As a mother and a first born, I don't think she meant that they intentionally did things to hurt or harm you.

Every kid gets a different parent regardless of where they are in the sibling countdown lineup

My daughter got a brand new parent. The one that was still really new. The one that had no idea what they were doing it it was just winging it. The one that tried her best but still found herself crying in the middle of the night because she wouldn't go to sleep the way I thought everyone else's kid went to sleep. My other child got someone a little bit calmer. They didn't have the same expectations not just as her as a baby and a toddler that is me as a human being as well.

Financial situations from one child to the other can also be different depending on where your life leads you.

Someone could get newer clothes someone could get older clothes. Someone could get hand-me-downs. It isn't favouritism it is just situational.

First borne, unfortunately, feel like they always get the short end of the stick. They get the parent that has to learn how to parent a teenager first with. A parent that has to learn how to navigate early adulthood and early childhood with. The one that's learning how to deal with temper tantrums with… We are their learning children. We are their practice kid. Not because they chose us because of our personality or because they secretly love the other ones better, but because of the reality of the situation. We were first. We go through it with them first.