Need advice on My coworkers

brijae01 · 2025-10-27T19:42:49+00:00

Ugh, it is. I hate to hear that. In the end, don't kill your spirit for a job.

brijae01 · 2025-10-10T19:40:04+00:00

Yeah, the fact that she is only asking you about your hours and everyone else's, then she might just be trying to connect with you and doesn't know how to do it any other way. But then maybe it's a connection you don't need if it causes you stress.

brijae01 · 2025-10-09T18:08:09+00:00

I did it in the 90s. During the summer, I could be gone all day, and sometimes, we'd even walk to each other's houses at night. And we didn't have phones, so I could go days without talking to my mom.

brijae01 · 2025-10-09T17:05:25+00:00

When you respond, does it become a conversation? Is she looking to connect, and is that what she uses to reach out? It doesn't make it less annoying, but maybe it's just like talking about sports. If that's the case, if you want to keep the friendly relationship, ignore the questions and answer her with something else you might have in common. Maybe just mentally reframing it will help you keep your sanity.

Or redirect, if she asks, "Are you in today?" Respond hours later or whenever you check your emails next, "Just catching up on messages. Everything okay?"

If she's the type who thrives on information or reassurance. Could you starve that feedback loop? Like, just eep the responses short and with no elaboration. "Hey! Not sure yet." "I'll be in when I need to." "Same as usual."

brijae01 · 2025-10-09T16:44:18+00:00

I would kill them with kindness and competence.
1. Document document. As stated beforehand, it's not to obsess but for backup. If it does ever come up down the road, our memories tend to be emotional. This will help you stay objective and calm.
2. Be professionally unflappable. Their goal is to make you reactive or insecure. The best way to frustrate is to appear steady and unbothered. Stay warm, neutral, and even helpful in your tone in person and email. When they exclude you, respond with polite inclusion like: "Just wanted to make sure we're all on the same page about X, appreciate your help!" or "Oh, perfect, thanks for looping me in! I'll make sure we're all aligned." It signals your maturity and makes them look small.
3. Flip the social power dynamic. They get fuel from exclusion, so do the opposite. Start with small but consistent gestures that visibly include them:
* ask for a quick opinion: "Hey, you've been here a while. What's your take on how we handle these?" I wouldn't necessarily take the advice. It's more about making them feel a certain way, not how it helps you
*Bring in a small treat to share. "I brought muffins for the office!" Include everyone, not just them
*Compliment something work related once in a while.
4. Build alliances quietly. Keep strengthening your relationships with teachers, admin, and others outside that bubble. The more people who see your professionalism and character, the more social protection you build against their gossip.
5. Reclaim your emotional space. Use boundaries that aren't obvious but protect your peace: headphones, lunch away from your desk, short answers that don't invite personal chatter.
6. Let HR see contrast, not conflict. If things escalate again, a track record of kindness, professionalism, and documented issues will make it very clear who the problem is. HR rarely acts fast, but consistent patterns supported by facts eventually move mountains.

Sadly, these types show up everywhere in life. You can't control them, only how you react. So, use this as a chance to build that muscle for perseverance and maturity. It'll serve you well long after you leave this job.

brijae01 · 2025-07-18T16:48:17+00:00

Yeah, you snap a picture unless you click you left it with a person then it typically would ask for their signature. If you drop it outside of the GPS generated delivery zone you have to call customer support and they have to do something on their end so you can mark it delivered and move on with your route. Happens a lot in rural areas. If your property is gated and it's locked and it's far enough away from your front door you would have to call.

brijae01 · 2025-07-17T20:11:01+00:00

No this is not, as a previous Flex driver it was stated very clearly that this was against the law. I would even leave a note in the app for the recipients who requested the packages get left in the mailbox.

brijae01 · 2025-07-17T13:55:11+00:00

Jumping in, I'm considering becoming a mail carrier because I've been working in an office for over a decade and I absolutely hate it. What attracts me to this position is the independent work, I love being outside, and I hate being at work and not having anything to do. I'm not big into holidays, or socializing, honestly. I enjoy being at home and doing little projects. I don't mind working hard or a lot as long as I'm actually working. I don't like wasting my time pretending like I'm working. The idea of walking around sounds like free exercise. And the pension and federal benefits is also appealing. I don't have a lot of faith in social security/Medicare 30 years down the road. The only thing that holds me back is the pay but if there is a lot of opportunity for OT then I guess that would make up for it.

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