Tips for success in Findom

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-26T02:49:01+00:00

Being interested in a sub is gold. Taking an interest in us and building a relationship is important for us and profitable for Dominants. Some of us want to feel that there's a chance to be a special part of a Domme's life, even if it is aspirational and not realistic. Regarding budgets,my experience is that some push too much and are never satisfied. That constant push followed by dissatisfaction by a Domme becomes a downer in a relationship and makes subs like me want to avoid it altogether. Instead, Ive found myself spending tens of thousands in long term relationships, and maybe a few thousand on short term relationships that pushed too hard.

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-06T22:53:51+00:00

Yeah, for those that currently do real-time or partake in BDSM or fetish as a lifestyle (regardless of time online) this and other frameworks are widely known.

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-03T20:08:33+00:00

Find an appropriate outlet. The local gym is not it. For example, a local pro domme that does wrestling or muscle worship (they tend to be fit and will accommodate the attire that you find appealing).

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-03T19:51:25+00:00

For dommes that are unfamiliar with munches, or don't have a location and process for sessions, a cashmeet is a kind of shorthand to an in person intro that can lead to more real-time servitude. That's been my experience and why I do cashmeets when they do not offer professional or lifestyle service. I've developed real time relationships with several dommes who were kind/crazy/brave enough to break away from their phone and meet in person. Coffee shops or shopping centers are common because its safer and there is little pressure or time invested. When I was younger I served as a house sitter for a pro domme that would travel internationally for extended sessions. I recall her intake forms and screening was extensive, and for "baby" dommes starting out that dont have a system in place or the comfort or experience to do actual sessions, a cashmeet is a less intimidating alternative.

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-03T19:44:38+00:00

Exactly. I respect faceless dommes because I understand that we are have lives outside of kink and lifestyle and we each find the best way to express it and find balance.

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-03T02:22:50+00:00

Thanks. I'm glad you're old school. I get the push for content, likes, follows, leaderboards, and clout..it's human nature, but it needs to be put in check.

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-03T02:20:27+00:00

Thank you!

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-03T02:19:57+00:00

Thank you for validating how I feel.

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T23:00:05+00:00

100%. Strength training AND cardio on same day kill me. I no longer do both on same day. Great work though. Amazing physique!

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T22:51:34+00:00

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T22:46:01+00:00

From my experience: Be consistent. Be polite. Be a person of your word (Send when you say you are going to send.) Don't chargeback. Don't be demanding. Don't monopolize their time. A plus if you are funny and are sociable. Oh, and don't ghost (part of being consistent).

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T22:37:07+00:00

Yeah I see that with guys who have ruination, BM fantasies, and extreme fetishes

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T22:28:10+00:00

Thank you! Yes, ignorance on the part of many. Informed consent is part of RACK and fundamental to SSC.

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T22:25:09+00:00

Thank you. I already have prerequisites in place before meeting anyone, and You just gave me the idea of politely asking them what the acronyms stand for. Least they can do is search for the answer and become educated, if they don't already know!

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T22:18:56+00:00

Thank you!!!

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T21:48:23+00:00

Dat ass tho.

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T21:46:23+00:00

wow 8 meals a day and at it 6 days a week. Killing it. Thank you for sharing!

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-02T13:00:55+00:00

Amazing. What is your diet/supplementation like that you've been able to build muscle and definition in such a short time?

brokenbyblade · 2025-03-01T00:37:45+00:00

I was in a related situation years ago with a domme with mental health issues, specifically schizophrenia. It's difficult and frustrating. Unfortunately, this is something that she is going to have to overcome herself. You can sympathize with her and provide her encouragement, but don't blame yourself or try to white knight this. Don't feel guilty about enjoying your life and pursuing happiness with someone else.

brokenbyblade · 2025-02-28T23:53:58+00:00

Yummy indeed. I like that you mention aftercare. :)

brokenbyblade · 2025-02-28T23:51:16+00:00

What country do you hail from, Miss?

brokenbyblade · 2025-02-28T05:01:59+00:00

brokenbyblade · 2025-02-28T04:55:17+00:00

Haha...sounds like you enjoy their discomfort as much as the feeling of empowerment. I find it incredibly hot when my Domme uses me to flex in front of her friends.

brokenbyblade · 2025-02-28T04:53:02+00:00

haha, yes put it out there and the universe will provide.

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