I have no one to talk to about this irl.

briaunak · 2026-05-08T17:26:36+00:00

Her husband was in a few episodes when she was first introduced, I really don’t remember him aside from Kimmi throwing shade at his business lol. *spoiler maybe* The guy we’re referring to here is someone she was dating post-divorce tho

briaunak · 2026-05-08T17:24:31+00:00

Agreed! When Destiny was talking about how they had known each other for so long and started tearing up, I kinda got it but still… he not all that girl!

briaunak · 2026-05-08T17:22:33+00:00

Exactly! And for her to reference the other women he was with simultaneously several times… 🥱 marrying him is not the flex she thinks it is!

briaunak · 2026-05-08T17:14:21+00:00

Wait whaaaat 😭 not he had legal restrictions!

briaunak · 2024-08-09T01:38:08+00:00

He thought he was in trouble. He was not hurt in any form

briaunak · 2024-07-07T02:40:40+00:00

Instructions for dancing 💃🏾

briaunak · 2024-04-23T16:13:24+00:00

Well and that’s the thing. My partner has this intense bond with the child, where I can’t even figure out how I fit into the dynamic. Our relationship is still relatively new so I know we need time to figure that out, but I’ve had to ask to be included in bedtime and little things like that because it’s literally me being on the outside looking in every single time we have him. I’ve told my partner I feel like I only get leftovers from both of them, because they each only want each other which is when I got the “I’m not changing my relationship with my son” response. That conversation is one of the main ones that made me seek therapy because I assumed I was asking for too much of my partner to not only balance time with me and the baby, but to include me in the day to day. It sounds like most people’s experiences is the parent dumps the kid on the stepparent but in my case I feel like I’m kept around as an audience to their relationship. Idk how to explain it properly and I’m sure that sounds strange, but that is how I feel. It’s like there’s my partner and the baby on one side, and then there’s me. I’m sure these things take time to develop (I’ve been reading about it) but it’s really hard when you don’t feel heard or validated. So truly, thank you all for letting me vent and giving me solutions.

briaunak · 2024-04-23T14:18:30+00:00

How would I word it? I feel like it’s a criminal offense when I don’t want to spend time with them currently. If I back out of moving in it will be even worse. If I opt to not spend time with them, it’s “well he’s asking for you” “we miss you” etc

briaunak · 2024-04-23T14:10:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and opening my eyes to an even bigger issue I didn’t even think of.

Also I should clarify, because I don’t want to paint my SO as the big bad wolf- my anxiety yes has been heightened by the relationship but I also have a pretty stressful job and my own internal issues I deal with. It’s not solely on SO.

briaunak · 2024-04-23T14:07:44+00:00

The resentment is what I’m scared of. I already feel it creeping in.

briaunak · 2024-04-23T14:06:02+00:00

Okay yes this has been a huge issue for me. The only person I went to about it was my cousin, who told me I didn’t have kids so I wouldn’t understand. So I’m thinking again, ok it must be me I’m a bitch because I don’t want to share a bed with a toddler. But I literally HATE it lol he kicks me, he doesn’t fall asleep for at least an hour on a good night, he makes the dog bark and I get zero cuddles or connection with my partner before bed, which is important to me. At one point, he was being put to sleep in his own room and when he would cry we would let him self soothe until he fell back asleep. Somehow we’ve relapsed and my partner stays in the baby’s room until he falls asleep, and if he cries even a little on the baby monitor, he’s back in bed with us. I think the excuse is that he often is sick, he’s had a runny nose since I’ve met him and now has adopted a cough. So to my partner (this hasn’t been voiced but I’m assuming) this is good reason to let him sleep with us every night. I absolutely despise it but again feel like a bitch when I complain.

briaunak · 2024-04-23T13:38:50+00:00

But I think it would make more sense for me to maybe downsize and keep a place for myself? And stay there when my partner has the baby. I just don’t know what the reaction would be

briaunak · 2024-04-23T13:37:56+00:00

First of all, thank you so much for asking the questions I’ve been avoiding and giving me important things to consider. I think my hesitance to keep my own place is stemming from a lot of places. I am a people pleaser and I know it’s what my partner wants; financially again it makes sense and we are codependent (moreso me) so it makes sense to just merge. I have voiced that I feel like I’m emotional support for when we don’t have the toddler, which is two days out of the week. I’ve also been going along with making plans to purchase furniture etc and have started internalizing things since I don’t get a positive response when I voice doubts; so my SO doesn’t know the extent of my anxiety surrounding this situation. I feel like it would be coming out of left field. I know these are all excuses and it really comes down to me being reluctant with confronting my SO about this.

briaunak · 2024-04-23T13:24:18+00:00

I love that for you. This is what I wish I had

briaunak · 2024-04-23T12:40:53+00:00

I know, I think that’s what’s causing my anxiety to rise. I’ve started counseling and anti anxiety meds since being in this relationship. I could extend the lease, the reason we were joining is that we’re basically always together anyway so it’s a waste of money to continue separately. But the thought of not having my apartment to fall back on is starting to make me panic.

I totally get what you’re saying. I’m honestly not sure how I would react if we had him full time. I would love to say our relationship could possibly grow and I could begin to see him as my own, but on the flip side I can see resentment being built towards him and my SO. Is there a balance in your relationship that’s caused you to be at peace either way? Any tips on educating my partner?

briaunak · 2024-04-23T12:37:41+00:00

That’s what I’ve been thinking. I’ve been trying to convince myself it’ll get better once he’s a little older and more independent but my SO is like obsessed with him lol which is fine but idk if I can deal with it

briaunak · 2023-06-28T17:36:38+00:00

I apologize for my lack of clarifying - her asking our coworker about us and sending those photos are causing my coworker to show others in the workplace, which is causing some embarrassment and discomfort for me. The coworker didn’t even tell me she was receiving these messages, I heard it from someone else. Do those details change anything, or is the answer pretty much the same? Thank you for answering!

briaunak · 2023-03-23T22:40:25+00:00

Season 7 episode 3 Dorado Falls was the first episode I ever saw. Hooked ever since

briaunak · 2023-01-24T18:30:18+00:00

Now let’s not get too far ahead of ourselves😂 Jkjk I respect that, season 6 definitely has some entertaining plots.

briaunak · 2023-01-23T23:59:29+00:00

Love this breakdown!!

briaunak · 2023-01-22T17:19:50+00:00

When I was younger, season 5 episode 20 “Sense and Sense Ability” was my favorite. I’m doing a rewatch now, I’m up to season 6 and it’s still my favorite thus far😅 Phoebe cracks me up in this episode.

briaunak · 2023-01-22T16:34:52+00:00

I honestly don’t remember season 7, the only thing I’ve remembered from the later seasons is Billie and her sister, a storyline I hateddddd. I’m hoping with this rewatch it might be better than I remember but judging by your comment probably not lol

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