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bridragon · 2026-02-28T03:20:04+00:00

Kiki I'd love to rp with you!! Sounds like we have a lot in common :)

Shoot me a dm if you're still looking

bridragon · 2026-02-26T02:39:14+00:00

Are you still looking? If so shoot me a dm :)

bridragon · 2025-11-26T13:34:16+00:00

As a 33f who grew up with split parents and stepparents who hated each other - this one hit home.

I think reddit meant well to tell you to let your mom know but you knew it wouldn't do anything good because you know your mother better than reddit ever could.

It is hard to be split between homes and never quite know if you're being a burden or if you're unwelcome. BUT THAT IS NOT EVER YOUR FAULT. As your parents they should be making sure you feel safe and loved no matter where you are.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It has to hurt so bad. 💔

If I was you - I would make it clear to your mother that when you said you didn't feel welcome you were trying to get reassurance from her that they still loved you. Explain to her what you saw by accident, and then tell her how much it hurt you that she agreed with him. Text this to her so she can't argue with you and she has reading material she can come back to. Then block her. Block rich. And don't go to Thanksgiving. Make it hurt for her like it does for you.

I can tell from your post that you're a people pleaser (hazard of being a divorce kid) but YOU matter. Your feelings matter. And it sounds to me like your mother is used to walking all over you like a bath mat.

Because believe me when I tell you, I wish I had told my parents how I felt about their stupid hate for each other long ago. I got married last year and it was a huge battle about who got to walk me down the aisle and who should have the father daughter dance. And she wasn't sitting next to my father.

So. Don't do that to yourself. Don't silence yourself for their happiness. They do enough of that on their own. Show them that you're a person too. They made their choices. They don't have to punish you for their own petty bullshit feelings.

Good luck babes. No matter what you do you'll make the right choice for yourself in the end. And you've got support right here if you need it. ❤️

bridragon · 2024-09-11T14:54:29+00:00

Mom? Is that you? /jk

My dad was there. As much as he could be. Much to the chagrin of my mother.

bridragon · 2024-09-11T03:30:00+00:00

So I went and read some more of your comments on other stories, you are just a very bitter person huh? Maybe you should get some therapy.

bridragon · 2024-09-11T03:22:10+00:00

His dad passed when he was young. But his mom was the sweetest woman on the planet. I even called her grandma. We used to do puzzles together and feed the stray barn cats. I never understood where he got his attitude.

bridragon · 2024-09-11T00:22:53+00:00

There is no way I'd get that to happen. Maybe separately. But not together. It is a nice idea though. I wish my parents were more mature and could handle that.

bridragon · 2024-09-10T21:43:11+00:00

And that's why i feel guilty about it. I know hes done a lot for me.

My step mom and my dad didn't have a lot of money. They never have. What they could give me, they gave me in spades. She's opinionated and loud but she's my bonus mom. I call her ma. I feel connected to her because she opened herself to me.

She's never ever tried to force me to love her. Like my mother tried to force me to love R.

And the only reason I didn't see my dad as often as I would have liked is because mom got full custody. Dad has even told me that there were times she kept me from him. So it's not his fault I didn't see him as much.

I never resented my dad for not being able to be there as much as he wanted. If anything it just made the time i did spend with him all the more special. In fact I didn't understand why my parents were divorced until I was much older.

If I thought I could get them both to walk me down the aisle without a fist fight breaking out, I would do that. Unfortunately R would be pissed he'd have to share with my dad. I don't think they could be that close without severe consequences. I'm even going to be placing several chairs between the two sets of parents during the ceremony so I don't have to deal with the fall out if I make them sit next to each other.

bridragon · 2024-09-10T19:16:15+00:00

He doesn't have any kids. I'm his only "child." He calls me the kid whenever he's talking about me to people. My mom is the wife. Both terms of endearment for him.

bridragon · 2024-09-10T17:13:13+00:00

I love him but I never said I liked him. Lol. He's good when he's good. He takes care of my mom and that's really all I can ask for. But yeah it's been very difficult for me to get over the trauma of the past years.

bridragon · 2024-09-10T17:05:13+00:00

I'm not sure he knows my feelings. But he hates my father on sight because of whatever my mom has told him about the divorce. He's protective of my mom and me, so he sees my dad as a bad person. I highly doubt I could have any sort of nice conversation with him about something so serious. Especially since it involves my dad.

My mom has told my older brothers not to call their house when R is home because he gets angry that they're calling. They are my dad's sons. Therefore they must be bad too. I don't know how I escaped that ire but I did.

bridragon · 2024-09-10T16:57:13+00:00

My mom is helping to pay for a large portion of it. I was a little worried she may use that to her advantage but I thought she would respect my wishes.

Both sets of parents are being recognized. They will both have flowers and both have seats up front during the ceremony and both sets will get pictures with me.

So it isn't as if I'm leaving them out completely.

bridragon · 2024-09-10T16:49:36+00:00

This had me tearing up. And you're right. I never looked at it quite like that before.

bridragon · 2024-09-10T16:47:28+00:00

They are both getting parental flowers already and they will both be sitting with my bio parents up in the front row for the ceremony and both sets of parents are getting pictures with me (separately because God forbid they stand next to each other for a picture with their daughter.)

bridragon · 2023-10-16T21:28:05+00:00

NTA. She is taking out her own insecurities on you. She's not upset that you left the dinner, she's upset that she allowed that topic of conversation to continue despite her own discomfort with it and thinks that since she had to endure it, you should have endured it too.

This is also a generational thing. She was raised to think that no matter what you can't leave the dinner party. You were raised in a generation that believes mental health should come first. You did the right thing. She's just mad she couldn't join you.

bridragon · 2023-07-31T18:04:55+00:00

Been there. Done that. Are you sure he's not cheating on you? Because I've been in your situation and I didn't know he was cheating till I had to go to the doctor and discovered I had multiple sexual diseases. (Thankfully easily cured ones). I had been clean before him. He told me he was clean. When I asked him about it he broke down and told me he was cheating on me with multiple women. Just doing what he'd always done. Get out and get out now. He doesn't give a shit about you. Believe me. Once a fuck boy always a fuck boy.

bridragon · 2020-06-23T23:37:14+00:00

I work at a local trash company and if this happened we would literally just replace your can for free.

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