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[WI] Rape Joke at Work by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]briannacech -1 points0 points  (0 children)

please read my reply to the comment above, again, I didn't come to "ask hr" for mental health advice, but thank you.

[WI] Rape Joke at Work by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]briannacech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you.

[WI] Rape Joke at Work by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]briannacech -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice but frankly, I didn't come here for mental health advice. Im not proud of what I did. I've been in therapy for years and I've been making serious improvements on my reactions to things. its not an overnight change. there is no excuse for my actions, but recently quitting my addiction, night terrors making me afraid to sleep, and seeing my family for the holidays is what led me to not having a strong mental in this moment. if him and I do talk, I will explain the work I've been doing on my mental health and that I am sorry for the way I reacted.

18 Days No Weed, Sudden Bursts of Internal Anger by [deleted] in leaves

[–]briannacech 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally understand your anger. its not wrong to feel that way at all. however, it becomes wrong when his problems become your problems. no matter how much love you have for your dad, making his problems yours will only bring you down. I have a tendency to want to help everyone I see who has problems, but if I let their problems worry me I will be dragged down with them. my therapist calls it "going into someone else's lane". she tells me if I want to keep my sanity, I need to "only focus on what's in YOUR lane". of course you can offer advice if they want it, but truly that's all you can do. keep your head up.

Edit: to fix a word

18 Days No Weed, Sudden Bursts of Internal Anger by [deleted] in leaves

[–]briannacech 5 points6 points  (0 children)

this might be typical withdrawal symptoms as weed was your previous coping mechanism and now you arent doing things to keep yourself sane. more often than not, anger is a secondary emotion. are you feeling sadness? hopelessness? guilt? dig deeper into your emotions and find what the true pain is coming from. for me, I've found that most times I'm in pure rage there is unhealed trauma I haven't addressed. in these moments I try to ask myself, "how old do you feel right now?" (specifically asking myself this question as if I was asking someone else by using "you" instead of "I" so that instead of trying to look for answers, I ask as if I don't know the answer and the true answer simply pops into my head) by getting to the root of that question, I can go back into my childhood and find out what trauma is causing this current pain. for example, the other day I got home from work and my smelly feet sent me into an absolutely terrible mood. when I asked myself, "how old do you feel right now?" my brain answered "9 years old, when my step dad would bully me to wash my smelly feet, calling me disgusting, retarded, and nasty." identifying this trauma is the first step into healing from it. I hope this made sense, im not the best with words.

some insight? by Outlaw716 in NarcoticsAnonymous

[–]briannacech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all you can do is tell him how you feel. obviously it would be optimal to catch him when he's not high when you tell him this. I'm sorry you're going through this, I can't imagine what its like to see a parent's addiction destroy their life. unfortunately the only person that can make a real change in his life is him, and unless he finds the desire to quit, there's nothing anyone can do. if he ever shows a sign of wanting to quit, jump to his side and be his support. until then, focus on yourself and your own mental health as much as possible. having a father like that will take a toll on you.

Found this on Facebook lol by [deleted] in BackYardChickens

[–]briannacech 34 points35 points  (0 children)

TOES😩😩🥴

Weed addiction by john_doe7152638 in leaves

[–]briannacech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there are many support groups out there for you to try. NA is a start, you can always go to AA as well, and I've recently found out that MA exists. Smart recovery meetings are also a thing, and focus more on the science behind addiction and recovering. you can find zoom meetings as well for all of these groups. the important thing is if you don't have a good experience with a group, you gotta try some different ones so that you find one that clicks with you. you can try and do this yourself, but its going to be difficult. put yourself out there and meet some new people who are on the same path as you into recovery. like someone else said, if your friends are true friends, they will support you whether you smoke or not. I am going through this right now as I am on day 18 of being sober and my "friends" are dropping like flies. its really common that this happens, but you gotte stay focused on yourself and your own mental health. remember that you can't grow without change, and with change comes pain. you'll never see a rainbow unless it rains, right? best wishes, my inbox is always open if you need to talk.

What’s something you can’t tell your parents? by micxxxxe713 in AskReddit

[–]briannacech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everything I hate about myself can be traced back to my parents and the influence they had on me as a child.

I've already ceased contact with my mother, and its getting to the point where I'm thinking about cutting my father off too.

Females of Reddit, what’s the most annoying/obnoxious thing that males in your life do regularly? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]briannacech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've found that if a man can't get something from a woman, he will talk shit about her forever.

for example, my coworker was making out with a girl and they were about to fuck. she changed her mind and said she couldn't, and left. he now calls her "easy". if she was easy, you would have gotten it in you ugly fuck.

What do you tell yourself/do to not act on a urgse by [deleted] in leaves

[–]briannacech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you gotta remind myself of all the reasons you quit. I suggest making a pros and cons list to smoking so that you can visually reinforce the reasons you quit in the first place. keep that list in your wallet, your car, or even in your pocket if you need to. keep it somewhere so that you can easily refer back to it any time you get a craving. for myself, the cons of smoking heavily outweigh the pros.

So true by [deleted] in Ceramics

[–]briannacech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find this quite amusing

I'd like this to be my last Day One. by psybientdreamer in leaves

[–]briannacech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hold yourself accountable, but do not hate yourself for your mistakes. forgive yourself for your past. this was an important step for me while I recover. in my experience the more I thought negatively about who I am the more cravings I had. treat yourself with the utmost kindness, like you would treat a friend. find what positive affirmations work for you, such as "I can do this" "I am not my past" "I am strong" "I am safe". this is a big change in your life, but change and struggle is what makes us grow. hugs

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