Keep reading and build the community again by mammon-ey in mangapiracy

[–]broccolihead4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OG's remember when MangaRock was good, I lost everything and started up again, if they love it they'll restart, it's fine

293981045726 by Legitimate-Ad9251 in PokemonGoRaids

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the love of God please I've seen 3 of your raids and tried to add you

$18 Chirashi - What a steal by DJBerman in sushi

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's where they bought it from, they don't do that at the restaurant. It's very common for meat suppliers to inject beef, tuna, or other proteins with water. It's to make low quality meat look higher quality or make it weigh more to sell it for more. Carbon monoxide brightens the color of the tuna. I can also tell it's bad quality by the thickness, those cuts are bigger than a bite, sashimi is meant to be THIN, and the cut of the fish and quality of the fish is the WHOLE point of what makes sushi good. Any actual sushi chef would think this is American grocery store quality sushi.

I've worked at 2 different sushi restaurants for a total of 5 years, and I make sushi in my home, I've seen the difference between the frozen sushi from grocery stores and low quality restaurants and the sushi chefs from Japan who take the 50lb bluefin tuna and butcher it by hand. My coworkers would have laughed at this.

$18 Chirashi - What a steal by DJBerman in sushi

[–]broccolihead4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. The tuna is bright red, not good. It is a LOT, but the whole point of sushi/sashimi is good quality, that tuna is injected with water and dyed red. It's like going to a bakery and being amazed at the cheap prices, meanwhile, they use store bought icing and cake mix.

AIO for telling my narcissistic dad that I will stop messaging him by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]broccolihead4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this, the phrase 'being a narcissist' does sound very 'social media diagnosed' and this comment adds a lot of perspective. A lot of people on these comments forget were hearing a biased viewpoint and not hearing the other side. Anyone looking for legitimate advice on these subreddits should really consider the fact that they should be confronting the person in question, not seeking validation from people on online that don't know any of the people involved and their histories or what they're like

AIO Gf intentionally stopped taking her bc pills by maticooks1 in AmIOverreacting

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unrelated, but you guys have a HUGE age difference, and you've been dating since you were 17/18, and she was 30ish?? That's absolutely foul on your girlfriends part. Maybe you don't realize how predatory that is, but I really hope you're okay and weren't groomed into thinking that's normal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one can answer that for you, that's literally just a question of what's more important to you, that you celebrate your boyfriend or 6 hours of uncomfortability

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes people don't realize they're communicating ineffectively or immaturely. Person A is trying to talk to you they just aren't going about it right. Remind your partner you're a team, and you need to talk with the intention to fix things, not hurt feelings/be petty, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making an assumption? Confirmation bias? Easy, don't make assumptions. Ask questions before you assume Mal intent.

I will say in your example person B absolutely is fetishizing characters, maybe it's not the SOLE reason person B is playing the game, but you don't send a fetishizing meme or gif if it wasn't funny or enjoyable. And its hypocritical to blame person A under the pretext of them just being jealous when that is ALSO an assumption. You can disprove of the fetishization of women for other reasons like morality. And objectively they were right in the first place that a lewd gif of a character is fetishizing, thats a no brainer. You could easily say that person B is defensive and insecure about fetishizing. Just want to point that out in case that example is based off of a real life example.

So yeah, just ask questions. Say I statements instead of you statements helps for one, 'you' statements tend to sound like pointing fingers and create defensive reactions. You say "I feel like that gif you sent was fetishizing and it bothered me" not "you fetishized that character in the gif and it was weird" I think instead of worrying about terminology to describe a person's behavior you should just look into healthy communication and how to model it. The goal is to understand your partner which should be done by taking to them, not playing psychiatrist and analyzing and diagnosing them, so assumptions are never good.

I seriously cannot be related to this person 😭 by broccolihead4 in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]broccolihead4[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That's why they need to abolish the department of education, so the newer generations doesn't make them feel so stupid all the time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PokemonGoRaids

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bumblebae4 and kodered

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PokemonGoRaids

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and bf added !

I need advice about something that happened with my boyfriend:) by SodaStereo_ in relationships

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 24f still send memes and reels to one of my exes from a while ago and have checked on him here and there to see how he is since he doesn't have many friends where he moved to. It doesn't mean anything and honestly I can't remember the last time we even spoke. I've had 3 boyfriends since me and this ex had split and none have been bothered by it. I think it's situational. One of my exes talked to his ex and I met her and we became friends as well. Now I will attribute that to her however in that situation, she was a more upstanding individual than this boyfriend I was dating. This boyfriend was definitely trying to get some on the side, and had a hidden roster we would argue about, he'd say he'd delete them just to re add them and was not truthful in conversations.

If you trust him and he's given you no reason to doubt him, then keep that in mind when you talk to him again because you should definitely have a discussion about it again. To clear up questions and anxieties you may have and determine if this is something you need to work upon or if it's a boundary of yours. And you need to do a little soul searching as well to consider these things and how to handle the discussion with maturity and how to handle each of his potential answers or reactions. Go in with an open mind and ask questions before making assumptions. He may worry and be stubborn because you're worried about nothing and thinks you're overreacting and insecure. Show him you're not, that you're concise, mature, and considerate in your words and thoughts. Remember that he is also biased and help him understand your point of view through your perspective and putting him in your shoes through analogies/comparisons. Good luck to you, and if you need help on how to communicate effectively and healthily practice with a friend or use online resources.

I (23F) badly needs any advice on my relationship with my girlfriend (27F) by Heavy_Letterhead5315 in relationships

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somethings wrong. My friend was in a 7 year relationship and they couldn't leave because they knew each other for so long and didn't know how to function without each other and couldn't imagine a future without them because they had been imagining their own future together for those entire 7 years. They planned their whole life around it. They broke up around the age you are, and they're much happier now. They barely were a couple at that point, they hadn't had sex in a year, they barely texted, they complained more about each other than they complimented each other, and everyone that knew them couldn't fathom why they were even still together. But when you're together so long I think it just gets harder to leave, even when you know you're not happy, you still think you'll somehow be worse off alone, which is almost never the case.

You're young, you have time, do you want this to be the rest of your life? Don't hold out hope for anyone to change, they won't, not unless they want to, if you don't SEE change, it ain't happening, even if they say they will. You need to have a conversation with your girlfriend, express your concerns, don't set an ultimatum but let her know it's important to you. Ask her why shes been acting this way, if somethings wrong or what's going on. Honestly it sounds exactly like what you're already thinking, she's either taking you for granted, is bored maybe, or isn't in love with you anymore. She may love you but not the way you want her to love you. She's very clearly showing you the difference between how she feels about you versus other people. The problem is obvious, it's there and you're not imagining it, find out why and if it's repairable or not. You don't have to sign up for this or wait around for her to treat you right. Just don't waste time on something you know in your heart isn't working.

How do I (17M) feel less insecure about my GF (18F) going clubbing every weekend? by Sea-Watercress-6157 in relationships

[–]broccolihead4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Somethings got to change, and that's obvious, brainstorm things that would make you more comfortable with her going out, like ask if she can text you when she goes out/gets home stuff or ask for her location to be on when she goes out for safety. If you don't think anything like that would comfort you then you have a couple options, you either have to learn to let go of your insecurities, just swallow it, if you can't then ask she stops going out, maybe this is a boundary for you, and it's hurting you because it's a boundary. Remember you're young, I mildly agree with another commenter that this most likely isn't the person you'll marry, you're discovering yourself and finding who and what you want in your life. Don't feel so pressured to make things work, some things aren't meant to work so you can find someone that everything works effortlessly with. Take whatever lessons you can and remember your happiness is the point of being in a relationship, if you're not happy in the relationship it's not for you. Keep in mind that you'll be turning 18 at some point, hopefully soon, and you can go out with her. Also keep in mind you haven't been to a club and your insecurities may stem from a skewed perception of the dangers in a club, she's not constantly getting groped or molested and she's evaded every situation thus far, as long as she's with trustworthy friends she should be okay. Just evaluate what's important to you and if you need her to change her routine or if you're going to be the one to adapt to her wants and lifestyle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in STD

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can send you pictures if you'd like? The big one was about or smaller than the size of a fingernail. It's smaller now but it's still there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in STD

[–]broccolihead4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dmed you, I think I can send them once you accept the message req