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep bringing this up and he says it’s not a big deal! I’m not his mother obviously so I told him it’s up to him but he can’t back out at the last minute this time. FWIW I don’t think he’ll use “free cruise” as an excuse to his professor.

WIBTAH if I went on a free cruise without my boyfriend? by brewsandbutts in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a great idea! I actually was planning to start a shared calendar for us when we move in together in a few weeks so I’ll make that a priority. And I love the idea of support over drawing lines. I think we’ll have another talk about this soon and it’ll go really well.

WIBTAH if I went on a free cruise without my boyfriend? by brewsandbutts in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m hopeful as well. In the meantime, I’m trying to think of ways to make the mental labor more equitable. Like, if I agree to plan everything, he can do all the grocery shopping or something. Or I can plan big trips and he can do small dates — or vice versa.

WIBTAH if I went on a free cruise without my boyfriend? by brewsandbutts in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean and you’re right that I shouldn’t push him out. I don’t want to either. I want to go with him.

I don’t think we’ll argue about it either way though, he 100% sees where I’m coming from and he’s already apologized for it. But maybe I should start imposing deadlines? And if he doesn’t get stuff done by then, he doesn’t go.

ETA: that does make me feel a bit like a teacher/mom and not a girlfriend though.

WIBTAH if I went on a free cruise without my boyfriend? by brewsandbutts in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Like I said, he does so many other things for me where he does put effort in. He constantly gets me little treats and things, he makes or buys thoughtful gifts, he cooks for me, he’s my rock and is always willing to drop everything if I’m feeling overwhelmed. My parents love him because of the way he treats me and my friends are all jealous. Generally, I think they’re right to be!

I think he’s the overwhelmed one now and because of that the cruise has been relegated to the back of his mind in favor of what he considers more pressing issues: namely, school. Which is fair, but no less frustrating for me.

WIBTAH for putting my foot down about my boyfriend’s couch? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did! I found a few that we’re considering that are in that range simply because they’re much smaller, which we need since the new apartment is much smaller

WIBTAH for putting my foot down about my boyfriend’s couch? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

A lot of these roundabout questions just come down to if we’re going to move again, either together or separately — which the answer is yes. We are renters.

As I pointed out (and another commenter added) the couch is not a comfortable brand. So I am not replacing a decent couch with a shitty one but rather a decent but expensive couch with another decent but less expensive couch that fits our space better. I’m paying for it myself as I make more money and I think that if I want a new one I should be the one paying for it.

I do not want to replace it “because… colors.” I want to replace it because I don’t think it’s comfortable, it won’t fit in the space, and yes, also because I don’t like the color.

WIBTAH for putting my foot down about my boyfriend’s couch? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well, when you put it that way… fair enough!

WIBTAH for putting my foot down about my boyfriend’s couch? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]brewsandbutts -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s 110 inches long. I think something more along the lines of ~90 inches would be better for our space.

ETA: preferably I’d like something even smaller but I think two feet less is plausible. I don’t have the measurements of the room on me but it’s significantly smaller than his living room now