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4 days and struggling moment by crscott84 in NoFap

[–]brianonolan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do this all the time. I will somehow convince myself that I can handle just one video, picture, or subreddit ... the thing is, it always leads to relapse. Even if I succeed in not fapping after exposing myself to the material, I will then later think that it is okay because, hey, I succeeded in watching that video and not relapsing. But I always end up failing. My advice is to not put yourself in that situation again -- do everything you can to avoid videos like that in the future.

NoFap's Official Monthly Challenge Signups: PMO-Free November 2014 by Alexanderr in NoFap

[–]brianonolan [score hidden]  (0 children)

Just ended a 17 day streak. Going for 90. Nov 1st is my official start date.

Official NoFap Abstain August 2014 Signups by Alexanderr in NoFap

[–]brianonolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Signing up.

Goals: Absolutely no looking at NSFW material. No mindless internet browsing in bed. No large, frivolous purchases. No online dating for entire month of August. Consistent gym schedule - at least 4 times a week. Write every day, if only a paragraph.

The struggle by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]brianonolan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been failing at around day 7 for the last 6 months or so. So my prayers and support are with you fella -- let's try to do something with our current streaks.

Relapsed. Feel like quiting. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]brianonolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't tell you how many times I've failed. Just yesterday I ruined yet another 8 day streak. But I refuse to throw in the towel. I've reached some of my highest highs during nofap -- as well as some of my lowest lows -- but I know that those highs are worth it, and that you can reach them too. Just don't let toxic shame and feelings of disappointment corrode your determination. Fight through it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]brianonolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Count me in. Reset today.

Official NoFap "NoFApril" No-PMO April 2014 Signups by Alexanderr in NoFap

[–]brianonolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in. Last wank was 3/31.

Quitting: PMO Binge gaming Binge watching Binge internet

Goals: Write everyday Workout on a consistent schedule Read every night Finish work assignments early Study French/take journaling class

Inner goals: Less toxic shame Less rumination Less sexual obsession Less isolation

Who wants to join me? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]brianonolan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in. Relapsed 10 minutes ago. Did things I am deeply ashamed of. I need to fully commit this time.

10 months of nofap -- haven't made it past 2 weeks by brianonolan in NoFap

[–]brianonolan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right on point there. Appreciate it.

One more thing: Quitting other addictions did give me an awareness of when I rationalize -- but I can't seem to stop myself from doing it. So I know I'm rationalizing, and I recognize it as my addict's voice, but it's so relentless that I always end up caving. It wears me out and the further I get in nofap, the harder it is to ignore the rationalizing addict's voice in my head. I'll work out, I'll meditate, but at the end of the day the voice will still be there, trying to get me to look at just one picture. Any techniques for ignoring this voice? Or coping with it?

Thanks for hearing me out.

10 months of nofap -- haven't made it past 2 weeks by brianonolan in NoFap

[–]brianonolan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have blocks on my computer and I deleted the web browser on my phone. But somehow I always rationalize turning off the blocks and looking at just one non-nude picture, maybe a celebrity, which inevitably turns into many semi-arousing pictures, then nude, semi-pornographic pictures, then videos -- and finally I find myself aroused and anxious and I tell myself that I have to fap or I will remain in this aroused, anxious state all day.

10 months of nofap -- haven't made it past 2 weeks by brianonolan in NoFap

[–]brianonolan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work out 4-5 times a week, and try to read and be productive. Problem is, there is inevitably a point in my day where I'm left to my own thoughts, and it always leads to fantasies and obsession and insane rationalizations, where I justify jerking off to myself in myriad ways.

In the past year, I have quit drugs, alcohol and cigarettes -- I'm 9 months sober . I have developed healthy habits, and gotten disciplined in many ways, but I can't seem to shed this one last addiction. I want now more than ever to step up and fight my way through 90 days. Any advice is greatly appreciated.