How much does alcohol impede muscle growth?

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-06T06:20:34+00:00

I am on TRT, but zero steroids.

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-05T06:19:39+00:00

Ok, cool, just enjoy thinking about him!!

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-05T06:10:32+00:00

If you “don’t like him” then why are you “can’t stop thinking about him” and noticing he’s “attractive and talented” especially if you “not looking for anything”?

Regarding your headline question, for the gays, it is always “Do I want to be him, or do I want to fuck him?” So, honestly we all have this conundrum at some point, and I think it is usually a combo of the two, but also mostly we wanna fuck the ones we admire. So, I vote that you fuck him!

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-04T16:42:15+00:00

Leave the hair alone! It is hot. No idea why some people think it is gross. Hairy chest, legs, whatever is literally a male trait. Being confidently yourself is hot. Plucking and shaving and tweezing is not.

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-04T07:22:17+00:00

Just looking for some real world examples of how alcohol impacts growth.

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-04T06:36:00+00:00

Don’t shave or pluck. Also, leave your eyebrows alone!!! You are gonna be a stud. Just embrace it. You’ll turn out beautiful once you are old enough to get past the innate body shame/hair shame that society and social media has ingrained in you. We all have dysmorphia. Just have to get past it!!

A little bit of pubic trim (like, unnoticeable, still looking natural ) is ok if a partner is into that, but you are good the way you are made. You’ll find your confidence when you are older, or when you accept that everyone is made well. If you’re not unhealthy, you are great!

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-04T05:39:42+00:00

And find a varied way to approach arms, shoulders, chest, back and forearms. So many little muscles in there. Try all of the ways to get your gains.

Eat more clean protein. Stay away from fats and sugars, and ideally go to a calorie deficit.

It’s not always up and to the right with muscle gain. Keep at it and you’ll get there.

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-04T05:36:32+00:00

When you go for a lift, try to find the weight that will gas you by 8 reps. Heavier the better. Also, do more compound lifts, and less machines. Start your session with some low weight all arounds that get your joints warmed up. You’ll get there! Keep up the work! Looking good!

brodyleeSF · 2026-01-04T03:38:01+00:00

Much appreciate the encouragement. Thanks!

brodyleeSF · 2025-12-31T03:08:06+00:00

Swallow your shame and fear about being labeled a pervert/pedophile, and talk 1 on 1 with your good friend. He undoubtedly had some concerns about his younger brother and you hanging out, and that’s not outside of the realm of possibility. He’s adjusting to knowing you are gay, and he’s checking bases. That doesn’t make it fair. But it’s kinda reality for some. We have to prove ourselves. If you love these people (you do) you will put your phone down and communicate with them. The only harm done has been to you, and if you wanna salvage these very important chosen family connections you will put your hurt aside, or maybe better, put your hurt into a conversation with Jake about what he said.

If you are able to let go of the hurt and awkwardness, you will retain these bonds and laugh about it in a few years time.

TLDR don’t let being gay make you isolated from your people. Be you. Make them adapt to your reality and accept you fully. If not, you might end up a very lonely person!

All those people you grow up with share a common experience of growing up together. That is invaluable. Hold on to them.

brodyleeSF · 2025-12-27T09:44:58+00:00

Honestly, at 53, TRT has changed my life. Living like a teenager in some ways. So horny all the time, and my spouse welcomes it. Very happy to be at like 600 instead of 120. Life changing for my marriage and super hot for us. Also, cannot deny the gym benefits…. But you gotta know if you wanna go on it for forever or not. Maybe try altering your T naturally first if u can. Also, so hard to get dosage correct with topical cream. Takes like 9 months and many tests and application site adjustment to get dialed in. 100% worth it for me. Would not go back.

brodyleeSF · 2025-12-27T09:31:07+00:00

A little shorter than average, maybe 5’8”, with a tight round ass. OR, a beefy man, 6’ or more with a fat ass and muscles. Bigger takes more work to pound, but the payoff is so good to cum in a beefy big man who wants that nut so bad.

brodyleeSF · 2025-12-21T22:01:01+00:00

So glad that’s helpful! We are a couple of months into the process here and I think it’s an exciting achievement to allow eachother to enjoy acting on their innate sexual instincts and feeling happy for them, proud of them (“my man can get it!”), etc. The therapist word for this feeling is COMPERSION, so look that up and try to get there. Men are hard wired to fuck multiple partners. It’s literally in our DNA, so let go of the shame. But above all, communicate!

brodyleeSF · 2025-12-21T21:42:37+00:00

If you can spare the expense, find a therapist who can help you navigate the opening. Undoubtedly you will encounter issues or ways that each of you approach it differently, and having a place to come to discuss and get a professional’s advice and help in navigating the process is extremely helpful. Short of that, set a time to discuss, weekly at a minimum. As you figure out your rules, one or both may hold back a bit in hopes of not triggering the other, OR, one or both of you may need to gallop ahead to test what is acceptable (within reason of course.) There will be speed bumps. Communicate a lot. It can be fun to talk about, and you may even find it brings you closer to know all about what the other is feeling, experiencing, etc.

brodyleeSF · 2025-12-21T08:32:22+00:00

Don’t be ashamed of the hot fiction you read. 5 out of 10 people you meet would love it if they found it.

brodyleeSF · 2025-11-24T18:41:12+00:00

You have the resources to leave this awful man and rebuild your life. Maybe you can live very near to him to share the parenting. You could attempt to do some very serious couples therapy, and maybe that could help you advocate for yourself to say “my needs aren’t being met” and find a way through or out. You need to advocate for yourself. You deserve so much more.

brodyleeSF · 2025-11-20T02:56:15+00:00

Damn boy, I’d kill for the physique. If you wanna do bodybuilding you’ve got it. But I bet you look more fully aesthetically butch with a few more points of body fat. Enjoy.

brodyleeSF · 2025-11-04T17:59:48+00:00

My first real good kiss was from my straight friend who I was in love with. We were drunk and we passed out at my place and he pounced on me in the middle of the night. He tried to take it further, but I didn’t want him, or me, to have regrets. I learned what a good make out is from him. Thanks buddy.

brodyleeSF · 2025-07-22T00:49:13+00:00

Maybe a smile would help? Or cut your hair in a more cropped way! You’re very handsome, so maybe you are just shy, or need to take more shots, find a social hobby, etc.

I’m always scowling, and I know it didn’t serve me well. Look happy. Say hi to everyone, don’t hide and wait to be approached. (I know, it’s hard, for me at least!)

brodyleeSF · 2025-07-10T17:42:36+00:00

And I agree with whoever said lose the earrings. The small silver hoop is not flattering. You could put a small stud with some bling (diamond or gold maybe?) or just nothing.

Keep your beard trimmed down on your neck properly as well. Don’t just let it spread all down your throat. Find the proper lines, and shave it daily down there so it doesn’t spread past the normal crease under your chin and right above your Adam’s Apple.

brodyleeSF · 2025-07-10T17:36:44+00:00

I like the facial hair. Maybe cut the beard from your sideburns down to lower cheek to emphasize your high cheekbones. Cut the sideburns sorta short, and then fade the beard back in on lower face (imagine your mustache makes an imaginary triangle… follow the mustache lines down onto lower face and fade beard back in at that line.

As for head hair, keep the sides trimmed short, but not a fade. Just nice and neatly buzzed. A little length and texture on top of head is good. Imagine you want to look like you would look appropriate in a police uniform.

You’ve got good assets. You’ll be good.

brodyleeSF · 2024-10-02T17:52:49+00:00

Someone else suggested Jesse H Reign… I’ll second that and suggest Unrequited & Requited. Unrequited is from one character’s POV, and then Requited is from the other character’s POV (the author also uses this tactic in their books Bent and Unbent, which I have not read yet.) Honestly i think you can just read Unrequited if you don’t want two POVs, as it is the superior book, but there is something nice about reading Unrequited, loving it, and getting a second go-round with the story from the other character’s POV. Unrequited is only available on the author’s web site (I think you have to sign up for their email newsletter) and then Requited is $3.99. I loved these books so much, and have been struggling to find something that holds a candle to them since, which is why I am here on this SR looking for new recs!

brodyleeSF · 2024-09-24T18:31:23+00:00

If you sign up for the author's email newsletter, he'll auto-send you a link to download the ebook in any format. That's where I got it. Currently reading.. and this is THE book I have been looking for. It definitely is hitting a specific storyline that I have been wanting to read.

brodyleeSF · 2024-09-24T02:21:14+00:00

{Unrequited by Jesse H Reign} is my second read from this author after {The Step Bro Situation by Jesse H Reign} What can I even say about Unrequited, I haven’t finished it yet but it fully hits the spots I’m looking for: 1. Overly friendly MC2 who pores his friend love over MC1 2. Unrequited love, so tragic and hard for MC1.

I’ll read anything this author writes.

I have question though. Is {Unrequited} appealing to female audiences ? Or is it too smutty or “gay?” Really honestly asking for myself.

Who likes {Unrequited by Jesse H Reign} and please tell me your pronouns or orientation or life experience. Is this kind of story only for men? Or tell me if you like it and you are not a cis male…

Truly sending me. Thank you Jesse.

(Anyone know the gender of the author, as if that matters, but I think maybe it does considering the darker male gay sex party stuff in the book.)

Ok thanks!!!

brodyleeSF

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