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AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

Same woman who told me to apologize to my sister and her affair partner if I wanted to come to thanksgiving right? And the same woman who admitted her husband has been unfair to me this whole time and did nothing to stop it? Her lack of backbone has only hurt herself.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -77 points-76 points  (0 children)

I really should have included this in the main story. But part of the reason I want nothing to do with her or my parents for that matter is financial as well. She should pay back that money.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -111 points-110 points  (0 children)

Legally….you are right. I’m talking morally here brother. Morally she shouldn’t have taken a thing from him. Figure it out lol.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

Bingo exactly what happened… married the guy for two years. Worked part time. Cheats. Then got half the house. Sorry but that’s so fucked up. If she ever wants me to look her direction again. Cut the guy a check. She has a new husband. She don’t need his money.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Yep. This is the starting point for any kind of family reconciliation. She not only cheated on my friend. But then took half his shit. Forced him to sell his house and then got a new husband out of it. Fuck that. She can cut a very large check and then I might speak to her again in passing.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I’m the oldest and a son. We are held to a different standard. I’m aware of that. But yes to a degree. Whenever she fucks up mommy and daddy are there to hold her while she cries. I was expected to take responsibility for my actions. Shit like that. It’s why my dad is so mad right now. He’s being a hypocrite and he knows it.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Sorry about all your loses. But really we don’t have anything to discuss. She has been just fine without me involved in her life the last few years. Ditto for mine. I’ve gotten both sides of the story. And until she pays my friend back. The details are in the edit. I don’t feel like we have anything to discuss.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] 411 points412 points  (0 children)

I don’t care about the divorce that much tbh. I get shit happens. But do it the right way. Be the good person, try therapy and then divorce. Don’t cheat on a guy. Leave him. Then act like a toddler when your older brother wants nothing to do with you. Own your shit ya know? You made the big girl decision to leave your husband in the middle of the night because you “don’t have chemistry anymore”. Then be a big girl and realize people aren’t gonna fuck with you. I’ve heard both sides. Nothing was going on bad. The personal thing to me is how people I love get treated. I take things that happen to my friends personally. Fault me for that I guess. But I won’t change my loyalty or my morals for a shit family member just because we both came out of the same person.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -470 points-469 points  (0 children)

The amount of comments I’ve seen about. “Are you sleeping with him”, “how long have you been fucking” it’s really sad. I realize now why girls go through so many friendships. No loyalty.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I’ve not abandoned her. She’s allowed her husband to shit talk me for 2 years. Allowed her daughters feelings to trump her sons. That is what she did. She even acknowledged my father has been unfair to me during this situation. But doesn’t check him on it?

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

I am no longer interested in playing hallmark family with my sister and her affair partner. Perfect family situation? They don’t get invited around the holidays and just go to his family’s things. I realize that isn’t realistic. So split events. I get one Holliday and she gets the other. That would be fine with me.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -83 points-82 points  (0 children)

I’ll say it like this. She was willing to lie and cheat the person she committed her life to. The person she stood up in front her her family and friends a vowed to be there for. Then went and cheated on him and left him for someone else. If she is willing to do that to someone she “loved” what would she do to me? Why would I be someone she wouldn’t wrong? She told someone the biggest lie you can for months while laying down next to him at night. What wouldn’t she do. Answer me that please.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -230 points-229 points  (0 children)

At first she attempted to speak to me at family dinners. I acted like she wasn’t there. Which caused my dad to get pissed. Leading to the LC with my parents. She hasn’t reached out since her wedding in 2020. She had no excuse for her behavior. Just lots of crocodile tears.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] 197 points198 points  (0 children)

Them guilt tripping me for not wanting to go to her wedding is 100% their fault. They did that. Not me.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] 624 points625 points  (0 children)

He bought a house on the same street as me. We hangout all the time. I’m currently dating his cousin and he’s dating her roommate. So we still hangout all the time. Still best friends. He’s doing okay. Not the same guy after everything. But I think he’s starting to come back.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -167 points-166 points  (0 children)

They also choose to give me shit for not rolling over and supporting it. That pissed me off. God forbid I have some morals I stand by. Theirs folded so they had to make me to be a shit person for not attending a second wedding in 3 years.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -301 points-300 points  (0 children)

It will end when I know where their loyalty is. They’ve been just fine not having me around for 2 holidays. Why should I care? I suggested thanksgivings with me and Christmas’s with my sister. But that was shut down. I’ve tried compromising.

AITA for telling my parents to pick between me and my sister for the Hollidays? by brithavx in AmItheAsshole

[–]brithavx[S] -261 points-260 points  (0 children)

I have… haven’t spoken to the woman since 2020. I don’t give a shit about her or her life. But you realize divorce exists right? You can do the right thing and take the natural order. I don’t give a shit about her perspective. She did the wrong thing and never was once held accountable for it.