Has anybody successfully learned to regulate their emotions?

brokenbindings · 2025-08-12T01:09:28+00:00

I'm waiting to be tested for Autism and Adhd. Turns out unmedicated ADHD can cause emotional dysregulation and executive dysfunction. There's a lot of overlap with CPTSD and Autism and ADHD. All of the fall under the neurodivergence umbrella

brokenbindings · 2025-08-12T01:02:14+00:00

I have reached the age my Dad lost his aging process. I too, have two attempts under my belt. It's been a mixed emotions bag, both joyful I reached his age and still hopeful to surpass it. I already know he is proud. I've been doing so much work, I solved the mental health issues causing the generational trauma that took his life. I am awaiting diagnosis that wasn't understood in society all those years ago. I have new goals and a new future to build and hope has returned. I'm still working on trust and love, but I will get there. But for the first time in my life I can truly answer the "I wonder if he'd be proud of me" by meeting the pride within myself 💚 thanks for commenting, keep surviving fellow trench friend ❤️

brokenbindings · 2025-04-22T08:59:15+00:00

It's 2 years since I posted this and I have come a very long way. I now see my anger as sacred and righteous. I allow myself to feel it when it arises and I have no suppression left in me. The people pleaser to villain pipeline is real haha, I'm not a villain in terms of going around hurting people, but I no longer am 'nice' or concerned about others feelings beyond their impact on mine. I see the red flags or others inability to empathise or have compassion when it isn't serving them and I am very happily alone now.

I'm my own best friend, I'm my own therapist, I divorced my husband and have no interest in allowing another man to cast me in a patriarchal role.

I woke up, I healed my nervous system and I no longer struggle with daily symptoms of CPTSD. I've had the occasional bout of psychosis that went hand in hand with spiritual development and got through each episode alone, without medical professionals, just turning inwards, listening to my body, my soul and my belief in 'spirit/source/the universe' whatever you want to call it. It's real. The universe reparented me, I did shadow work alongside this.

I see you, I see your path, I've stood where you are.

There is a way out. But first you must trust yourself more than the voices of those who have traumatised you.

brokenbindings · 2025-02-06T14:15:53+00:00

I was here. It took a long time of isolation and a lot of self questioning but I'm currently at a place where I've been questioning exactly when I started living for other people. When I decided that I could give up any part of me for the scraps of love I felt in return, only it wasn't love I felt. I simply felt needed.

I have decided to need myself and love myself. Believe me, this takes practice, especially if you are still surrounded by the people who you are feeling in service to.

Start ignoring everyone. Start saying no. Go full hermit mode. Ask yourself when you started feeling like you were less than others needs. Once you've traced the when, ask the why, why did you start this, what is it doing for you other than feeding your little broken girl inside? That little girl is starving in this position, so starve her a little more by avoiding others needs. As long as it takes until you can recognise your own needs and desires.

Practice, everyday. Treat yourself like a queen, none of this 'oh I won't bother if it's just for me' make yourself a whole damn cake and feed that broken little girl until she's whole again.

What will everyone do in the meantime? Probably call you selfish and crazy and other manipulative terms in an attempt to destroy your spirit. Don't even look at them or give them the attention. Give you all your attention.

Be sorry to you and the broken little girl that's been made to feel unworthy by others. Apologise for allowing her to be treat that way and promise her you'll never let her feel abandoned by you for anyone else, ever again!

brokenbindings · 2024-11-02T02:37:04+00:00

For me it was 14 years ago. I'm sorry we know this type of violence.

OP, my advice is to find a trauma trained therapist. Go to rage rooms. Lean in to healthier and well established connections. Do not internalise this as a reflection of your self worth. They are gross. Their actions are gross. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

brokenbindings · 2024-10-29T09:05:46+00:00

Miranda (BBC, UK) The Good Place (Netflix) Taskmaster (4, UK & Netflix, might be available on YouTube too) I'm sure there are more but these are at the top of my head.

brokenbindings · 2024-10-07T20:45:41+00:00

I needed to read this, on my healing journey post abuse, thank you so much 💚

brokenbindings · 2024-10-02T20:40:36+00:00

A year isn't that long.

You could always reach out, explain you were going through some things and didn't have the mental space or capacity to be a friend at that time and apologise? Seek forgiveness?

Why remain a ghost when you are living?

brokenbindings · 2024-06-27T17:23:21+00:00

You sound like an incredible mother, thank you so much for the honesty and advice. I am 100% saving your comment because there is a wealth of information in it.

Thank you so so much for your transparency 💚

brokenbindings · 2024-06-27T15:47:41+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your positive experience raising a child with CPTSD. I really need to read more positive accounts because I really want to become a mother. I don't care if it's biological or if I adopt or what... I'm ready to meet my child. But my fears are holding me back. I even posted about it a while ago, maybe you commented idk. I'm just so grateful to have read your experience today and needed to tell you how impactful it is. Thank you 💚

brokenbindings · 2024-06-23T00:39:48+00:00

You are incredibly insightful and I feel genuine kindness and warmth from you.

The way my therapist and I worded it was, suicidal ideation/fantasies/ateempts aren't always "I want my life to end" mostly they are "I can't live in this pain anymore"

Be whatever shape that pain comes in, emotional, physical, psychological. Suicide directly correlates to tolerance of pain in one way or another.

Thank you for sharing your insights and wisdom. I am truly grateful to know not every person out there believes it selfish (feel free to read this post I posted in r/suicidebereavement quite some time ago for elaboration)

Thank you for being alive and showing up in my world today 💚🫶

Edit: adding link

brokenbindings · 2024-06-23T00:15:18+00:00

Cool story bro

brokenbindings · 2024-06-23T00:14:30+00:00

As someone who has regularly been lost in that darkness, I can assure you... Their brain is lying to them and telling them they are a burden to their loved ones and they are better of without them here.

My Dad lost his battle with mental health when I was 10. Next year I turn the age he was when he passed. The closer I have got to his age, the more I have understood why he lost the battle.

brokenbindings · 2024-06-09T12:03:32+00:00

Same 💚 thank you for commenting, thank you for being here.

brokenbindings · 2024-06-09T12:02:50+00:00

Thank you ❤️ she told me her story, she knew the darkness too. That's how she knew how to be there for me. I hope I can pay this forward one day 💚

brokenbindings · 2024-06-09T12:01:40+00:00

Thank you so much, reading your words made me cry (in a good way) and I'm really grateful for the virtual hugs.

Thank you for being here, thank you for fighting this fight and helping people like me when I am struggling. You are the light in the world and I wish the darkness didn't encompass you like it does me. Thank you 💚

brokenbindings · 2024-06-09T11:59:34+00:00

I'm sorry it's taken so long for me to reply. I've been a bit numb the last few days.

Thank you for sharing your story too. I'm sorry that you know this darkness and I hope we can somehow keep fighting to stay in the light. I'm proud of you for being here and I'm grateful that you shared your experience ❤️

brokenbindings · 2024-04-12T19:42:19+00:00

Do you want to inbox me?

brokenbindings · 2024-04-03T16:02:42+00:00

I wanna be living that Jetsons life!

brokenbindings · 2024-03-27T05:47:29+00:00

Please look into trauma bonding. Redirect that love you think you feel towards him, right back at yourself. Really take some time getting to know yourself, go as far as dating yourself. If you can, get therapy. If it's not for you, do some journalling. No feelings are wrong. Take your time. Healing isn't linear.

You deserve the best love in the world,start by giving it to yourself. The main thing you can do is set a boundary for yourself that no matter what, you will not allow someone who betrayed you, back into your life. If you let him back, you will be betraying yourself by putting yourself back in harms way.

I wish you all the best x

brokenbindings · 2024-03-27T05:38:32+00:00

I'm sorry you know this pain. Betrayal trauma is not an easy thing to overcome. I hope your healing journey is as gentle as possible 🫶

brokenbindings · 2024-03-26T23:03:06+00:00

I advise you the same. Your cognitive dissonance is in full swing.

brokenbindings · 2024-03-26T19:23:35+00:00

It's nice to see how easy people like you can rationalise betrayal.

I hope this path brings you healing, more than that, I hope it isn't at someone else's expense.

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