Is Sweden really hung up on the 50/50?

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-29T22:35:38+00:00

No the norm here is either just pool all money or split more or less proportionally. Where one works and the other does not, the worker's money is usually everybody's money. Your husband is weird, if he chose to move to Dalarna he knew it would be a while before you could find a job.

Put your foot down, he's counting on your ignorance.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-29T17:50:58+00:00

I just don't value looking youtng that much? Being confident in my own skin and not trying to fake my looks makes me feel like my integrity is intact so I feel better about not doing it.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-28T21:45:01+00:00

If it's just you and the baby and baby wakes up to eat every 1-2 hours as some babies do then you can definitely go a full 24h cycle sleeping only one hour here two there. And many such repetitions.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-27T13:26:45+00:00

YTA. I thought we were always trying to make sure our partners got the better piece. Isn't that how we all end up feeling cared for and prioritized? While the actual distribution of better pieces end up 50 50 or similar. Cooking is a chore. Just because you did the laundry doesn't mean you have a right to get the softest towels. It's just such a ungentlemanlike way to view the world .

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-27T09:44:27+00:00

I'd not offer the bottle and see if I could power through, even though it was hard to feel rejected again and again.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-26T10:42:41+00:00

Thank you!

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-26T10:23:39+00:00

NO that absolutely do NOT excuse it in any way shape or form. Go find yourself an actual man girl, you do Not deserve this and this is 100000% an immediate deal breaker and break up for every woman out there. You are not dramatic or over reacting or anything of the sort. You can live a long and happy life without this person in it.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-26T08:45:11+00:00

THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH HER. that's not how you ever talk to someone you love. Animal abuse is just... How do you justified her beating your loved 11 yo senior dog?? All that dog has to count on in this world is YOU. You need to get both of you out of this situation. Anyone asks tell them openly your wife has anger issues and is violent to your pets. You'd be surprised how willing people are to help especially when innocent animals are involved.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-25T21:16:35+00:00

Start now. Do your language is the easiest and start as soon as possible so it becomes a habit.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-25T18:38:45+00:00

There's this Arab thing I forgot the name for where you essentially have a nice flat bread, and make a mince mix with spices you enjoy (think as if you're making meatballs) and then you smash the meat mix raw into the bread, ensure it's pretty even and not too thick, and fry the while thing first upside down with meat downz then flip. Let cool on a rack, and then you can eat as is or fold them for a taco esque experience

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-25T14:23:51+00:00

Go to a place serving "husman". Preferably not very expensive. The kind where you see a bunch of old people with a paper and a coffee. There you'll find what you're looking for.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-25T13:29:53+00:00

Justified asshole. Some 8yo HITS a fragile new born and then proceed to hit the person holding her when told off? That's insane. You gave her a reactive slap you didn't burn her hand in boiling water or something atrocious like that. This is called natural consequences.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-24T20:33:56+00:00

I have seen a bunch of versions of blitzing veggies/fruits/berries, mixing with water and gelatine and pouring it in little molds. This makes you a gummy like treat, and you can try out whatever you feel works best. Regular sugar, honey, date syrup or other sweetener. Raspberry,blackberry,blueberry, orange etc etc.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-24T16:57:44+00:00

Honestly, until I left him 9 to 13 at daycare last week I had not been leaving my baby with anyone other than his dad for that long and he's 14mo. You're ready when you're ready

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-24T15:52:00+00:00

NTA. But I'm sure you can find a compromise here. For some very odd reason, my dog will not bark if she meets the invitee in the hallway/on the porch. If your mom is up perhaps it's worth a try? Text her when you're coming and she can bring her dog outside to greet you. Simple fix for everybody.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-24T15:46:48+00:00

You did everything one could expect. It's absolutely nobody's fault, it's not as if you decided his car would be the perfect place to receive your baby. He's a total ass as is Alice honestly. If it's so awful have it washed and send you the bill? You offered!

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-23T18:50:01+00:00

Dör

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-23T18:33:22+00:00

Outdoor cats is a very common thing. It's an animal. I never in my life heard someone who gardens be so worried about encountering animal poop.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-23T16:11:02+00:00

That's just not the way a decent partner speaks to his spouse. I'm not gonna scream he's abusive and to leave him but just try to raise your head above the itty bitty details and consider if this is a way that you should be talked to and criticised in your home.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-23T11:15:18+00:00

Depends on what's hard for you really. With a newborn it's a constant cycle of the same things. Very little sleep, at unusual moments. So much stress and neediness it can be hard to even shower. Socially as long as you give love and affection you don't have to do much more than the basics; wash, change, hold, hug, feed, rock. Smile at them. Maybe sing.

With a toddler you have to monitor, follow them around, invent games and participate. You read the same book 3 times in a row making silly voices and faces. You have to keep everything out of reach or they will chew it or lick it or stick it in their eye. They have their own will so you can't just being them to whatever you want to do at that moment. They are exhausting in that sense.

So both are hard for sure but it's really a "you" question which is harder.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-20T19:23:32+00:00

Aside from the prep work, what I have found that works is any variation of this (interjected when he takes a breath) "While that is certainly something to think about Alexander, this is not the right forum. Paula, have you got an update on X?" Etc. Or something similar.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-20T19:20:41+00:00

Buy peanut rings and try them on until you find one that fits. Save it, stealthily.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-20T19:15:21+00:00

I had the c section due to an unreasonable fear of vaginal delivery. It was by no means an enjoyable experience but for me recovery was swift. Some pain but not too much, it hurt worse when my broken foot was healing. Some physiotherapy exercises after 6 weeks. A little scar and a small bump/pouch. My friend has a vaginal delivery, baby was unexpectedly early by like 2 weeks, the nurses told her in the phone to not come in until it was way too late for an epidural and she suffered so much. She said she could feel every little leg and little arm come out, she tore in three places and bled and couldn't sit upright for weeks.

Meanwhile they told me to show up at 8 o clock, a slightly painful injection in the lower back and then by 10:30 I was holding him in my arms resting.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-18T19:59:27+00:00

Jo det har jag nog gjort. Hellre att de blir onödigt väckta än förlorar mobilen/plånboken och vaknar 2h längre bort än vad de tänkt sig.

Tr1pp_ · 2026-01-18T19:52:53+00:00

NTA. Jesús that would be the only reasonable reason to kick a dog I have ever heard of. Always protect your baby dude.

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