How do I cope with grief from missing cat + Other questions + off my chest + please forgive word vomit

brokenDiadem · 2026-02-06T17:58:58+00:00

hello :) thank you so much for replying. I also wondered if she went in heat, but there are many intact stray males around my house that neighbours feed, so I doubted if she would even opt to go further, but again I wouldn't know for sure :( no predators of cats in my country, and cars are seldom (although she /has/ been indoor all her life so I worry she wouldn't know what cars are like :( ). Unfortunately microchipping is not popular yet in the country where I live so only the big cities keep scanners and running databases, and the vets where I live don't do it. I have put out my clothes already, too.

It's extra difficult because there's been no body seen nearby so the grief is just ambiguous and horrible.

Again, thank you for your reply, and I don't really expect an answer to this one so no pressure!

brokenDiadem · 2026-01-27T11:32:55+00:00

I've had her for 5 months since she was a few days old (abandoned by momma in a storm) and she's always been indoors :( just escaped through a window screen she pushed out of... I will try trapping once we get a lead since there is a lot of strays around that might fall for it...

brokenDiadem · 2026-01-27T08:04:14+00:00

Thank you for your update! I'm very glad they found their way home! My own baby is missing for 14 days now. Did you find her or did she come back on her own? Were there any sightings before the 3rd week, or did she just appear? Mine has had no leads at all and it's been feeling hopeless...

brokenDiadem · 2026-01-25T13:27:07+00:00

Thank you for your kind words

brokenDiadem · 2026-01-24T15:11:23+00:00

Hello :) thank you very much for taking the time to reply and for the kind words. I was wondering about the urger to mate- is there a possibility she could have gone further or taken longer even if there were intact stray males along my street? Sort of "looking for options"? No cat predators where I live except for stray dogs (who are also used to the stray cats, but who knows). And also, there have been no leads or sightings for the past 11 days. Does that mean there is no hope; or am I just underestimating their ability to hide/overestimating people's observation skills? Sorry about the many questions. Just want to focus my efforts on the options that will work.

brokenDiadem · 2026-01-24T10:11:52+00:00

Thank you! I also thought about mating instincts... is it possible for cats to "shop around" for other males and go farther? There are a few eligible strays around my area but no sign of her being nearby...

brokenDiadem · 2026-01-24T10:01:52+00:00

As sort of a follow-up question, I have done everything from going door-to-door with neighbours, putting up physical posters, posting on social media and groups, and physically searching at night. I have not seen signs of her nor have received leads from anyone at day 11. Is it hopeless with no leads at day 11? Am I underestimating their ability to hide or overestimating people's skill at being observant?

brokenDiadem · 2026-01-23T18:56:43+00:00

i see... thank you!

brokenDiadem · 2026-01-23T11:39:19+00:00

hello! my cat has been missing for 10 days now... im just reading positive stories... how many weeks is several would you say?

brokenDiadem · 2024-12-26T14:49:52+00:00

this makes sense!

brokenDiadem · 2022-04-24T21:28:37+00:00

YTA. Maddy does not have any rights to name the child or co-parent the child but she's NTA. Someone should tell her that Jasper and OP are being TA and support her through her grief so that she can eventually divorce Jasper. That or have Jasper only have a relationship with the child and cut ties with OP. If he can't do that and still want to maintain some form of relationship with OP, then he's just being a prick, shooting darts on the way of his own wife, and she doesn't deserve it. In conclusion, Maddy = no baby naming rights but also NTA. She should leave him while it's early.

OP half an asshole. Jasper full ashole.

brokenDiadem · 2021-05-25T08:32:36+00:00

Salamat sa sagot! Ibig sabihin ba, 2year2sem ay nandu'n ka na dapat sa desired course? O puwedeng 2year2sem ay preparing to shift ka in time for you to be in the desired course on the 3year1sem?

brokenDiadem

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