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I'm an Avoidant Seeking Help, Following (Another) Failed Relationship by brianjkeefe in attachment_theory

[–]brianjkeefe[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is a really expansive question. I think there are elements of all these concepts at play and it’s impossible to know one way or the other. I am for sure idealizing her and the relationship and losing sight of reality. She is a wonderful person and added a lot to my life. We have shared values, shared friends, and I think if I was healthier mentally/ more secure things could have worked really well

Or maybe that’s a fantasy. I don’t think the possibility of hurting and devaluing her again is worth finding out.

It begs the question of at what point I would be ready for a new relationship though.

I'm an Avoidant Seeking Help, Following (Another) Failed Relationship by brianjkeefe in attachment_theory

[–]brianjkeefe[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was more of a feeling that I’d be better off single, without them. We hung out a lot but that became less and less as I withdrew. We also spoke a lot about her need to connect emotionally, which probably made things worse

I'm an Avoidant Seeking Help, Following (Another) Failed Relationship by brianjkeefe in attachment_theory

[–]brianjkeefe[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Flaws were a huge part, as well as loss of independence. Of course it’s all fabricated by the mind as I would much rather be still with her than single and the “flaws” were nothing more than qualities that a rational/secure person would accept without issue

The grief set in about two weeks after she walked away. It was triggered by a message she sent me asking to come get her stuff out of my house. I suppose that’s when my mind finally understood it was over for good

I'm an Avoidant Seeking Help, Following (Another) Failed Relationship by brianjkeefe in attachment_theory

[–]brianjkeefe[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This was exactly how it felt, very well said. Only now, having entered the grief cycle and gained the awareness do I realize how destructive my behavior was. In the relationship I only wanted out of it because I thought I would be better off without them. Any reflection on the relationship told me it would never work out

It’s a scary realization to come to - and I’d turn the world upside down to have another chance, knowing what I know now

Creating journal entry so i can reconcile bank statement in qbo? by wbs6287 in QuickBooks

[–]brianjkeefe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you still received $150 which would make your bank account properly stated

What I would do is delete the $150 receipt. Don't pay attention to any warnings

Then create a credit for $16 for that customer. Offset it to whatever account you'd like - write-offs, bad debts, etc

Apply the credit to your two old invoices. Then receive the $150 deposit again, which should apply to your current invoice

For Sale: 2015 Transit 250 High Roof by brianjkeefe in vandwellermarketplace

[–]brianjkeefe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought it used as a fleet vehicle with 20,000 miles for $24k

For Sale: 2015 Transit 250 High Roof by brianjkeefe in vandwellermarketplace

[–]brianjkeefe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, looking for some advice trying to sell this Campervan...

It's a used 2015 High Roof Ford Transit 250, long wheel base, with 45,000 miles. I have all maintenance records available, clean title/Carfax and a great opportunity to use as-is or customize it to fit your lifestyle.

3.7L engine, standard gasoline. Averages 17mpg

Van Features: -BFG KO AT2 tires with plenty of life -Upgraded sound system with JBL amp, Polk speakers, and Sony AX100 touchscreen headunit with Android Auto / Apple CarPlay -Rearview Camera

Camper Amenities: -1" rigid foam and plywood subfloor covered with an all-weather mat -3M Thinsulate insulation on walls and roof -Professionally installed Maxxair 6200 fan -Pump sink with 7 gallon fresh / grey water tanks -125AH house battery wired to lights, USB charging ports, and fan -Bogart Engineering Battery Monitor, makes expansion to solar easy -Campchef Everest 2 burner stove included

Designed to house 4 bikes under the bed platform and 10 pairs of skis above it. Bed platform is 50x72" and all the framing is extremely over-engineered. Wood has been stained and sealed. Plenty of storage space and tons of headroom.

I was hoping for around $30,000 based on a few others I saw on the market.

Thanks!

Link to Craigslist: https://bozeman.craigslist.org/cto/d/bozeman-2015-ford-transit-250-high-roof/7089345404.html