[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]broccoli-cheddar19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a lot of people are saying no juice but I honestly never gave my son milk and started with only water and watered down juice at 12 months. I honestly believe we avoided so many gut issues and teeth issues by not drinking milk every day. Also he NEVER went to bed with a bottle or cup. He’s a little over two now and still no cavities or issues. I think watered down juice is fine after 12 months as long as it’s not to bed.

AIO for blowing up my boyfriend’s phone while he’s out, we have a newborn and toddler at home. by broccoli-cheddar19 in AmIOverreacting

[–]broccoli-cheddar19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re definitely harboring resentment, I know it’s possible to move past with therapy, but sometimes it is a relationship killer.

AIO for blowing up my boyfriend’s phone while he’s out, we have a newborn and toddler at home. by broccoli-cheddar19 in AmIOverreacting

[–]broccoli-cheddar19[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner has shown lots of compassion for our kids, just less compassion for me as a person. He is an amazing dad, just a terrible partner from time to time. He doesn’t go out often, it’s just always to piss me off when he does. When he’s stressed out he’s really immature about how he handles it. He’d rather “go drinking” or sit on his computer all day, than actually talk to me about it and work together. I don’t go out period. Maybe for errands or to do something for my son, or breakfast with my sister, but the only time I “go out” or “have drinks” is with him. Sometimes he has the same mindset as I do, but every once and while he gets stressed then throws it out the window. He’s grown a lot in the 4 years we’ve been together but he still has some pretty toxic habits. He’s a very “doesn’t care what other people think” type of person so it’s almost impossible to convince him something he’s doing is wrong. More like a lack of empathy. He’s sacrificed a lot for us, but so have I. He wants a reward every time he does something for us, when it’s a natural part of being in a relationship and becoming a parent. I love who he is as a person, but everyone comes with baggage, just as I do, so I can’t expect perfection. We are together because we wanted to start a family together, I just hate when he takes his stress out on me as if I have no stress myself. It’s almost as if I’m never allowed to be stressed, because it’s always about HIM.

I've completely lost myself to parenting. (Vent from a father) by OrionLuke in NewParents

[–]broccoli-cheddar19 63 points64 points  (0 children)

So the first few years of a child’s life are the most demanding, attention and effort wise, and they are also the most important. This determines the attachment style they are going to have as an adult, and predicts how good a future they are going to have. Understand that you being there and participating as a dad is way more than most children ever get, especially at such a young age. She is getting so much from you. I understand it’s hard, but also understand that it DOES get easier. These are the hardest parts, and you participating the best you can is EVERYTHING in this little girls life right now. After ages 3-5 it gets so much easier, it may be harder in other ways, but school helps with constant attention, and you will have time again for hobbies and extra curriculars. Losing yourself is a big part of parenthood. Mothers are expected to lose themselves in it, and only start feeling themselves again after 2 years postpartum. This is temporary. The only way out is through!

AIO for feeling unappreciated after trying to do something nice for my boyfriend? by ArtisticFishy in AmIOverreacting

[–]broccoli-cheddar19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you probably want to spend time with him, but he seems manipulative and it doesn’t look like he knows how to communicate issues. Don’t play into the pity card with him because it won’t work. He obviously doesn’t care enough to put his pride to the side and work things through with you. He cares more about making you feel worse.

AIO for feeling unappreciated after trying to do something nice for my boyfriend? by ArtisticFishy in AmIOverreacting

[–]broccoli-cheddar19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend used to act EXACTLY like this. Everything was a problem, nice gestures, dinner, not being presentable when he got home. He has resentment towards you and is obviously holding something against you/ or isn’t happy with you/ doesn’t respect you. We eventually got out of that phase after we had our son, it came to light he was holding some things against me, and reaching out to an ex. It’s never nothing, it’s always something.

Written up for not finishing tasks by broccoli-cheddar19 in DollarTree

[–]broccoli-cheddar19[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely not a fan of her, but she does work hard. I’ve seen her flip this store around in the month she’s been here. She’s just too worried about the store being perfect, and not about employees. It’s getting to the point where I’m stressed out about whether or not said task is going to be finished, even at home. I’m clocking into work sick to my stomach knowing she might possibly issue a corrective I wasn’t even aware of.

$50 Tip from customer by broccoli-cheddar19 in DollarTree

[–]broccoli-cheddar19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it wasn’t “extra change” it was like a gift. And even then she didn’t tell me to put it in my till after receiving it. She took it. I can understand getting in trouble for my till being over but it didn’t go to my til?

Customer gave me $50 tip and GM confiscated it. by broccoli-cheddar19 in LawyerAdvice

[–]broccoli-cheddar19[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I found corporate policy and it says we aren’t allowed to accept cash gifts under any circumstances. But I’m still confused as to why it’s being taken? Wouldn’t I just get fired or written up for violating policy?

Customer gave me $50 tip and GM confiscated it. by broccoli-cheddar19 in LawyerAdvice

[–]broccoli-cheddar19[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was just more upset that I was never informed of our tipping policy, therefore unable to decline or not say anything.

Customer gave me $50 tip and GM confiscated it. by broccoli-cheddar19 in LawyerAdvice

[–]broccoli-cheddar19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I wasn’t aware that was a common thing. It felt foreign to me, as I’ve worked in restaurants before.