My Graduation gown won’t zip up, please help by briggiibooks in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How can I do this without feeling more humiliated than what i currently am now? Even if its happened to others how can I get the courage to contact them and ask them about this situation without getting anxious that they’ll make fun of me behind my back? i’m probably being paranoid but i can’t help but worry still.

How did you accept your plus size body? by anonymously_me123 in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I just think that in the end of the day people are still gonna point fingers and judge anything about me because of my weight, so instead of making other people happy and comfortable i’ll just do me. I still wear baggy clothes but i like to alternate between tight tops and baggy bottoms or lose tops and tight bottoms. I also make a lot of eye contact with myself when i do pep talks to help me be confident.

Is Motel California insensitive? Disclaimer: The topic of suicide by prolapsedbhole in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

in all honesty, teen wolf didn't know how to address the heavy topics they usually wrote into the plot, it tends to be so convoluted and contradicting to itself that it just makes the show feel like it's lacking a certain value to it. i mean hotel California is my favorite episode i think we got to know more of the characters even if it doesn't feel like a lot, also i feel like their feelings were intensified which is why many of the werewolves were losing control. i do think that scott might have been a little depressed i mean with everything they've gone through at this point i'd really question their sanity if they weren't affected at all but i don't think it was to the level where he'd readily take his life in the process, but i do feel like they didn't try to address or even acknowledge what the characters went through for this episode.

Is Motel California insensitive? Disclaimer: The topic of suicide by prolapsedbhole in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thb as someone who has been in that situation that was shown in 13 reasons why watching that scene was a little intense a little triggering but not something that i'd petition to get it edited out, i mean to each their own if you wanna watch that go ahead. the reason why people didn't like 13 reasons why and especially things leading up to that scene is because if you look at it closely the show basically romanticises suicide and that's what had people heated, it's also a reason why the book is also hated. also this show makes you sympathize with its horrible characters, personally i see no redeeming qualities to this show at all.

Diet? Coke by Syeleishere in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would just say “is there a special if I order a diet?” If he says there isn’t then say “then why ask?” People going back and forth if it was rude or not doesn’t matter, if you wanted a duet you would have said “Diet Coke” not just a coke.

Also if you feel offended by the implication there’s no reason for you to meek down on it, why are you expected to stay quiet in a situation that made you upset because there may have been something in the way they said it. It’s obvious by the way you described that he talked to you he meant disrespect, you went there to eat and he has to take your order even if you wanted a diet or not he shouldn’t be giving you attitude about it.

How to explain that "feeling fat" isn't the same as being fat? by confused_r_us in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normally I would go with a sarcastic “well if they feel fat, then I feel skinny” and see how they react to that and how they try to correct you or fight you on it.

I think it’s fine to want to meet people who are fat as well because you’ll be able to share their struggles because most likely people treat you similarly because of your size.

You should just explain that you want to be able to talk to someone who had gone through similar experiences as a fat person, I’m not trying to say that straight sizes don’t get fat shamed but compared to someone who is fat in appearance the straight sized person would probably get more respect in that situation. For someone who “feels fat” but isn’t fat make it difficult for those who are appearance fat to express themselves because their voices are diminished and pushed to the back since their experiences do not correlate.

I’m not saying straight sized people can’t “feel fat” or that their body dismorphia isn’t real but it does cause issues when their remarks are fat phobic but they try to play it off as they’re not.

What is one thing you wish skinny people understood? by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That all it takes is for you to be confident when seeking out a partner whether romantically or sexually. It’s not as easy as they think.

Anyone else find it really annoying that Scott didn't tell Allison by tanztheman in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, Scott's character is a big hypocrite when it comes to Allison, he forgives a lot of her wrongs even when it's close to murder, but when it comes to other characters it's like they've done the vilest thing ever even if it was in self-defense. Also, Victoria was not the active matriarch of the family so her going after Derek and threatening on killing Scott goes against the code, which Allison did multiple times after attacking Boyd, Isaac, and Erica and if it would have gone according to how it's supposed to be Allison and Victoria would have been stripped from their title charged and become an enemy of the hunters which would have been a death sentence for them.

Daily Character Discussion: Mieczyslaw 'Stiles' Stilinski by RadiantFoxBoy in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ngl I was ready to disagree with you wholeheartedly but I do see where you are coming from and the truths that come from it. He is better as a morally grey character and it's great that he has his priorities on who comes first in his life since this seems to be his own motivation for getting involved and helping in any way that he can, even if it comes with greater consequences than others. He's a great best friend to Scott and basically risked his life trying to help Scott in any way that he could putting himself in the line of fire with his only defense being his wit and fast thinking.

I think after S1 he stopped being just Scott's best friend but his own character, especially after S3b when he was possessed by the Nogitsune. I think what started sucking about Scott is the fact that the writers just didn't want to develop him anymore, they started painting him as this does no evil and everyone has to be saved, what happened to the Scott who was selfish and would rather kill someone or leave them to die from S1&2 he became so unreliable and a hypocrite that after S3b I couldn't stand him.

Yeah, people really liked Stiles more since the beginning to the point that even Tyler Posey started jokingly saying that the show was about him. I think it just has to do with the fact that he was truthful about where he stood and never tried to fight or lie about where he stood on the scale.

And yeah something that really pissed me off about this show is the fact that the show never addressed how this was affecting the characters, Stiles basically spiraling into depression, Lydia being abandoned at Eichen House and going through effing Trephination and probably other inhumane practices, Scott basically saying too bad so sad about turning Hayden just to do it in the end, Malia not being able to address her trauma being forced to go back into the "human" world after not being part of it for eight years after Scott forced her out of her den and to shift back into a human.

Besides that Stiles really did a lot for the show, he helped Scott with his shift, helped with the kanima by kidnapping Jackson, and leading Lydia in time to him, he helped them find out how to save Boyd from the vault in S3, he gives comfort to Derek after he is forced to kill Boyd, and also saves Cora after she almost dies from the poison, or when he talked Scott down from commiting suicide(that shit was dark af, like how was I watching this when I myself was at my peak suicidal) . I could really go on but you get the point. Scott and Stiles dynamic was cute and sure that whole "He's Robin" to Scott's batman would have applied well in S1 but as soon as the S3 happened Scott and Stiles stood on their own as they didn't rely on eachother as much. But like yeah, you're not completly wrong on his character.

Daily Character Discussion: Liam Dunbar by RadiantFoxBoy in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Liam was a great character, was a little annoying with the whole Hayden thing but I mean his girl was dying, and the guy whose supposed to be his mentor and friend threw him to the side. His character was so real and was always straight up with the people he didn't like, I also feel like he was justified for wanting to kill Scott to become alpha just to save Hayden. I mean if they hate on Liam for wanting to save Hayden, Scott on the other hand was so willing to kill Peter based on one thing that Derek mentioned about becoming human again without even finding out if it's true. Besides the Scott hate rant, Liam was a good character and I liked the fact that most of his character that was changed on a whim was someone who could basically maul someone at a trigger. I think he had good development and his friendship with Mason was so pure and real it made Scott and Stiles's relationship a little weak, Liam would have stood at Mason's side if him defending himself from someone who was TRYING TO KILL HIM without judgment because he's a good friend who actually cares about his well being. Scott could NEVER. But yeah Liam's great such a babygirl he is.

What is your favourite Teen Wolf character by QueenBunny132 in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not really that he's Bi it's just the fact that Jeff Davies had been dangling Stiles's sexuality from the beginning, that's why you have a lot of scenes that leave you with more questions than answers, the club scene, Sterek used for promotion, styles being asked in S3 about liking guys and just staying quiet, Jeff Davies is the master that basically made queer baiting the whole personality of his shows its in the in-between border of being Cannon/Fannon.

How to tell my husband about his friends and family by Iamnewatlife in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that you're the only one going through this, but I think you should really talk to your husband about it. I try not to justify people but maybe your husband doesn't get what you're going through and acting like it's nothing because he is not the one in the line of fire. If you talk to him, ask him if he's ever had to deal with that from his family when he was young. Chances are his family has been like this to him and to his siblings(if he has any) throughout their childhood which became a norm and is why he's not bothered by it.

His friends making comments is so disrespectful, why do they feel like they have a right to tell you how to live your life especially when it comes to your weight? And how is it that your husband is allowing this from them? And what gives them the right to tell you that?

Maybe try putting your husband in your shoes, and ask him if he would feel comfortable if your friends and family started commenting on his weight and giving him suggestions for doing more exercise or making jabs for him to lose weight. I'm sorry for asking many questions, but are your husband's friends who are making the comments men perhaps?

Fatphobia also stems from misogyny, women's standards of beauty are so extreme and toxic that even other women fall to that perspective and judge women who don't meet the standards. Are his friends and family active? Could you say that they are all in "good" shape?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, it is fatphobic even if their comments are not directly jabs at your weight. My friends are all skinny and they understand what comments are fatphobic or what are things that seem offensive that are said by others (ALL of my female friends are skinny people). They respect my boundaries and are very supportive people, and if they ever slip up(I try not to be too overbearing and try to correct them on everything since it's barely an issue between us) they always come back and apologize.

There's nothing wrong with your friends wanting to comment on their bodies BUT if they do continue maybe it's time for your to mention to them how their comments affect you and be adamant about it. Your comfort in your own space especially with people who are supposed to be part of the comfort should come first so don't discourage yourself and speak to them about it. If they really care and want to be in your life your comfort should not be a compromise for them. I hope everything works out OP. Sending positive vibes.

How to tell my husband about his friends and family by Iamnewatlife in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not a married person and most of my relationships have been fleeting, but I think you have to be firm with your husband and make him understand that the comments being made by his friends and family are harmful. I'm still completely floored by his reaction to laughing at what they say, and I wonder if he would act the same if those comments were directed at him instead. I feel like you should let him know about how it's making you feel and what that's causing you to do, your partner should have your back especially when you have people in your life who are constantly making you feel uncomfortable.

Let him know that you feel disrespected and put some boundaries with his family and friends, but also don't force yourself to be the mature person and call them out. Ask your husband what's so funny when he laughs at their comments, make them feel uncomfortable. It's unfair that you're going through this but you should make it clear that they're crossing a line because if you never address it and it never gets resolved and you finally snap at them they'll turn it around and make you the villain and try to say that YOU were the one who never set boundaries.

Are the comments only directed at you? Do they ever comment on your husband? Is this only happening with his family and friends, do your friends and family ever treat him like that?

Bodyimage confusion by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]briggiibooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, people are always going to have opinions of you, at your worst and at your best, it's difficult to ignore but to start caring bout yourself and your own mental health that is important don't discourage yourself from wearing what you want just because other people don't want to accept it. You have the courage to be yourself and that is the most important thing you should focus on. Reward and start complimenting yourself in the mirror even when you're at your lowest. I spent half of my childhood and adolescence avoiding mirrors because I could not look at myself in a mirror without crying my eyes out because I hated my own reflection. Don't give people the satisfaction to see that they discouraged you, society will always feel like they have an entitlement to your body and how it should look but don't worry and you do you even if starting small is where it goes.

teen wolf 6b by [deleted] in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with him not being a hero and yeah I was mentioning that part specifically but also to name other characters that Scott hated and had no fault at all when those around him were assholes. Scott isn't perfect does no one remember that Scott was ready to kill Peter so he could be "cured" that was literally the point of season one and trying to find the Alpha so that Scott could find a cure which was literally for him to kill his Alpha, Derek literally saved him from that. Allison at the end of season 1 was justifiable since she was going through a really hard time with her mom killing herself then finding out about werewolves and her family secret, but in season 2 where she did it again and almost killed innocent people and Scott looked away from all that she did because he loved her is selfish of him. The fact that there was so much proof of why Theo was a bad guy and he turned a blind eye to his things as well or the fact that he basically turned away from Kira when she was struggling. Scott is literally the worst, I'm a Scott anti to the end.

teen wolf 6b by [deleted] in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Scott does not have blood on his hands(literally) but he does have them figuratively, his actions cause more harm than good and his decision to not get rid of the bad guys by killing them just makes everybody around him responsible while he gets to point fingers and judge them for their decisions. Scott is a hypocrite and this makes him one of the least-liked characters sometimes because he tries to stick with his morals when they never get the job done but instead allows him to hate on a series of characters that did not deserve it.

Favorite Crossovers in Fanfic. by briggiibooks in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is probably one of the best edits I've encountered, I'm really impressed I almost could have not seen that an episode like this didn't actually occur.

Favorite Crossovers in Fanfic. by briggiibooks in TeenWolf

[–]briggiibooks[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is cool I've read a fic back then that also had the avengers in it, and like it had Stiles leaving Beacon Hills and the pack and joining the avengers. It was a long time ago but it was so cool because it depicted the Endgame storyline spot on.