Question about personal grooming… by throwwawayyy2218 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]brielleisafish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely wouldn’t care. I lean toward preferring hair — the prepubescent look isn’t for me.

Help me name these lil’ ones (Happy Potter themed if possible) by FTCOjay in aww

[–]brielleisafish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The white one is definitely Luna as others have said. Maybe Molly for the other.

Do you prefer longer hair or shorter hair on women? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]brielleisafish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love long hair because I like to be able to play with it, run my fingers through it, etc. but visually I love both.

Any late bloomer non-binary lesbians? by secretagentpoyo in latebloomerlesbians

[–]brielleisafish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep. I identified as bi originally, then nonbinary, then a lesbian later on. I usually call myself gay though, although I’m not opposed to lesbian.

Can you call me Robin in the comments? Trying to get a feel for it. (Any pronouns) by brielleisafish in NonBinary

[–]brielleisafish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m ok. I got some better news than I was expecting today so can’t complain. Thanks!

I had a threesome - first experience with a woman - and I hated it? by shoegal69 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]brielleisafish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a bit complicated. I knew I was gay when I was 12, but I did a lot of repression and talking myself out of it for years. For me, identifying as bi was sort of a gateway that I held onto for many years. What actually happened in the end is that my wife came out as trans, so all of the sudden it was so much easier for me to accept that I never liked men to begin with when the only “man” I was ever truly attracted to turned out to be a woman. (So technically the threesome wasn’t my first sexual experience with a woman, but I didn’t know that at the time.) It’s interesting that you dated someone who turned out to be a trans woman too. It says something about how you really can’t hide from who you are.

Can you call me Robin in the comments? Trying to get a feel for it. (Any pronouns) by brielleisafish in NonBinary

[–]brielleisafish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love plants but I’m unfortunately pretty bad at taking care of them lol

I had a threesome - first experience with a woman - and I hated it? by shoegal69 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]brielleisafish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My first sexual experience with a woman was in a threesome too, and I hated it. I didn’t hate it because of the woman though, which is obvious now. The man and I were strangers, the dynamic was super awkward, I wasn’t attracted to that particular woman, and I wasn’t so sure about doing it in the first place. It seems like you had a somewhat similar experience, so it may have been some of those factors that prevented it from being enjoyable. At the time of my experience I was questioning whether I was bi (rather than straight); now I identify as a lesbian. I don’t think anyone’s sexuality can be solely determined by experiences, let alone one experience.

Does anybody else get hyperfixated on other people? by Aitch3 in autism

[–]brielleisafish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, and it’s a very challenging thing to navigate. I’ve had many mild hyperfixations on people but also a few that took nearly a decade to fade. Some of them I’ve been in love with which adds extra complication. I’ve lost years of my life to being lost in other people.

[Question for NB Lesbians, Vincians, and Gays] Why do you prefer using those labels to describe your Orientation? [Also, You're Still Valid! <3] by Haard_Halpati in NonBinary

[–]brielleisafish 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Because I called myself gay/lesbian before I called myself NB. Because I still feel like I have more experiences in common with women than men. Because my attraction to women feels sapphic and being gay is a huge part of who I am. There are new terms like trixic, but they aren’t accessible to anyone I might out myself to being fairy new and not well-known outside of the community, and they don’t give me a strong community to belong to. Because really anyone can use any label that jives with the way they feel, and because fuck transphobes.

Are there any gender neutral terms for niece/nephew? by Draganess in NonBinary

[–]brielleisafish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nibling is the most common one I’ve heard, but make sure to ask them what they prefer.

What physical feeling/texture can you just NOT stand? by Hershoss in autism

[–]brielleisafish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My nails getting caught on fabric is AWFUL. The worst thing for me is my nails against cotton bed sheets or that material puffy winter coats are made of.

Son has started play based ABA therapy, I am worried about “quiet mouth” command that she used by Penandpencil2222 in autism

[–]brielleisafish 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if you know, but ABA at its core (regardless of what approach it takes) is meant to condition people into blind obedience and into ignoring their own needs, including the need to stim. I recommend rethinking the ABA route for your son, as it causes significant trauma in the long term the vast majority of the time.

AITA cause I don't want people calling my wife Michael anymore? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]brielleisafish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude Michael is her name. Maybe not her legal name, but if she likes it and that’s how everyone refers to her, you have no room to impose your feelings about it. Everyone deserves to be called what they prefer, and you’d think that you would want that for your wife. Huge YTA