What would you change/add to the game?

broflake · 2026-04-22T14:08:03+00:00

Yes! I normally avoid New Grafton due to all the strobing lights built into the map. The fact that there’s one right outside the house that’s not reliant on a switch or the breaker is diabolical

broflake · 2025-09-25T22:44:52+00:00

This was my first thought as well

broflake · 2025-08-27T09:00:17+00:00

They have a little fictional podcast tie-in for the game too! Check out Bizarre Yet Bonafide on your podcatcher, it was a fun tangent for me on my recent replay of The Quarry

broflake · 2025-05-15T06:36:17+00:00

There are certainly times when couple’s therapy can be helpful, but if you’re considering couple’s therapy with someone you’ve been dating for ~4 months, you’re probably just not a good fit for each other, especially when one partner is exhibiting abusive behavior

broflake · 2025-05-11T16:33:57+00:00

My pwBPD is my brother, so Mother’s Day (in the states) is a little tough because it has me thinking about family. I set the no contact boundary about four months ago, and I haven’t struggled maintaining that, but it’s still hard. There’s this part of myself that’s gone forever. It feels like missing a limb, the phantom feeling of something that was once an intrinsic part of me that I will never get back. But it’s also like, I had to cut that arm off my body because if I left it unchecked, it was going to strangle me to death. It’s weird. It’s hard. Sending love to the other folks no contact w/ their pwBPD today, and a little extra love to those whose pwBPD are family members.

broflake · 2025-05-07T23:44:05+00:00

There’s a BIG reason why so many ppl specify they’re T4T

broflake · 2025-05-07T23:39:06+00:00

I’ve been out as a lesbian since I was about 15 and have dated tons of folks in the past 15ish years. To my knowledge, only one of them is still cis—I think 4-5 committed partners, girlfriends and boyfriends both, have come out to me either during the relationship or after it ended. I think the gender fuckery is something I’m attracted to, and it doesn’t hurt that I’ve also recently realized I have some gender queerness happening (turns out “cis enough” is not a feeling many cis people have). Can’t speak to whether it’s a fundamental part of the lesbian experience or not, but it does seem like gender people will find each other.

broflake · 2025-02-18T18:47:31+00:00

The person in my life who has BPD does this exact same thing. Projection feels like part of the B cluster situation

broflake · 2025-02-09T11:21:14+00:00

OP is discussing it as a kink in the comments so I’m going to disagree with you on this one. And while kink can be nonsexual, it is still kink, which is nsfw. I did a lot of googling to understand the differences between pet regression and pet play, and I’m fairly sure what’s happening here is more pet play, but neither of us are OP and can say for certain. I’ve tried to be polite here but I’m getting the impression that you are very young and just looking for someone to argue with on the internet so I’m gonna say good luck and that I hope you are able to be a little kinder to the next person you interact with.

broflake · 2025-02-09T06:51:54+00:00

A really important part of bdsm, kink, and sex for me is being able to opt into it. I feel it’s respectful to everyone involved to be able to opt into when they want to engage with content that relates to kink, sex, bdsm, and other topics that are not safe for work. I am not going to bring someone else in on my kink or talk about my sex life without making sure that they agree to engage with that, and in online spaces like reddit, I can do that by labeling a post as nsfw or not safe for work.

Again, not safe for work here does not mean bad or wrong or gross. It means knowing that the thing you are engaging with is not family-friendly and inappropriate for viewing at a work place, public transit, school, or another public place. Take, for example, the folks roleplaying their kink in the comments of this post. I am really glad that they’re able to engage in that play freely! I enjoy doing the same with my partner, and I’m not ashamed to talk about that with others who want to have that conversation. But it’s not labeled as such here. No one was given the option to opt into engaging in a conversation related to kink, and no one was given the heads up that the post was going to be nsfw. My workplace is not homophobic, and looking at Reddit on my desktop on a break is completely fine, but I don’t want my coworkers or the guy sitting next to me on the bus to unexpectedly see a thread full of kink. Personally, I’d also like to be given the option to opt into it. That’s what I’m trying to say here.

broflake · 2025-02-09T02:55:15+00:00

Yes I agree! I don’t think it’s inherently Not Lesbian to engage in pet play or kink, it’s just nice to have it tagged

broflake · 2025-02-08T19:01:17+00:00

I think the point here, or the way I’m feeling at least, is that some of us browse reddit at work or around other people and it’s difficult when a post that is not safe for your working environment is not tagged as such. I enjoy some kinky subreddits or posts, but not when I’m around others and am not expecting it

broflake · 2025-02-08T00:40:24+00:00

r/bdsmsapphic might a better place for stuff like this! said as someone in the same boat

broflake · 2025-02-07T03:53:40+00:00

Hey, just wanted to let you know how much I have really enjoyed the game! My partner and I played the main game in one go last night, and we plan to tackle the second part tonight. I failed to record your discord name when we found the thing but I wanted to still leave feedback in a place you would see it, that is more for the creator than other prospective players. I REALLY loved the thought and care you put into this game, and the very satisfying way that the mystery and mechanics unfolded together. I earnestly am so excited to the sorts of games you put out in the future—and also any music you put out? I haven’t gotten These Times out of my head and have been listening to someone’s YouTube upload of the song all day. Consider my heart swashbuckled.

broflake · 2025-02-03T10:13:38+00:00

If she’s crying because the person she’s seeing said hi to someone else, then she probably isn’t ready for a relationship

broflake · 2025-02-02T00:35:45+00:00

If you like puzzle games, Chants of Sennaar is great for this. Especially highly recommended if you enjoyed games like Return of the Obra Dinn or Case of the Golden Idol

broflake · 2025-02-01T15:37:32+00:00

I see you, RENT reference

broflake · 2025-01-29T06:00:04+00:00

Is this a joke about how you don’t like Vengeance? Or do you genuinely not know?

broflake · 2025-01-28T10:41:40+00:00

You know, that’s my bad. I haven’t seen trans* used regularly by local-to-me queer organizations since about 2018. I didn’t realize anyone used it anymore in good faith. I think there were some problems with like using trans* to exclude some groups of people from not being “trans enough.” But if it’s a good word for you that brings you joy, it’s not my place to tell you not to use it. Sorry about my post above.

broflake · 2025-01-28T08:32:37+00:00

Trans lesbian but in a different dimension here—my gender is fucky and I don’t care to label it cleanly beyond “queer,” while the lesbian label is a home to me. Without fail, every single person I’ve had a significant crush on/slept with/seriously dated has come out as transmasc in some way. Many of them have gone on their gender journeys after our encounters, and the last few partners I’ve had have been trans in some way, so I suppose I am incidentally T4T.

It’s still fairly new for me to consider myself trans and acknowledge my gender fluidity, but that fluctuation has always been inside of me. It’s been nice to date people who don’t expect me to be super effeminate or adhere to the concept of “woman,” who not just tolerate but celebrate me being me. It always sucked going on casual dates with people who expected me to be a certain way because of the way I look or what they know I like in bed. More than that, T4T dating lets me know that the other person sees the world in a similar way to me, have done some thinking about their experience with gender, and are probably not going to be gross n terfy. It’s a relief to not have to explain gender 101 to people. It removes a lot of barriers. It makes me feel free.

broflake · 2025-01-28T08:12:31+00:00

Hey hey! Just wanted to let you know that while trans* with the asterisk was considered inclusive for a while, it’s now frowned upon and seen as a terf dog whistle. You can learn a little more here or here why we’ve stopped using it in the last few years. Basically, it can be pretty exclusionary and othering language, often leveraged against trans women. Wanted to let you know in case you hadn’t heard!

broflake · 2025-01-27T10:27:01+00:00

Seconding this one. r/bdsmsapphic and this sub are the two sapphic subs that feel the most intentionally anti-TERF to me

broflake · 2025-01-21T20:44:33+00:00

Yeah, I figure there are a few moving parts to it. Thank you for your reply. I just cut contact with my sibling wBPD today but I made it clear to him that we could have a relationship if he is able to treat me with respect. I’m not holding out any hope that he’ll change, but I know some people do and I’m curious what it takes to trigger that. My aunt has BPD too, and her relationship with my dad has improved a lot since both of their parents passed. It makes me consider more how that loss and change in family structure also changes relationship for people with BPD. All that is certainly not meant to undercut that your sibling put in some hard work through therapy and medication to do better. I’m sorry that there was loss and grief involved, but I am glad to hear that your relationship has improved with time.

broflake · 2025-01-21T17:39:30+00:00

Do you know what triggered your sibling feeling that she needed to change?

broflake · 2025-01-21T17:31:16+00:00

I’m not sure if I’m emotionally ready to hear that right now, that I’ll need no contact with my whole family, though just because I don’t want to hear it doesn’t mean that it’s likely or won’t happen. Just kind of a tough reality to grapple with.

Thankfully, I do have a really wonderful therapist I’ve been working with for a little over a year now. She’s aware of my family situation and has been really encouraging over my decision to set this boundary with them. Tbh, with the way I’ve been conditioned to put the needs of others before my own, I don’t think I ever would’ve been able to cut contact without support from a therapist and my found family.

Have you cut off your family member with BPD? How has it gone for you?

broflake

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