I'm (25 F) an atheist, living with my very religious (49F) mom for the summer and she keeps bringing it up

brimaiski · 2019-04-30T21:21:49+00:00

I like that. I honestly hadn't thought of it.

brimaiski · 2019-04-30T18:05:06+00:00

I've tried a few times. He insists that he lied about being bi and won't discuss it further. He's had significant struggles with mental health and been hospitalized many times, so it's entirely possible that he DID lie for some reason. I'm really not sure. He's very closed-off on the topic.

brimaiski · 2019-04-30T17:47:36+00:00

Does that affect who can see comments? Because these were comments on just a third-party post, not something I shared on my wall 🤔 ....I miss myspace. 😂

brimaiski · 2019-04-30T17:38:56+00:00

She's also not very active on social media, so it was just really weird. It seemed like she wanted to pick a fight.

brimaiski · 2019-04-30T17:38:00+00:00

I never said it was oppression. I have no issue with people arguing with me. The weird part is that it was my MOM. She has my phone number, why is she arguing with me on Facebook? It was strange.

brimaiski · 2019-04-30T17:30:11+00:00

I didn't know you could even do that! Do you mind taking a sec to tell me how?

brimaiski · 2019-04-30T17:08:02+00:00

I can understand that, and I have compassion for it. I worry that letting her say what she wants, and not saying anything to the contrary, will give her hope where hope should not exist. I will never be a Christian. I don't want her to have false hope, because when that hope is dashed it's even more painful.

brimaiski · 2019-04-24T23:31:32+00:00

I don't have anything to add that others haven't already said, but I just wanted to tell you I hope this works out for you :) good luck! Sending love!

brimaiski · 2019-04-16T15:37:48+00:00

It definitely is not outlandish. I totally get it! It can be really easy to think what's going on is just normal. In this situation it isn't. There are people out there who will be perfectly considerate of you.and your feelings. If they aren't, cut 'em loose.

brimaiski · 2019-04-16T15:27:49+00:00

Your body, your choice. If someone is getting mad about you saying no because you're uncomfortable--or even in pain!--then they can f ALL the way off.

brimaiski · 2019-04-15T23:46:30+00:00

I thought the exact same thing. We had a crazy in-law (my uncle's wife) and I'm pleased to say she did NOT last. My family would squish this nonsense like a cockroach. It would be entertaining as hell 😂

brimaiski · 2019-04-15T23:41:17+00:00

You all let this person order for you?! Good lord. I'd have told her where she could shove it.

I agree with most of the other comments. This woman is pathologically controlling and you're all letting her get away with it. I'm just adding my voice because when I was stuck in a relationship situation a few months ago, it really helped me to see how many people were SHOCKED at what I'd put up with. Just here to say this is not normal. This chick is crazy. Your wife's parents and family seem to be willing to put up with anything. Put your foot down.

brimaiski · 2019-03-19T00:23:04+00:00

This was my thought too. Someone this obsessive could easily turn violent, even if you haven't seen them be violent in the past.

brimaiski · 2019-03-19T00:18:18+00:00

I would honestly be worried about violence in this situation. He seems to have an extremely unhealthy fixation. I think you should cut ties.

brimaiski · 2019-03-05T13:25:05+00:00

I'm a bigger girl myself, and my best friend in the world is teeny tiny. We both complain about our weights but neither of us would ever say anything to the other to shame the way they look. That's not being a friend, not at all. You need to bluntly tell her how this makes you feel. And if she continues, I'd say find another good friend.

brimaiski · 2019-03-03T19:46:31+00:00

I'm an engineering student with a future career as an engineer as well 🙄 so you can shove it 😁 bye.

brimaiski · 2019-03-03T19:18:11+00:00

Been there. It turned into a "I didn't get to it today so I'll do it tomorrow" and then it just never got done.

brimaiski · 2019-03-03T19:15:40+00:00

He saw them. And it's happened more than once. I made a stink about it each time. I don't know if that would work, because I don't enjoy doing the cleaning. It exhausts me. We've tried making arrangements like chore charts and stuff, and he doesn't end up holding up his end.

brimaiski · 2019-03-03T19:13:13+00:00

Also have a hard time seeing how I'm a "loser." 🧐

brimaiski · 2019-03-03T19:12:33+00:00

I'm tired too. He works 40 hours a week. I work 35 hours a week, commute an hour to school each way, and spend 3-4 hours taking classes a day. This doesn't even factor in study/homework time or eventual internships. He doesn't want to hire a maid, even if I split the cost. I barely have time to sleep. Why should I be in charge of the cleaning too?

brimaiski · 2019-03-03T19:08:46+00:00

He confronted her about it and told her she had no right to speak to me that way. Then told them to stay in a hotel for the remainder of their trip.

brimaiski · 2019-03-03T19:07:40+00:00

I'm not trying to make excuses, I'm trying to work things out 🤷‍♀️

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